Never believed you could treat me this way!

Crying and shouting at the top of her voice she said, "I never believed you could treat me this way after all we shared together as lovers."

I was so touched by the way she was crying bitterly by the road side and I asked myself what could have happened that made her lament and cry uncontrollably!

So I decided to share this piece of information with us to really explain to us the rationale why we see such situations happen almost everyday of our lives. Do you know that a lot of people around the world today in one way or the other have found themselves in this type of situation? and this does not happen to a particular gender rather, it can happen to anybody male or female in a love relationship or in ordinary relationship.

Often times we encounter this statement "Never believed you could treat me this way!" In our daily activities with one another, colleagues, business associates, friends and even family members, etc, but due to the present condition of the young woman that I saw crying so bitterly today as I was coming back from work, I want to use her story as a point for discuss.

I tell you that no relationship attain a future union if all the works and energy In the relationship between the persons involved is one sided. For a relationship to survive, the parties involved are expected to put all effort together not just by saying the word "I LOVE YOU" for saying sake, rather there must be equal actions and work put together to achieve the success.

I will have to share with you some of the factors one should be looking out for to really have a successful future union together in marriage with their spouse. Please before I continue I will like to let you know that I am not a doctor or marriage counselor, In case you decide to pinch me for some marriage advice. I am just expressing my opinions and my personal experiences to you hahahaha.

Some of these factors includes;

Proper communication/attention

Show appreciation at all times

Make corrections when necessary/ caution with love.

Learn to acknowledge your faults and apologize when necessary

Kill the spirit of entitlement

Support each others dreams and aspirations.

Never allow superiority complex to set in.

Always stay faithful to each other.

Never give room for gossips and third party ill suggestions/advices

Learn to always love each other.

Let me explain these factors so that you will have clearer understanding of the topic and learn to fix some of the issues that can cause one to feel heartbroken and disappointed during relationship.

1. PROPER COMMUNICATION/ATTENTION

A lot of relationships have setbacks due to lack of proper and adequate communication from the two parties involved and this has really affected many relationships and prevent it from moving to a future union i.e marriage. Always discuss your issues together,  You may not understand the effect of this factor in a relationship until you find yourself in it.

2. SHOW APPRECIATION AT ALL TIMES

Most at times you see some loved ones not having the ability to appreciate one another, when you see your loved one looking special, dressed in a gorgeous outfit and looking beautiful, compliment her and tell her sweet words, call her sweet names, etc. I tell you it goes a long way to make her heart want you more. Same is applicable to the men.

3. MAKE CORRECTIONS WHEN NECESSARY/ CAUTION WITH LOVE.

Learn to correct mistakes when it's necessary, avoid piling up mistakes made by your partner in your heart without finding a way to correct him/her with love. Always remember that nobody is above mistake in this life.

4. LEARN TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR FAULT AND APOLOGIZE WHEN NECESSARY.

When ever you offend your partner, don't wait to be begged to say that you are sorry, always make it a point of duty to always apologize whenever you offend your partner. Most relationships have been dissolved because of inability to say sorry when you offend your partner.

5. KILL THE SPIRIT OF ENTITLEMENT.

This is where a lot of persons who find themselves in a relationship misunderstand the whole thing. Your partner does not own you any entitlement whatsoever. You too deserve the equal amount of respect and care. Do not see yourself as more important than the other person.

6. SUPPORT EACH OTHERS DREAMS AND ASPIRATIONS.

It's very important to always have the interest of your spouse at heart, find what dreams and aspirations your partner have and help your partner achieve that. I tell you real men and women don't easily forget those that pushed them to their greatness and success in life. Always support your partner and surely he or she will be there for you always.

7. NEVER ALLOW SUPERIORITY COMPLEX TO SET IN.

This factor has similar meaning to that of entitlement but with a slight difference in terms of personal image and dignity. Never allow your personal worth cloud your sense of reasoning and judgement to know that the person with you also deserves all that you want as a partner in a relationship.

8. ALWAYS STAY FAITHFUL TO EACH OTHER.

As you know, faithfulness is one of the essential tools to a successful relationship. Being faithful in your words, character, mode of perceptions,etc. Most relationships if not all will not last the next minute if this factor is not found in it.

9. NEVER GIVE ROOM FOR GOSSIPS AND THIRD PARTY SUGGESTIONS/ ADVICES.

The moment you start entertaining third party's advices and ill suggestions in your relationship you have failed. Most people you see around you does not necessarily mean well for you and if you don't watch it early enough, before you realise the whole thing, everything will be destroyed before your front.

10. LEARN TO ALWAYS LOVE EACH OTHER.

I tell you that true love counts no error. When you genuinely love your partner, there will not be any need to make her feel hurt to the extent of pushing her away and make her to say that she "Never believed you could treat me this way!"

CONCLUSION

When you try to do all these factors listed above in my article, I assure you of a healthy relationship. Always be with that person that sees you as not just a team mate in a playing ground alone but also as someone that always see your heart as his or her own most beautiful castle in the universe.

Once again, thank you for reading 🙏 Rafd9828