Helpless me!

I am really so tired of all these negative feelings and energy I get from this woman I have come to love this crazy.
Does it mean if I don't call or text her she will not respond, chat or even call me on the phone for the whole day?.
Does it mean I am the one that remind her about myself to propel her to call me nor respond to me each day? This is heart breaking I must confess.

I have really endured this attitude of hers for a long period of time and have been praying, hoping and waiting patiently for her to realise that her actions are rather tiring us apart than building the love we have shared for many years  now. Who should I run to for assistance atleast to help me talk to her for her to understand that her action is gradually killing me and the love I once felt for her?. The funniest part of it is that she does not have any answer to her actions and weird attitudes towards me, and several times I have asked her to tell me her mind and intentions towards us all because of the way she behaves and after asking her questions , the only thing that comes out of her mouth is;

"I DON'T HAVE ANY REASONS FOR MY ACTIONS AND I DIDN'T SEE ANY WRONG THAT I HAVE DONE THAT WILL WARRANT THIS QUESTIONS AND QUERIES.

I am gradually going mad and very helpless because I don't really know how to tell her that I need a break and stand on my words because I love her so much and have shown her that I love her through my words and actions towards her and she now hold on the fact that I love her and has kept behaving in a manner that is getting me crazy and helpless.

This is the present situation I find myself in at this moment and I know some of you might misunderstand this and try to blame me for sharing my private love life here on this platform, some will even call me names and others may say I am not man enough to handle my issues, but of a truth, I am not bringing it here for you to see how bad my love relationship is or how the relationship is going but rather I am sharing it for your candid opinion and advise and also for you to learn from my story and know how to make corrections and adjustments if you are experiencing such at the moment in your relationship.

What will you call this scenario where you are in a relationship and you are just the one working so hard to make your relationship work?  You practically do everything just to make your spouse happy and in return she feels nonchalant about everything, very lackadaisical in her attitude towards you and you keep pressing hard and keep reminding her that she is not coming up with her own responsibility of returning the feelings back to you and after you made your opinion known to her, all she would do is to pretend that she does not know where your complaint are coming from, that everything is fine and nothing is wrong with the way she acts towards you and start to make you feel guilty and that you are truly the cause of your problems.

Someone outside may not know the type of trauma and feelings one go through when another person find him or herself in such situations. To some of us here, you may have passed through these type of ill treatments and feelings from your loved ones or someone you hold on a high esteem and I know you know how it feels to go through such emotional torture and pain all because you want to experience love and make it work. Because of that you subject yourself to rigorous challenges and pains and yet she does not act in a way that will make you believe she values your effort towards the relationship you share with her.

When the man eventually decides to let go of his  struggles and efforts in keeping the relationship and accept to let go of the relationship, that will be the time the woman will wake up and want to make the love relationship work again and by that time it will be too late because the man's heart, soul, body and mind have long left the woman and the relationship because of her weird attitudes and behaviour. Most relationship you see today that has torn apart happened because of this particular issue I am facing today with my partner.

JUST REMEMBER THIS;

1. I tell you this, you don't need to take your spouse's effort to making sure your relationship work unserious. This is exactly what break alot of relationships, marriages and even ordinary friendships one keep with the next person beside him or her. The moment you start to behave nonchalantly and lackadaisically towards your partner and your partner starts noticing it and keep working hard to call you to order and you kept ignoring the warnings and signs, know it that you are the one that destroyed your relationship.

2.  When you are fade up and tired of the relationship and you need a break, it's not good to keep leading your partner on in the relationship, it's good you come out open and tell your partner that you are no longer interested with the relationship rather than playing with your spouse's emotions and feelings. That's could cause more harm than good to the affected person in future if it's not handled in time.

3.  No need of you loving your spouse out of pity. This is very wrong most especially when it has to do with one's heart and emotions. Is either you love him or her and show that person how much he or she meant to you and even without any personal attachment or reason towards your partner, you still love him or her. This is the best form of love, to love without any reason.

4. If you need a strong relationship there must be a proper and adequate communication between the two persons involved, love grows effectively when the two persons involved communicates very well and understand each other more. Paying attention and giving a listen ear helps alot when having a communication with your spouse, that also makes relationship perfect.

5. Value what you have no matter how small that thing is, you may be hoping on what is outside without knowing that the one inside is much more better than the one outside. Remember a bird at hand is far better than thousands in the bush. Learn to value that person that is there always trying to put smile on your face, value that person that could give his or her last penny for your happiness and also value that person that will not just look at your face  rather from your voice on phone without seeing your face  know when you are happy and when you are not happy. It takes one who has value for you to really put his or her ears down to know when you are sad and when you are happy.

I know you will not allow yourself to be used to cause pain to that person that truly love and care for you each passing day.

Thank you for reading my article 🙏 Rafd9828