Give Me Character, Please.
There was a time a lady walked past me and a guy while we were discussing and the guy beside me muttered, "This lady is beautiful". I heard him and I smiled slightly. I knew he would bring it up again because he is the type that would always go over stuff in excitement. He looked at me and said, "Can’t you see how beautiful that lady is?". I said, yes, I can see she is beautiful but I know too much to get excited over beauty on the outside. He must have been expecting that response anyway because he knows me and as usual, he heaved a sigh. He looked at me nonetheless and he said again, "But she is beautiful".
I told him I wasn’t disputing that fact but often many people; both men and women have gotten themselves into trouble because they were focusing on the outside rather than on the inside. The outward is addition and should never be the major thing to look out for. Of course, who wouldn’t love to date someone whose beauty can put nature to shame or a guy that is tall, muscular and handsome? The truth is, it is important but should never be the only condition to decide that someone is beautiful.
A lot of people have endured things they shouldn't all because of "Oh, he is handsome" or "She's such a beauty". When the reality of life hits you, you will know better than to go for someone with good character that would support you rather than JUST a pretty/handsome face.
Beauty should both be on the inside and the outside. We all want to be better but tell me, is it not a misplaced priority when as a lady, all you are focused on is your outward looks and yet your state of mind is shallow? Is it not disappointing for a guy who keeps working on his muscles and yet his character is questionable? It is not beauty that keeps people in a relationship but how you treat them and how you treat them is a function of your character.
A lot of people look so flawless but their character is full of flaws. I'm not saying we should all be perfect but what I am saying is you will know a lot about someone with what they choose to invest in. Your beauty will draw people to you but your character would determine those who will stay with you.
I have seen a lot of guys move closer to a lady, and come back to me to tell me that the lady has no manners. I have seen a lot of ladies with beauty but yet they are full of pride. The more they draw people close, the faster they chase them away with their attitude. You are not expected to be perfect, but you are expected to at least try to be better than you were.
Beauty is important but your character is equally important. The greatest compliment you can receive from anyone isn’t about how handsome or beautiful you look, but how kind you are. Everyone loves a kind person because your kindness will always shine through and everyone would see your beauty in kindness.
Your attitude is another important thing to watch out for. You can admire people from the outside but that doesn’t mean they are wonderful in character. Fame doesn’t equal relevance, age doesn’t equal maturity, beauty is not equivalent to being wonderful, you speak Latin doesn't mean you know how to speak, because you took a vow doesn't mean you know how to love and because two lips met doesn't mean two hearts joined. We need to be able to tell the difference.
We always place more emphasis on beauty rather than character. We are moved by the things we see. Flashy and catchy things always get our attention. We have excused a lot of people from their shortfalls because they are pretty. Being beautiful or handsome gives you this confidence and draws people to you, yes, but never forget that it is your attitude that will determine who will stay after they have gotten to know you.
I will always pick character over beauty. I see beauty as a plus but please be a wonderful person first. Don't just be a container without content. As much as I will appreciate you being fine and classy (everyone knows I always post about beautiful people too, so yes, I have eyes for finer things and people) but I will respect you more when I notice what a wonderful character you have. Seek to be better and kind, see to see the best in others and be of help when and where necessary. The world could use more kind people...kind and full of values.
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To me, if I refer to someone physically attractive I say pretty or gorgeous. I use beautiful to describe someone who is both beautiful inside and out. It is good that you are not a shallow person and you know what matters most.