Single Mom: Be Married?

It was like a night mare when you knew somebody in the member of your family has been pregnant. It was a shocking news, especially that the mother is still young and don't still have a secured and stable job.

It's is so sad to know for the part of the parents especially when they had high expectations and plan for their children to finish from studies and find a high earning and stable jobs. It is so frustrating to think especially when young mother still living on their parents.

But I salute to all those single mothers who could manage to bear their child outside the world without the support of the father by their side. I salute those single moms who become a father and mother to their child, and be able to grow, nurture and support their child needs by their own effort and hardwork.

Today I am going to share to you about a woman who is strong and brave in facing and taking all the responsibilities of being a mother and father on her daughter. I admire her for being brave and for conquering all the heartaches she had encountered with her past relationships he had with her daughter's father when they were together.

This woman is my younger sister, she got pregnant with an irresponsible man who could not be able to stand his responsibilities with his family. He has never shown any efforts and sincerity when they were living together, I could really tell he was so irresponsible because they were once lived in my parent's house.

We adviced and let our younger sister decide to let go and leave this man because of his irresponsible and unreasonable attitude eventhough he still living in our house, he never shown any sincerity. We think of our sister's future when he decided to be with this man forever. We are so worried about her that time because:

1. Irresponsible. During on my sister's labor, my family and I rushed to the hospital coz my sister has been overdued on her date of labor. So we decided to send her to the big hospital instead of lying in coz she was adviced to undergo caesarean section operation. What did his boyfriend did, at the emergency room while applying for the application, he left my mother to be encharged of all the process on their admission.

He ask permission to my mother to go outside so he could eat dinner without even thinking that we are not also even took our dinner yet. So, can you imagine that, time passed by, he had never shown any shadow to come. So, I decided to call my husband coz he accompanied my husband with him. To my surprise, my husband told me that my sister's boyfriend was taking a shut of beer for a while. Oh my, my nerve was shaking of dismayed and dissapointment.

And the angriest part was, he left their important belongings, their bag unattended at the bench without telling my mother. All documents and money are there, thank God that it wasn't stole by someone seating at the bench. Instead he told us that there were belongings left on the bench, and mother claim it to be ours. So what you think is that? Strike one! Not just one.

He might have a strike two, instead of being the watcher of my sister on the hospital he left my mother and other sister to be my sister's watch. He go home with us and think what he did, he drink all day night and not thinking how irresponsible he was. Shocks!

1. Insensitive. As time, days, weeks, months went he never had show any responsibilities on babysitting their daughter. Especially when their baby was awake at night or midnight, my mother does the substitute on babysitting their baby. He just sleeping like an oil who could hardly wake up and sleep the whole night without minding the situation.

There were times that my mother and sister had a sleepless nights because of babysitting. Sometimes, he just making himself comfortable and not thinking that he was not at his own house. He just drink, drink and drink and then sleeping like a pig, snoring so hard while facing the electric fan. So cool! Strike more!

1. Immature. One night, it was a New Year's Eve, my sister had a sleepless night during that time coz their baby was tethering, he got her baby teeth growing. And the good man, instead of substituting her partner because she had already had enough tiredness, he sneaked to my uncle's house coz they were having a videoke their and having a good time. So he sneaked there to go with the flow and drinking while the sun is up to the darkness hour.

And the worst part, as he went home , he was making ba flood to my sister and looking for the key of our store coz he wanted to get some ice because he felt so overhanged. Then they were having an argument that time, to make his self comfortable, he took some ice on the fridge and then got vomited due to uneasy feeling of drinking. He was too drunk, get the electric fan and then sleep hard and snored like there's nothing wrong happen.

1. Stupid. Around 11:00pm, my mother was awake from a nap coz still she was on watched on my sister's baby, she was so shocked as she saw the waters above her feet all over the floor . As she go to the comfort room she saw the drainage covered with the vomited gross of the drunk man. So, what she did around that night, my mother cleaned the house and get all the waters everywhere.

She was almost done all around two-three am that time. The man was just dying to sleep because of being drunk. Shit strike more!

Closing Thoughts

From then on, the boyfriend of my sister was given a chance and forgiven how many times to prove us that we are wrong about him, but then again, he just never changed. So now, almost two years that they were broke up and separated by my sister. Luckily, my sister realized, reflected and listened to our adviced about her future.

Thank God she was never let her emotions to take place on being martyr to that irresponsible boy. My sister is now happily living with her together, she is the one who grow and take care of her baby with our family.

We never leave her side, as long as we are here no one could ever harm her. We will take care of her and her baby. We will be in her side as long as she needs us.

Thank you for reading!