After breakup

What to do after breakup.

Disclaimer: There are few types of breakups. But the most popular cause is because one of the partner cheating. So yea we're discussing about the victim.

If your relationship didn't work out because of more serious thing, this thread may and may not help. Depends.

Let's start.

First of all, let yourself be sad. Cry as much as you want. You need it. But remember, it's not the end of everything. Listen to sad songs. Cry yourself to sleep.

But a trick is, your ex partner don't have to know.

For the first few days, it's okay to mourn. It's completely fine. You're not crying and mourning because you're stupid. You've given your all. You just loved too much. So, it's okay. Take your time.

However, don't do stupid things.

In order to heal, don't add more pain. Don't hurt yourself in the process. You've hurt enough. No matter how much you want to, don't. Trust me, things will get better. This is not the end. Well, your ex is being happy with someone else. You don't deserve more pain. Okay?

This is crucial, but a lot of people do this. You don't have to question anything anymore. You don't have to put all the blame on you. Stop questioning which part is not enough. You've done well. This is not your loss. Don't let your feelings fool you.

Avoid screenshot your convos. Then and now yada yada. From this to that blabla. You can't stop people from talking. Some people understand, some people don't. Like I said before, you don't deserve more pain. There's no point showing the world how failed your relationship is.

And when you feel slightly better, and gained a little strength, take a deep breathe. It's time to let go. It's time to move on. Slowly but surely. To move on, you need to start to take care of yourself. I'm talking about self love.

Enough with mourning. Shed your tears. Look into the mirror. You look so messed up didn't you? Start with a proper shower. Wear beautiful clothes. Spray some mist. For girls, put some makeup on. For guys, style your hair. Feel good about yourself.

Go somewhere. Show yourself to the world, this is new you. Pamper yourself. Eat good food. Buy new things. Whatever makes you happy. Take pictures.

Yes, you deserve to be happy again.

Do what makes you feel good about yourself. If you love singing, then sing your heart out. If you love dancing, dance. If you love drawing, what are you doing now? Get your sketchbook. Draw.

The key is, your starting point. The moment you restart a new chapter of your life, no one can hurt you anymore. You're strong. You're beautiful. You worth so much more. So keep moving forward.

You can do this.