It Goes Both Ways.

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One of the favourite things I love talking about is relationships hahaha. It's my favourite topic just like I love talking about love. Someone once said, "I love love, I love being in love, I don't care what it does to me." - Anonymous.

To love is all about courage. No one ever said love is easy. Love requires trust, faith and courage. Just as it takes courage to live in this insane world, it takes courage to have your heart broken and still find the ability to trust your heart into the hands of someone again.

There is no security in love when trust is lacking. It's like climbing the staircase as I have repeated many times. You don't see what's ahead but you keep going in faith. Love can be like that sometimes because you can only trust how deep your love runs without knowing if the other person would change his or her mind along the way.

A relationship without trust breeds fears, insecurity and suspicions which exposes you to a great amount of potential pain and even disappointments or heartbreak. Most people trivialize a good relationship because they feel this person would always run crawling back to them. It's not the best way to treat someone who has committed his or her body, emotions and resources to you, most notably their heart too. When you take for granted people like this, in the long run, you will look back in regret because you traded gold in search of copper...

Having a good relationship is not something you can buy off the shelf in Walmart or trade with another person. It's not a body part nor a business arrangement. When you have someone who loves and values you and that person has become a major force in your life and you trivialize it, you are making light of that gift of grace given to you or in most cases, that you have found. Your partner knows you love them but does it hurt to tell them from time to time? Not because they have forgotten, but an assurance that the way you felt yesterday is the same way you are feeling today. It costs you nothing especially since you feel that way anyway. We all need that assurance or affirmation and it doesn't matter if it's the guy or the girl. It goes both ways and should be done from both sides. No one deserves it lesser than the other.

This is why it is vital to choose the one that you feel is right for you. There is no prize for making a relationship early so I always tell people to take their time. There is no row call if you find a partner quicker than others nor a prize is attached to it. In as much as you are attracted to the physical appearance (which is a bonus, not the real deal) then you have to pay attention to the state of their hearts too. How their heart functions and where they are at mentally matters a lot in a relationship. You don't just want someone beautiful but someone kind. Always go for a partner with a good heart. See how he treats others who can do nothing for him then you can be sure what your reality would be along the line.

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Try and date someone you can call a friend and how do you know if he or she is a friend? You will know by their commitment to you because it would come naturally and they would be selfless. It's never a crime to pray for the love of a good man or woman. The quality of your relationship would even determine how long you will also live hahahaha. Imagine dating someone with a questionable character who won't give you peace? That's a journey to the other world if it persists.

There will always be issues to come and that is expected which is why being friends with each other help. The friendship and the desire to work on things because you would rather be right than lose that person would help you to adjust when situations arise. You can win a lot of fights in a relationship by not fighting and that's the truth. Your idea of a relationship would always play out and rub off in your relationship, so try to pick up on a clean slate but never forget the lessons you learnt while also stating your expectations for your partner.

You need understanding in a relationship and it goes both ways. If a partner is understanding and the other is not, it defeats the purpose and frustrates the other person. A lot will suffer even to the detriment of your health. When you are both committed to the idea of what an ideal relationship should be, with your goals and expectations, it allows you both to be on the same page.

A lot of people in a relationship always want to receive and won't even learn the simple courtesy of giving. Imagine storing a bag of apples in your fridge and you keep taking from it without buying back? We are all humans and there would come a time where we would feel bad and being taken for granted. Same with this lovely platform... Imagine receiving help from people and yet you wouldn't even help others? We need to learn how to give in a relationship and that was why I stressed the importance of going for a partner with a heart; kind. Kindness is the best compliment we can give to anyone, not that they are beautiful or handsome.

Kick your ego to the curb when you are in a relationship. It doesn't translate to affection nor pay the bills. I think I need to stop right here.

Thank you for your time.