The worst lies are the wedding vows.

Often time when we go out there to be with our family members, friends and well-wishers who invited us to celebrate with them during their wedding occasions, we dance, drink wine, eat  and even exchange wedding gifts and money with them in appreciation for the next level of life they have decided to walk into as married couples.

During this period, the bride and the groom makes marriage vows to each other as a word of bond and love to each other in marriage, different religions have their ways of saying their vows during marriages. Most atimes the couples who are about to wed, go  through marriage courses and classes just to learn how to recite the wedding vows to each other before the wedding day.

Before I continue my story, I will explain in brief what a wedding vow is, I did research online about wedding vows and how various religions in the world say their own vows during wedding ceremonies and when I came across this particular article by Allyson Dickman posted on bride.com I told myself I will have to share it here so that you will have an in-dept knowledge about wedding vows and also understand what I am about to discuss in this topic I have for you which captions; The worst lies are the wedding vows.

According to Allyson Dickman, he posted an article titled "17 Traditional Wedding Vows to Inspire Your Own" and he said that wedding vows are meaningful and personal part of a wedding ceremony. They provide the contractual (both formal and informal) basis that will guide the newlyweds through their shared life together and set the tone for what is to come. While there are many creative variations of the lifelong promises, some couples prefer to recite powerful, centuries-old wedding vows from many different faiths and cultures. These tried-and-true words set a strong foundation for a lifetime of unity and marital bliss together. " and he said that wedding vows are meaningful and personal part of a wedding ceremony. They provide the contractual (both formal and informal) basis that will guide the newlyweds through their shared life together and set the tone for what is to come. While there are many creative variations of the lifelong promises, some couples prefer to recite powerful, centuries-old wedding vows from many different faiths and cultures. These tried-and-true words set a strong foundation for a lifetime of unity and marital bliss together. Source

In his article also he listed 17 Traditional Wedding Vows of various religions, churches and traditions ranging from the Jews, Hindu, Muslim, Traditional Protestants, Methodist Wedding Vows, Lutheran Wedding Vows, Baptist Wedding Vows, Presbyterian Wedding Vows, Catholic Wedding Vows, Episcopalian Wedding Vows, Quaker Wedding Vows, Apache Wedding Vows, Cherokee Wedding Vows, Buddhist Wedding Vows, Unitarian Wedding Vows, Interfaith Wedding Vows, Non-Denominational Wedding Vows, etc he tried to explain them so as to share with us the various words of vow of the ancient used as a strong foundation in which a marriage can be built upon. Source

NOW MY TOPIC (The worst lies are the wedding vows.)

Well this is my personal opinion and observations. I have witnessed so many weddings while I was growing up as a child and even now in my adulthood, I have come to realise that it's only at the wedding  ceremony day the couples feel the effect of this said wedding vows to each other through the cheers and shout of joy applauded to them by the people that came to witness their marriage ceremony during exchange of marital vows, after the wedding vows have been exchanged by the couples and the wedding ceremony concluded and done with, does the marriage vow stand to the test of time? Do couples keep to their wedding vows made to each other? Or do they just literarily crammed and recited the vow to each other just for formality seek?

If you seek for my thought on this, I will say from the experience and observations I have lived to see as an adult, a lot of marriages if not all have failed to keep to this vows and promises made at their wedding days, there are lots of infidelity, disrespect, cheating, fightings, disagreement, divorce, heartbreaks, disappointments, etc been seen amongst these people that promised and made vow to each other during their wedding days thereby breaking it every minute of the day with all these mentioned above.

In some cases you will see some married couples making statements that will baffle you and make you feel as if you are in a dream world, statements like, "I regret ever marrying you, you are the worst mistake I have ever made in my life, you are a devil incarnate, you have finished my life," etc and you begin to wonder and ask yourself if these couples saying these were not the same people that went to the altar of love to promise and made vow to each other.

Most married couples thought that the most important day of their marriage is just that day they exchange their wedding vows to each other, but I tell you this, the most important day of your marriage is that everyday of your marriage life with your spouse after your wedding day. Because of these mistakes of taking for granted the vows made to each other a lot of marriages have been shattered and separated apart.

Don't you know that vows are meant to be kept not to be recited only?. The foundation of every marriage lies in the upholding and keeping to the promises and vows made to each other at the altar of God.

I believe why marriages fail is solely on the issue of not holding unto the marrital vows made to each other, not taking the words used in those wedding vows serious and also not putting the words in use by the couples involved.

If we keep taking for granted and unserious these wedding vows and promises we made to each other as couples during our wedding days as we live together in our marriage lives, then we are directly and indirectly making the wedding vows the worst lies ever.

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