Human Ways.
It baffles me to see humans behave in ways you never deemed possible. Well, maybe we sometimes expect too much of certain people and when they finally come short, it gives me this look of disappointment. It's a popular statement we say here in Nigeria that it's painful when you expect wisdom from someone but you are met with foolishness. It disappoints and hurts deeper due to the failed expectations.
Some people are just very comfortable to cause chaos and they enjoy it. It could be because they want to seek relevance and some of them like being in control. We sometimes expect the best of humans and yet they end up disappointing themselves. Life doesn’t come with instructions as I often say and as long as we are alive, we will always see different aspects of humans.
I have seen the despicable character of humans and yet I get surprised even more as new things keep popping up. When you think you have seen it all, you still get shocked to see what's brewing. We expect to see the best of humans but we should be ready to see their worst too. Life is in two folds; the good and the bad...you can throw in the ugly to the bad too because the bad can get ugly so quickly. I have enjoyed the best of humans too and I have been at the receiving ends of their gross misbehaviour...as we have all been.
We get hurt the most from people we least expected but we need to understand that humans will always be humans. We need to make allowances for human behaviour. We need to understand that we are all different; shaped by different exposures and backgrounds, so it is logical that we should think differently, act differently and even see things differently.
I used to get angry when I see people do things I least expected but now, I just smile and turn to the other side, if I wasn’t too angry enough to tell the person what he or she has done wrong. You can pick the vibe from my attitude towards what you did. You will know without me saying words that would now make it escalate and oh boy, there are times I escalated because I just couldn't take it anymore.
Nowadays, I just think to myself ”We are 7 billion in the world, and it is normal to find this kind out of the lot”. Situations will always happen to make you even forget this easily 😂.
Learn to live with the excesses of people... I am still learning too. Learn to put them where they belong if you feel their attitude and actions keep you on the edge every time. Learn to accept the things you cannot control. Human beings will always act as one, so don’t expect to see someone that will act exactly the way you would act, think the way you would think or see things the way you will see them. You were brought up differently. Not everyone can do things the way you would do them. It's this diversity that makes us unique.
Do the things you can do, and leave them to do what they feel they can do. It doesn’t mean you can’t correct people when you feel they have done what you are not okay with. The truth is, some people don’t know what they have done is wrong while some know, but they would rather not see things your way, they would always see things their way. Others would intentionally hurt you because all they have been exposed to in life is hurt and they feel it is perfectly normal to hurt another.
When you get to the point where someone constantly hurts you, you should rather let them be. So many people have become like the people who hurt them. Often what we choose to focus on robs us of seeing the best that could come out of a person. If you choose not to look past everyone’s differences, you will miss out on what they can offer you eventually. That is not to say you shouldn’t seek to guard your heart but you need to evaluate what people bring to the table. If what they add to your life is little compared to the trauma they bring, it is wise to just cut them off.
...to be continued...
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Environment and upbringing play important roles in the life of every human. It determines how we will react and behave with other individuals.
Remembering that everyone isn't you or can't behave as you expected will save you from stress and heartbreaks. That's why I laugh at people who look for Mr perfect and Mrs perfect in relationships.