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Do you feel Alone?
***The weather was nice and everyone you knew had an activities except you. They went out to enjoy and have fun. 'They left you again.'*** It really hurts when you are not invited, but it hurts more to think about what the reason is. Maybe youre telling yourself, Do I have disability or not an interesting person so they don't want to be with me. It may not just happen to you sometimes. You feel there is a barrier between you and other people.Instead of being sad on the corner, because you have no friends,you can work out a solutions.
***Find out the causes and solutions on why this is happening...*** **Low self-esteem.** Some people often underestimate themselves. They think that other people will not like them and that they may have no interest in talking to you and you are a boring person. ***[Solution]*** Look at your good qualities. Think of your talents or good qualities. Everything is flawed and you know it. But you also have many good qualities.Knowing this will help you to have self-confidence. **Being a shy person.** You would love to have a conversation, but when you have the opportunity, you will not be able to speak. You will not be able to approach or socialize with others, especially at meetings. ***[Solution]*** Show interest to others. Don't worry, you do not have to stand out. Try to approach and talk to someone first. Simple introduction and greeting will help. Learn to listen to others and make friends even if you are not your age. **Bad manners.** Even a person who always feels wise, likes to insult other people. There are also people who like to argue and force their opinions. He criticizes anyone who thinks was wrong. ***[Solution]*** Communicate with other people. Even if they do not agree with the opinion of others, just let them speak. Focus on the things you agree on. If you need to express your opinion, speak calmly and wisely. How do you want others to talk to you, the same way you talk to them. ***"Do not expect everyone to like you. Just be true to yourself. And being a good person is more important."*** *Read.Like.Comment.* *Subscribe@Pluma*
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This article is for me i have a shy personality and low self-esteem but I will share my thoughts thru writing. But for me being alone can have a positive way, you learn how to be independent and develop yourself by not asking help for others.
Yeah thats is, keep doing by your own way and boost your talent and skill here in readcash
I experiencedt hat when I am still working and my officemate talking about the GC and I am not belong to that. I feel out of place. Deep inside it hurts, why they didnt add me but I keep on acting like I am not hurt at all 😄 One day they tell me what's that GC is all about without asking it 😄 Maybe they knew that I am hurt? I dont know. And now, I am stay at home mom. I can feel that I am always alone. There's always a thought in my mind that no one cares for me.
Thats sad to knowz but negative thoughts will be always have negative result, so be optimistic, maybe they just dont know on how to approach you by that time
I am already enlightened why they didnt add me hehe. And I understand them hehe. Its just a matter of communication nadin and open-mindedness.
Youre right, be a good friend and dont such thing that make them not call you a friend
They are good friends of mine hehe. They didnt add me on GC because they know I am not into trashtalk thingy 😄 That GC kasi is full of trash talk convo.
Oh i see, so you know it exactly, they dont want you to be with that gc so you have a peace of mind and not to be a trashtalker also
Yes :) Because they know I am not into types of convo hehe. Pero minsan OP kasi ako hehe
Being alone is also good especially when you're finding your true self. But there are instances that we must meet people in order for us to grow. I also feels shy and insecure especially when meeting some good looking/friendly (so active) individuals. But as you said, we must really look at our other positive points. We all have it. Being here in RC really helps me in boosting my confidence. Also your last statement is so so true. We can't expect everyone to like us since we're not the ones holding their feelings. We have different perceptions and what's important is being a true and good individual.
Glad to know that, sometimes insecurities comes to ourselves but having your own thing was important to be consider
Yes po. Thank you!
actually prefer cup alone. than living in a chaotic world .. but it is also inevitable to find someone to be with sometimes because it is boring when you are alone. but I prefer that cup, I don't have a bother anymore.
Yeah youre right also,
some prefer to be alone not because they don't belong to a group or because they have differences. they just want personal space to know theirselves first before letting others know them. As for my experience I was called being tactless and frank during college days because I speak whats on my mind not knowing others feelings that's why my friends before sometimes left me and some correct me on my behavior. but i've changed as time and maturity hits me
yes people changed for their own thing and purposed ,and being alone is also to realize the things to be right
true but we need also to get out of our comfort zone...socialize to boost self esteem
It's okay to be alone sometimes. It gives us time to reflect and just commune with the personal space that we have. But, loneliness plus baggages of depression, resentments, doubt, fear and frustrations is a different thing.
I think maybe it's my manners
We come to this world alone, and we also leave it alone. The irony of life is that we were created as social beings. We have been focused on other people all our lives, both at work and at home. We are simply not self-sufficient to be complete. On the other hand, rushing into socialization at any cost can bring us great harm. Therefore, although it is very difficult, we must also learn that sometimes it is better to be lonely for a while.
exactly, being alone sometimes signifies to not rush things ,being a self realization can help a lot
Loneliness is one kind of broken in inside. If cut somewhere of body then blebleeding...and some day stay pain. But for lonliness suffers a persons..day by day..year by year or more....so always love myself..yourself. And always try to do something better and focus a goal that we will pass busy time. Its need to us. Thats i mean loneliness remove.
true, to be alone sometimes relieve pain in our hearts.
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When you are just a teenager you can just simply ride with your shyness. You can stay at your room whole day without worying on anything. As a grown up man this is impossible and not apropriate.
Sometimes being lonely helps us to become more stronger.If sometimes we think that people doesn't want our presence just ignore it.We have our family who will always be there for us.They will never leave us alone no matter what happen.💓
yes you are right, another way you can overcome it is by letting your friends know how you feel about it and ask the reason why you were left out or if you are hurt and can't approach the friend, don't bombard him in chat, just move on and reevaluate the friendship for better for it is better to walk through the darkness with a friend than walk alone through light