Often, people say, that the life is a journey, but so many people just don't put in their effort to make the journey that much more enjoyable. It's so much easier to keep going straight – so long as you're in a straight line. But what if you actually wanted to explore? What if you actually wanted to live your life the way you want? There are probably a lot of things in your life right now, that you want to refuse to live more comfortably.
The goal of life is to have a happy and fulfilling existence. Sometimes, people get a little too happy in light of their achievements. In this article, I will offer 7 things, that this is everything, that you should refuse to get on well.
Refuse To Listen Negative Speaking
All the flaws, all the shortcomings, all the problems and difficulties, that one faces in life can be found in the very words one uses to describe them. For instance, when you hear that someone's back hurts, they are really saying, "I can't get away from this irritating situation that I'm in, because I am caught up in my own personal limitations." It's a subtle distinction, but a very powerful one. The way they speak is the way they are. They should challenge those notions, that are leading them to suffer.
Negative thinking creates a negative reality. If people consistently and continually think about all the things that could possibly go wrong, then that's exactly what will happen. They will get caught up in the very situations that they feared most. For instance, if you are having a bad day and someone says, "Oh, you're having a bad day," then what do you think is going to happen in that moment? Of course, you are having a bad day.
The way they are talking about it implies that it is a bad day. If you disagree, then you're agreeing that it's a good day. They are trapped within their own thinking, and are unable to see beyond it. Negative speaking is a very subtle art. It's not something that people really know how to do well.
Refuse To Live In The Past
If you let the past dictate your present and future, then you might as well just give up on living. The past will always have the final say. There's nothing that you can do to change it, and there's no use in dwelling on it. It has already happened.
The only thing you can do is to decide how you will cope, how you will react and what you will do differently moving forward. If you focus your attention on the future, on what you can do, on what you can become, then the past will lose its power over you. You just have to ignore it and refuse to let it influence you.
You always have the option of starting fresh. Your past wrongs are in the past and that's the way it will stay. However, you also have the option of changing your past. This is not something that you can do once and forever. You can always change your future by changing your present and you can always change your present by controlling how you think.
Refuse To Be A Victim
Victory is never sweeter, than when it is not given. It is taken through a process of endurance and sacrifice. Real greatness rewards those who dare to fail, to overcome all odds, to prove all skeptics wrong. Such are the heroes of this world. The tragic heroes of this world. They are the legends of history.
Victims never end up on the top of the mountain. Victorious people do. Being a victim of something is like a stain, that never goes away. It clouds your judgment, it cripples your ability to see, it prevents you from making any progress at all. That is why victims stay on the ground, that is why they never get anywhere in life. It takes a strong will to be a survivor. It takes a strong conviction to survive.
Refuse To Be A Loser
Life is what you make it and you alone will decide how it will be. Nobody else. Not your parents. Not your teachers. Not your friends. The people who claim to understand you are the people who have told you exactly what you were meant to be. What good are they at telling you who you are?
No. Decide your own path. Nobody else can decide your path for you. Nobody else can even come close to understanding all that you are. You are a unique snowflake. You are one in a billion. Your actions alone make the world go round. Your contribution to society is what makes you valuable. Your potential is what makes you limitless.
Nobody can take that away from you. A loser is simply a person, who continues to accept the status quo, who keeps thinking that they should be living their life a certain way, when in fact they should be doing what they want to do. They will never be satisfied. They will never have peace. They will never have freedom.
Refuse To Be Controlled By Anyone
The only real power, that anyone can exert over you is the power of your own will. Nobody can make you do anything, that you don't want to do. Nobody can tell you what to think, how to feel and how to live. You should have complete freedom to choose how you will live your life.
The only power, that anyone has over you is the power of your own imagination. You can allow this external force to control your thoughts, or you can overcome it. Think for yourself. Realize your potential. Be the master of your fate. You'll find that a lone wolf always has the choice to choose his pack. You do have that choice.
Refuse To Be Intimidated
The world can be as intimidating as it wants, but it cannot beat you into submission. Whatever you choose to believe, whatever you choose to succumb to, has to be a choice that you have made. There is no room for fear in your life, because if there is a room for fear, then there is a guaranteed place for doubt.
If you doubt yourself, then you have already lost. The only thing you should ever fear is fear itself. Your wildest dreams and your darkest nightmares both represent uncertainty. Both represent a lack of control. Both are the source of your torment.
Refuse To Be Miserable
When you decide what you will let control your life, then the little voices in your head will have no power over you. You will not be controlled by them. You will not allow them to dictate how you live your life.
Instead, you will live it the way you want. You will make the rules. You will be the boss. If that means, that you have to walk the edge of a dark abyss, then that is what you are prepared to do. That is what you have chosen. You might encounter a few bumps on the road, but nothing that you can't overcome. If you are miserable, then that is what you will be.
Very well said, of all you had mentioned what I always refuse is to be miserable. Why choose to be like this if I can choose to be not.