Coping With Disturbing Bitter Truths

The world is full of unpleasant truths often unhelpfully called "bitters." That awkwardness lingers, but there are some helpful ways to handle, that unpleasantness with grace. There is no way of escaping reality. But the truth only seems bitter, when it is universally accepted. Try to think of something you can do to improve your situation and feel better about it.

The first step is to acknowledge the situation. This step requires courage and heart, but allow yourself some time. Take some time. Take some time to understand what has happened, what it means and how it relates to you. Take some time to understand all of it. It's impossible to grasp, that unless you give yourself some time. If you can't avoid them, try to understand why people are feeling the way they are. Just listen, listen, listen. Then listen some more. Many of us often turn to blogging as a way to cope with or even confront our personal lives.

It can be extremely cathartic. On the flip side, it's also frustrating not to be able to talk about your experiences, especially with things like emotional abuse. Life is full of emotional balance. It's good to have happy moments. It's good to have hard moments. It's normal to have difficult decisions and it's unfortunate, but sometimes you have to face the unpleasant truths about the world. You can't avoid them. You can't wish them away, but you can make your own decisions and decide how to deal with them.

Accepting Bitter Truths Is Key To Coping

When you accept the bitter truths, you have a much better chance of surviving them, and enjoying your life in the long run. No one can truly escape life. You just have to know how to deal with it. There's a difference between facing reality and letting the darkness consume you. You can choose to face the harshness of the world. You can choose to live your life to the fullest. You can choose to let your dreams consume you, or you can choose to let darkness take over.

Life isn't always a bed of roses. Sometimes you're stuck in a briar patch and you have to be ruthless. If you don't survive your own personal hell, no one else will suffer the torments, that you go through. You can't change the world. You can only take matters into your own hands. The one thing that you can choose to change however, is yourself. You are a person, who can change things. You are a person, who can make things happen.

When You're In Pain, Focus On The Good

When you're in pain, and you're facing an impossible situation, the only thing that you can really do is focus on the good. There are always going to be struggles and battles to be fought. It's what makes life interesting. You don't always have to have fun. Sometimes you have to just suffer through the difficult times.

Pain can be a great teacher, if you let it. Think of all the things, that you've learned about life by experiencing pain. There's nothing you can really do to change the past. You can only work on your future. You have to decide how you are going to respond to this situation. How you are going to cope.

There is no right answer. There is only what you choose to do. The only person, that you can really count on in this whole situation is yourself. You decide to focus on the good. It's not a perfect world. There will always be suffering and heartache, but there is hope.

How Most People Are Coping With Bitter Truths

There are two ways, that most people deal with the bitterness of life: they either retreat into a bottle, or they seek out ways to annihilate their problems, hoping that somehow the misery will simply go away. Both are useless responses to the suffering, that life inevitably brings.

The first response feeds the monster inside you. It allows you to feel justified in your own personal hell. It gives you the strength to suffer through the emotional pain and the physical discomfort, that you're going through. At some point, you might find that you're addicted to those emotions. That you can't stop yourself from crying, or laughing, or freaking out, or whatever it is that you do.

The second response, going on the offensive, is a noble one. It might make you feel like you're actually doing something to address the problems that plague you, but usually it's a waste of time. The moment that you decide to attack your issues head-on, you already lost. By the time you realize that fact, it's too late. The battle is over. You might win first, but you'll lose in the end.

How You Can Cope With Bitter Truths

There is only one response, that can save you. You've heard of people who've gotten a second chance in life. People who were deemed to be unworthy of it, who were unable to overcome the obstacles, that were placed before them, who were laughed at or shunned by the world. You could be one of those people. You could be someone who, after going through the ordeals that life has to offer, has learned what it is to truly come to peace with who you are and what you've been given.

You can change the way you view your own life. You can choose to see this not as a curse, but as a gift. You don't have to be bound by the delusions, that plague others. You can choose to embrace the realities, that you've been presented with and live the life, that you've been given. People who struggle with bitterness tend to think, that everything is some kind of cosmic or spiritual joke.

That's not the case. Life is not some kind of an abstract concept. It's a real thing, that happens to real people. Life is not a game, that you can choose to not play. Life is a challenge that you can overcome, or you can let it defeat you. The choice is yours.

Thank you for reading.

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