Technically Single
I am sipping hot coffee at this moment in spite of the scorching heat that we have right now. I tried to awaken my senses because I felt so sleepy, but every time I tried to take a nap, my mind was wide awake and it only made my head ache. I hope this coffee will help.
Anyway, I will be writing about a prompt again, which I first read in Usagi's article. It is about a 30-day challenge wherein a question is given to you and you have to answer it or talk about it. I actually have several 30 day challenges saved, written by different users, but I will try to do this first. So here we go.
Day 1: Your current relationship, if single, discuss how single life is.
I am single, technically. My husband and I have been together for 22 years, but we are not married yet. So every time I fill out a form, I get so frustrated when I have to choose between single and married in civil status. But lately, when I apply for philhealth, I am glad that there is an option "common law husband/wife" in the form that I fill out. That's where I belong, lol!
Many people ask why we are not married yet, or if we even have a plan to get married. Of course, we have planned our marriage before, multiple times. But every time we plan it, unforeseen things keep on happening. The last time we planned on getting married was before the pandemic happened. The venue would be on the farm where my mother lives, and it was the perfect timing because my sister Katy was on vacation at that time, so we would be complete. She will be my matron of honor. My daughter will be one of the bridesmaids. It will just be a simple celebration with the whole family. We have a big family, so I am sure it will be fun yet solemn. But COVID-19 happened, so it was postponed for the nth time.
So my husband and I were like, "Okay, if the heavens want us to be married, it will happen in time." We decided not to be pressured on getting married.
Married or not, the important thing is that we overcome everything that stands in our way.
Being in a relationship for 22 years is not easy. I cried a bucketful of tears multiple times. We had argued a lot. What do you expect from two different people, with different views, living under the same roof? There was even a time that I threw a glass at him out of anger. And I would be lying if I said that we have not thrown unpleasant words at each other out of anger. It is not because we have lost respect for each other. How should I put this? Hmmm, I guess it is because we believe that despite showing our bad side to each other, our love will prevail. We accept each other's flaws.
The secret to a long-lasting relationship? I don't think there is/was because we all know that communication is key. It is very important to talk it out every time a problem occurs.
And another thing, make certain that the intimacy is always there.
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And it's a wrap! I hope that you have learned something from this article. I will try to answer the remaining 29 questions in the coming days.
Until next reading!
Date Published: June 10, 2022
for me naman kasal or hindi as long as you love each other iyon ang importante..and nowadays people tend to forget how sacred marriage is that they would easily file an annulment just because they don't click anymore