Why Stay? (Abusive Relationship)

There's a limit to how far you can endure all because of love, moreover you are also in love with yourself, you are also in love with the future you've been chasing, you would be more in love with your kids, so why would you let just one aspect of the love, that is with your spouse who doesn't treat you right, who abuses your share of the love, why let him or her ruin it for you. Yes him or her, we've gone so one sided whenever the issue of abusive relationship is mentioned, thinking the females only as the victim, mind you the male also get abused in a relationship.

Firstly the word "Abuse" isn't limited to physical actions alone, it could also be emotional, and the physical is as bad as the emotional. To the physical, I would agree that the females are mostly the victim while to the emotional they both have the fair percentage. However my question today is - Why stay? It isn't going right, in fact you have incurred more sadness that joy ever since, all the "he makes me happy" and the "she my world" is all a lie so that your friends and family won't say you made a wrong decision. How long do you have to put up with it before you realize that there are million people out there who would literally kill to treat you right.

Having an abusive relationship is one of the most risky step anyone can take. Many have lost their lives, while hoping that they can change a person. That is a risk you keep taking day in and out. There is a thin line between love and hate, the switch from deep love to deep hate is like a snap, so fast. Why because of the factor called jealousy. The one you love you get jealous of, you want him or her to be how and where you want them, so anything that is preventing you from getting what you love you've got to hate.

When you feel you're the one he or she loves but unknowingly to you, you are what is preventing the road for who or what he or she really loves to come in, my dear it takes a very responsible person not to hate you. You could only try and hope it gets alright, but its a slim chance of getting it alright, love can't be learnt it is felt, its an unexplainable feeling, you don't know what they did to you that makes you just love him or her, she has done some wrong things but you are quick to forgive, you are in love regardless, well same theory applies to hate, well I guess they are twin brothers with enormous powers. They are both self sufficient to feed their host, they keep powering you once you give way to them, mostly until they are done before you can clearly realize something took over you. Both are dangerous forces. Yeah love and hate.

A simple maths applies here, especially since its your spouse, its either they love you or not. Be careful and be sensitive because there are some things love wouldn't do. Love wouldn't delight in your sadness, that is clearly the handiwork of hate which is a factor to abusive relationship. Love would find a way to change so as to please that which he truly loves, for instance, is he a drunkard, or a womanizer, or a killer and you don't want it, in the quest to choose a clear path with you, love is ready to go through the transformation process, love puts you as top priority and not as some punching bag. He did it once what's your assurance he wouldn't do it again.

PS: my issue with this sorts of article is because it often lead to lot of people breaking up their existing relationships, some of which is the right choice to make, some others of which isn't, there are exceptions to someone who is truly sorry for his or her action and has changed truly and it would be best for both of you if you'd just forgive. But since we aren't super heroes and can't see through the sincerity of the heart, we just go by the books and call it a quit. In my opinion, there are some things to look our for.

• Has he/She done it before, or this is the first time

• Is he/she sorry, how well have they buttress their apology

• What was the cause of the abuse, is it something that can be worked on or not

• Are you also to be blamed

• Do you still love him/her regardless

• What do you really wanna do next.

Get your act together, your life is very important not just to you alone, but to your mom who withstood 9months of heaviness for you, you should carry yourself with high esteem, for your dad who works day and night all through the week and probably still working now for you, you shouldn't let yourself be a toy for another human to toil with, for your siblings who loves you deeply, grew with you and have quality memories with you, you can't make them shed bitter tears over your demise, because you failed to choose wisely whom to love. To your kids, I guess you can imagine what it would be like, making them go through such horror. And to me, you can't make me write this long for nothing, Funny right, well I'm not kidding.

Truth be told, you matter to a whole lot of people, there are people who are seeking just a day to treat you right, and tell you how much they love you. You are meant to enjoy a relationship, the fun, the romance, the drama, the quarrels, but never a abusive relationship. Make the right choice for a healthy and happy life. Choose to be with the right one and flee from abusive relationships.

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