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The Perfectionist.
**Are you trying to make everythings right?**
Some people feel worthless in life when they make a mistake. It's because they are **PERFECTIONIST**. Mistakes are not in the vocabulary of a perfectionists. They want everything to be right even simple things,activities was need to be organized.Because they are afraid of not being praised or not being the center of attention or change the way others think of him with a little mistake. And they are easily upset on that.
They make everything right as possible.Being a perfectionist really affects yourself and to other people. It also gets to the point where your friends and family stay away from you because of this habit and you also find it difficult to make friends because they do not meet your standards. But how can you avoid becoming a perfectionist? ***Here are some guides and suggestions...*** **Change your perspective on the word "SUCCESS."** Have you ever wanted to be first and foremost in everything. But you better think that not all the time its not gonna happen as you wanted to be. Accept defeat or failure. You do not have to go beyond everything to say you are successful.Having done your best is enough and truly matters. **Be realistic.** You must know your limits. Just do what you can and do not force it if you can no longer do it. Do not rely too much on high expectations. Be true to yourself and to what you can only do. Do not think that you cannot make some mistakes. Because in reality you do not know what will happen next. **Accept or laugh at your mistakes.** Try other things that you know that you will make a mistake,and change your outlook. Do not be too serious about simple things. You may be discouraged, but resist this negative thoughts and learned something that can be lessen your perfectionism. "***Everyone makes mistakes, things that are out of order, but it is more important to accept that everything sometimes happens for a reason and only God has the right to judge those mistakes and how it supposed to be."*** Read.Like.Comment. SUBSCRIBE@Pluma
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yeah that is right about perfectionist and there was one of my friend in school who always cries after our grdaes for each subject have been distrubuted but why...because he did not get the full score though he might have the highest score and that is a very good example of a perfectionist or what do you think
Being the best in everything was an example of it, but to expect that she can get a perfect score is bad thing for her.Maybe he done her best is enough.
maybe
You are right there. But sometimes being a perfectionist depends upon someone's life experiences too. Sometimes that's what others instilled into them before they became perfectionist. And they're afraid to make mistakes and be a failure because they're afraid someone will belittle them or will definitely be mad at them. But still it depends on their willingness to change that certain kind of perspective in life. All your tips given above were stated clearly and are very helpful to overcome this kind of personality.
Your right. As I notice being perfectionist can bring you too disappointment,if you cannot reach your goal you will be irratable and angry. You can't feel the real happiness if you have the attitude like this.
Youre right, even a single mistake they think that their whole world gone worst.
It's a big deal for them .But this kind of attitude is hard to change. You need a long process for it. Sometimes it will end up to forever.
True, the grew up growing that kind of personality and attitude so its maybe hard, but moderation on something is a thing they need to do.
Madami nagsasabing perfectionist ako, pero di nila alam ang nakikita lang nila ay ang resulta ng hardwork at dedication sa mga ginagawa ko. One thing is certain, lahat tayo nagkakamali pero di naman dapat stay tayo sa pagkakamali natin. Diba po?
Tama,hanggat maaari naman ay kelangan nating gawing tama at maayos ang mga ginagawa natin.
Ang punahin ang kamalian ng iba ay hindi pagiging perfectionist. Pero kung kung yung wag ng pagtatama ay wala sa lugar, dun lang nagiging mali. Dahil imbes na maging tama ang mali, lalo lang bumaluktot sa masamang pagtatama nito. Di tayo perpekto, pare parehas tayo nagkakamali pero hindi tayo kelanman magiging tama, kung pupunahin natin ang kamalian ng iba bago natin makita ang kamalian ng ating sarili.
Tama yan, minsan ang pagtataman natin ay sobra na sa naaayon at sa pananawng ibang tao, kaya kung minsan ay hindi ito pinagkakasunduan.Dapat nasa lugar o tamang pagpupuna ang gawin dahil ang bawat tao ay may opinyon rin.
So nice and great article.In my work,I have a fellow worker that is perfectionist.It is really hard to be with her.She always want things to be perfect.Whenever she commit mistake she always depend herself and find way to blame it to others.She dont want to accept her mistakes because she thinks that she is always correct.She never listen to someones opinion.And I really agree that she find difficult to have friends.Because of being perfectionist most of our coworkers hates her.But since we need to work as a team we just ignore her and just focus on our work.
True, sometimes their mistakes was not being accept and keep blaming other people, to the point that people around her cant take her attitude on just only considering what she want, and even cause harm to others
Yes,you are correct.That we need a lot of patience when we encounter such person.We cannot even say them to stop it because it might worse the situation
In my case, perfectionism can only be found in certain segments. I am very precise when it comes to the spoken word or deed, that is the social aspect. Also as a teacher I always give my maximum in my lectures and that is the end of my perfectionism. As for my office, notes, desk, closet, and things like that I’m totally chaotic here, I like to say it’s creative chaos. Fortunately, I always and at all times know exactly where what was left or written to me. Not so long ago, I was able to write on the wall things that were important.
I so can relate to that. Quite a good description of myself. In some aspect I am perfectionist but in some others I am very chaotic. With time the balance came so I don't think its like what the article is describing.
Sometimes people wanted to make things right for their own pleasure.
That is very true. And very satisfying. :)
Yeah, a piece of achievements for them.
Maybe you are an organized person, not just so percfectionism within you.
Probably all people in some segment of their lives strive for perfectionism. Still, I think it can become a problem when someone wants everything to be perfect in his life. Then it can easily turn into an obsession and grow into a serious mental illness.