Honest Rebuke

June 11th, 2022.

Any time we correct we should do it the right way. When you are the one with the most experienced in the world at something, let's not miss-guide people by being biased.

It is best to just call things as you see them and be honest about your thoughts. Let's correct any errors as soon as possible and move on from there.

In many ways, this statement is a reflection of our current culture as a whole. The idea of calling something as you see it doesn't really hold water anymore. At one time, I would have agreed with this statement but in light of recent events/news in regards to bias/racism/sexism/etc., there needs to be a certain level of tactfulness when addressing problems of crime or wrongdoing, that are not already a matter of common knowledge. Not saying you shouldn't call things as you see them, but just make sure you are being truthful and fair, otherwise, your statement will fall on deaf ears and may even result in outrage.

I have a problem with people correcting others. You see it all over the world on every level, people correcting others. I am not against correction when needed, but I am against being mean while correcting. I know that some people think that they have to be mean to make a point, but they are wrong, they are hurting themselves more than they are helping.

When you correct someone tries to make it like a positive thing and make them feel good. Nicely correcting them is twice as good as correcting them in a mean way. When you make them feel good they will remember your correction for a long time and you will also get more respect from them.

When we are making corrections, let's do it honestly. Rebuke people the right way, don't be biased in your judgement. Stop the hate. Stop making people look bad before others. Stop the bashing.

Debate on issues, sure!

Rude and wrongful comments and actions, No!

You need to learn how to be right without having to win every time and also to voice your opinion without being mean or evil about it.

The thing is we all need change and not everyone has the same mentality, point of view or opinion, so when you are correcting one of us it will not come out as a positive thing if you let the hate flow through your body.

We often have a hard time giving honest critiques to our friends or families when they need advice. It's uncomfortable, to be frank with the people we love and care about.

When someone asks me, "Hey can you take a look at this business plan and tell me what you think?" I'll say, "Yeah sure!"

I'll spend time reading through it and get a really good feel for what the person is trying to achieve and I'm bursting with advice and suggestions on how they can improve it. But I'll always hold my tongue because I'm afraid to hurt their feelings.

Until recently, after watching a few too many episodes of the greatest show of all time and reading business books, I decided it was time to stop being so cowardly.

If you find yourself needing to share a correction on others' work, make sure to do it honestly.

I hate seeing people being biased in the way they speak negatively or positively. We can do better, we can be better than that. Rebuke people the right way, don't be biased in your judgement of what is right and wrong.

I can't tell you how many times I've seen someone say something with a totally different tone/attitude if it's about one race vs another. Just because you feel like someone is wrong in making a decision doesn't mean you can't do it.