What's the whole essence of a relationship if you are not happy? The world is an unhappy place sometimes and you would have to be careful who you journey with. Your partner should be your safety net even when the whole world is raving mad. I am not saying your happiness should hinge on another person but I am saying you should be able to be happy being around your partner and not think he or she is another battle you have to fight with.
An unhappy relationship can lead anyone to slip into depression. Let's face it, the world is hard already and you still have to struggle with someone you claimed you love? It doesn't seem about right in any way. I am not saying that your partner has no right to his or her feelings too because there would be days where they won't be able to give you the happiness they NORMALLY give you and that's fine, you can also make an exception for that day because a relationship is all about sacrifices and it would be easy to understand especially when they have always been there for you before now.
A relationship should give you that peace and happiness and your partner should be easily relatable. What's the whole essence of having someone in your corner that you cannot relate with?
You should desire to see your partner happy and it should be the other way round too. Imagine a relationship where the guy wants to make the lady happy and the lady is always doing things to make her guy happy. It makes it easier because selfishness would be locked to the curb and they would do things they have observed about each other without being necessarily told what to do.
There is no point in treating those who really love you as though they are ordinary. There should be love and respect between them and with love and respect, you would naturally want to make each other happy while being attentive to the needs of each other. It's not as easy as it sounds sometimes but it is not impossible. Identify the things that make your partner happy and be intentional about them. Communicate what makes you happy and you both should meet each other at a level ground especially when the things that make you both happy are the things you have never been used to before now.
No one ever succeeds in a relationship when they bargain genuine affection by withholding that affection. When you feel right about someone, you have to show it not just in words but with your actions. Your action would tell us how much that person means to you by the extent to which you would go (legally) just to put a smile on that person's face.
Genuine affection cannot be traded and most people are unhappy because their spouse would never let go of the need to control. Let go of your desire to control your partner and watch them go through any length for you. Focus more on caring and loving your partner rather than trying to control them to do your bidding. Forced love or affection is not true affection because if that person wasn't forced then naturally they wouldn't even do it in the first place.
Having the needs of your spouse high up your list helps a lot and it should be mutual. The moment you have to force a gesture then it had lost its value. Every compliment or gesture should be noticed and appreciated. Isn't it through what they say that the intention behind every action is what truly counts?
Being generous to your partner makes it easy and you have to be generous not just in gifts but also with your affection. Love your partner generously, give with every opportunity that you can without waiting for her birthday or his, be open to express the way you feel romantically too. A lot of people hold back because they would say "I don't want him or her to take advantage of it". I am sorry but that's nonsense. Why would you be with someone who tends to take advantage of you in the first place? Isn't that the whole essence of courting them to know whether you wish to take it further or not? If you think this way then it shows you are dating someone you shouldn't be dating and the standard you are supposed to uphold has been flawed. It speaks less of you than it speaks of your partner.
Most guys try to be manipulative and women too, but they do theirs with their emotions and few fake tears. When you try to be manipulative then you have lost the essence of caring or being cared for. It's only a swine that can never appreciate a good thing. Do you know that adage about putting a pearl on the neck of a pig? It would never be appreciated.
We all have a role to play in making our significant partner happy. Go out of your way if you need to because the happiness of your partner would determine yours too. Being manipulative, insensitive, greedy and inconsiderate can ruin your relationship. The moment you don't appreciate the effort your partner is making or has made, you might have just closed the door on future gestures to come. The moment you think your partner is just exploiting you then you can never appreciate any effort.
If you ask anyone what kind of person they would like to date, of course, they would tell you the kind of person they want and that is fine but in reality, I don't think you can ever find that perfect combination. Some might meet your physical criteria but you might have to struggle with some ideals you both share. Some might even meet your ideals and your physical criteria but then distance might be another thing you'd both struggle with. For some, it might be the cultural barrier, some social standards and so on but the moment you feel right about someone then you have to learn how to take the person seriously because finding the right combination is not something you see every day.
Cherish what you have because as someone rightly said, relationships are the miracles of life. No one is perfect and that's why the line of communication must be opened. When you desire to make your partner happy then decisions come easy because the other person too wouldn't want to make you unhappy especially when they know where you stand. Your relationship is a private party for two, stop involving the social media to determine what you would do to keep each other happy.
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I believe choosing a partner is an important part of life. The person we choose will influence us in many ways, and we too will influence him/her. If we want a happy relationship, then we should work for it. And this is not an individual task, it should be a teamwork of two people in love.