Loyalty is not all & sometimes, not even enough.

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2 years ago
Topics: Relationship

No man is an island of knowledge so says an adage & this is the reason I have thought to share a little from my experience in order to create awareness of how we can react in some situations when there is need for it.

This lady dated this man for practically 6 years but at the end of the day, they parted ways. Not because there was no love, the love was there but their relationship started when the girl was about 17 or thereabout in her first year in the university . Apparently, she was not mature enough for a relationship that could be leading to marriage or even intended for marriage.

The relationship spanned through her university days but after youth service came about, the little distance that sets births several issues that the girl's naivety had been holding up. Her age, level of maturity made her unaware of some things the man does that should not be left unspoken about. She was not aware that some actions require certain reactions in order for it not to occur again because it could ruin a good thing.

Now, as she has gone outside the school, she began to see that things are not done in the manner she has been seeing it by the man. She met people who made her realize through their actions that this is one should be treated. These things propelled her to speak up, to speak against some of the man's actions towards her. As the man realized that she is awakened, he claims the love for him does not exist anymore.

Guys!!! This was a relationship that never recorded any sign of cheating. This man is not a drunkard neither does he smoke.

Please tell me people, what are the possible reasons a relationship of practically 6 years that has never recorded a case of cheating end on the basis of several fights? What could be the reasons for the several fights?

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People change, the lady next to my office dated a guy for over 8years guess what?? News flash he just left her without any reason.... Most times I just feel like being single forever lol, lately my heart has been cold and I don't have any feelings for anyone.... I hope she stays strong and get over with it, 6years isn't just a chais play

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User's avatar Amback_forgood
2 years ago

Really... Things happen! I tell myself & I also tell peeps that anything can just happen at any time, some things happen for no particular reason because you just keep wondering & yet, you can't find why a thing has happened. May God bless us with good partners because really, it's not easy. Because even with siblings, we have issues, let alone people you just meet up with & you just establish a relationship with from the scratch... Mehn!

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User's avatar R3miwahab
2 years ago

So when it comes to marriage that's a while different thing because your gonna spend the rest of your life with him/her, don't be with someone your not comfortable with

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User's avatar Amback_forgood
2 years ago
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User's avatar R3miwahab
2 years ago

Wise narration. My part here won’t be much because I am not a relationship counselor nor have gained a lot of experience in relationship.

I also know of a similar case, a friend of mine (the lady) who had been in a relationship for years more than six I think. But all of a sudden their relationship broke and both of them pathed ways.

Presently, the guy is already married to his wife and the lady is about to get married next month to her own husband.

I believe what’s meant to be would surely be, and what’s meant not to be would never be. Just be sincere in all you do. The best would surely come.

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User's avatar McYusuf
2 years ago

Thanks so much for giving me this opportunity first of all.

Then unto your response, it's not really easy, having established & invested in to something or someone for a long period of time, & at the end of the day... You have nothing to show for it or it collapses. It could ruin a person especially one who is not emotionally strong. Life can take different marks but we should learn to make it easy for people & another thing is that we should learn to read the signs early, we should not be blinded by so much love that we shy away from the truth, or reality... If it's not holding up, if things are not adding up, I don't see reasons for the two to bear for that long & still later break up.

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User's avatar R3miwahab
2 years ago

Hummn. It’s okaay that way too. Getting the signs early. To me I don’t see why a relationship should be lasting for more than months getting to years. That should be a count for marriage.

So when both parties knew they are not ready for marriage or might not get married anytime soon then why going into any relationship?

I don’t believe in dating from the onset. Courtship (with parents awareness) for few months. Then when if guys are ready and compatible for marriage you are free and if not you can have a marital contract and both parties can go their separate ways till they are ready.

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User's avatar McYusuf
2 years ago
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