Not everybody criticizes...
“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
I love it when it's Saturday because it's the end of a wonderful week and the next arrives with another great week. Happy weekend everyone. How are you doing? This week has been great just as I narrated in my post yesterday and I look forward to many amazing weeks till the end of the year. May God continue to keep us safe and spare our lives in Jesus' name.
Criticism comes from people and I don't think there's anyone in life who hasn't been criticized in different ways.
Have you been criticized before? What did they say? How were you able to overcome it? Are you the one that feels less of yourself because of what they say to you? Do you try to confront them or do you ignore them? Do you allow their definition of negativity to affect your life?
One thing I want to tell you this morning is that those who criticize you, are the ones doing less than you and not someone doing more than you.
@HappyBoy replied to my post a few days ago and differentiate between being envious of someone and being jealous. Being envious is wishing you have what others have and being jealous happens when you start wishing them bad and trying to hurt them.
This is why you see many friends ruining themselves and wishing them dead because their existence and excelling in life is making them hurt the more and the best thing for them is to kill them so they won't see more of them again.
The truth is that when you are making progress in life and another isn't, they will start saying things behind you and making you feel as if what you are doing is wrong.
Though there is positive criticism that helps you improve in your life. People who do this are those who are doing more than you but they also want you to be great. They professionally criticize you and give you some guidelines to help you grow too. This kind of people wants the best for you and they understand that they also started from somewhere and seeing others becoming great than them isn't any problem to them. After all, let's be great together makes a friendship last longer.
The negative critics are those who are doing less than you and are unhappy when they see you doing better than them. They start to talk behind you, finding ways to stop you and working different tactics to prevent you from getting something which could benefit you.
They are happy sending negativity to you and telling you what you are doing wrong and aren't ready to help you. They believe if they give you some information, you might be better than them and so, they prefer to take the praises all the time without giving you a chance to prove your ability.
The best way to avoid them is to know the kind of attitude they bring to you. Be careful not to release too much of yourself to them. Look for people who are ready to see you excelling and associate with them.
Don't expose your goals to people especially the ones who wouldn't want to see you happy because they would eventually ruin it all for you.
Not everyone would like you and how you are doing better than them. They keep finding means to bring you down and once they get some information about you, that is the end.
Instead of them trying to improve too, they are seeing you doing better and sad. The problem with this kind of person is that they are too proud to come to you for help and so, they make you feel bad about yourself. They paint different pictures and scenarios into your head and make you change your normal ways just to suit them and once they have achieved their aims, they start to work behind you and go better than you.
Don't give them the chance at all but keep improving and learning the best. Do what is right in your eyes and never listen to their negative criticisms.
Those who criticize and never proffer solutions for you are the worst people ever. Even your friends can be in that category and would never want you to live while doing better than them.
So, always believe in yourself and your ability. Find those who want to see you doing better too while they are also improving.
Thanks for reading
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[July 23, 2022] (No 204 articles for the year)
Criticisms may help you actually to classify people in your life. Instead of feeling sad about negative criticism use it as a tool to know whose real or con in your circle. If all they do is to criticize you without solid basis then put them aside classified as" The destroyer" and those who are good critics are " The builder". Who would have want to be attached with "The Destroyer" anyway? So avoid them and stay for "The Buillder friend.