Hi guys, this is the second part of "common mistakes singles make in a relationship". If you haven't read the part1 yet, check my wall. I hope you read meaning to it.
Confusion-Lack of direction
It is a known fact that most of singles these days do not really know what they want. They can hardly identify their own. They do not know how to score goals, when to score the goal and who to partner in scoring the goal. They are all swimming in confusions. Some singles of our time are specialists in dating married men and women just because of money. Yet they are still having young singles around them on the promise for marriage, why are you mixing old and new wine together, who is going to drink it? If eventually the bottle breaks, who is going to be at loss? Are you not in confusion? How can you have two captains in a ship? Can one person serve two masters at the same time? Can you be a medical doctor as well as a practicing lawyer?
Are you not confusing yourself? Watch out for your thought, for your thought is your character, and your character is your habit, and your habit is your destiny. By the time your thought confuses you and you serve two masters at the same time, after the discovery you may miss them both and you will be at the receiving end. Be careful!
Recently I was in a seminar as a guest speaker. After my lecture on relationship, a young man walked to me for counseling, that he is having affair with an older and a married woman for about seven years. That this woman trained even trained him throughout his University with her money, that it is after the school he then discovered both of them can not get married to each other. He then went on to his hometown to look for a young girl for marriage. After the introduction, a date was fixed for wedding, wedding card was out. All these things were happening without the notice of the sponsor, (the woman). It was in the process of distributing the invitation cards that the woman got to see that card in a hair dressing salon where she came to make her. The woman was shockee, confused and angry. Before you know it, she was in police station to order the arrest of the young man in order to recover her possession, and this young man was as poor as could be imagined. He said after everything he served 3 years in prison and missed the young lady he printed invitation card to marry; what a frustration because of that confusion. Be careful and take correction, and never let your economic situation - financial state of your family to direct your actions by doing what you might not have necessarily done.
Balanced Equation
One of the universal moral norms in social relation is the norm of reciprocality. Psychology makes us to understand that, in every social interaction there must be concept of giving at an equitable Leve, this concept reminds us to balance giving and receiving at equitable level in social relation.
Most of our singles who feel they are running out of time or because they will not like to break the heart of their fiancee, takes every expenses on their head to ensure the relationship is intact. Some of the singles even rent apartment for their friend, make their partner to be fashionable with the lastest styles. My friend: you may progressing in error. That your dependent and demanding fiancee, may be keeping you because of your fat bank account, your business that is scattered all over all over town the country etc. The day you loose your job and all your money, I am afraid you may lose your fiancee too. So don't overspend to keep relationship. Allow your spouse to contribute too, because people will always do well if they are part of decision making that will lead to their achievement in life.
Confirmation
Testing each other is one of the criteria to be satisfied while in a relationship these days. If you are in a relationship and there is no testing, it will be regarded as mere friendship that can separate any time any day. Many people at the process of this confirmation will lose their pride-virginity. The more they undergo the test, the higher the level of their depreciation in value. By the time you rubbish the glorious parts of your body to a partner that may not eventually get married to you, the higher you risk with your marital destiny. Singles can be moved by sight but if the harvest of what they see is contrary, they will reconsider their earlier position.
You cannot imagine, allowing someone that will not marry you to tap all your richness or nutrients to remain the chaff for your destined husband or wife. How will you feel if this person you are dating now test you and drop you again? Be warned!
Do not permit testing or proof before marriage, if he/she loves you as claimed, let them abstain till the wedding night. If they insist, they do not love you, remember you may fail the test. I'm afraid this may be the reasons some married people go out or have a date with someone else. Therefore, to alert the future breaking of home, you must endeavor to maintain your dignity.
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Most of our singles who feel they are running out of time or because they will not like to break the heart of their fiancee, takes every expenses on their head to ensure the relationship is intact. Some of the singles even rent apartment for their friend, make their partner to be fashionable with the lastest styles. My friend: you may progressing in error. That your dependent and demanding fiancee, may be keeping you because of your fat bank account, your business that is scattered all over all over town the country etc. The day you loose your job and all your money, I am afraid you may lose your fiancee too