A Deadly Obsession
Lately, having seen that this platform is populated by Filipinos and Nigerians, I've been trying to just learn a few things about them. There's this Nigerian site called nairaland.com that's kind of become my obsession. The reason for that is that it's like a Twitter do Nigerians. Twitter is becoming increasingly popular for no more than banter and savagery. The platform that rivals it for the number one spot, at least in Nigeria is Nagaland.com. The level of savagery going on there is unbelievable. For every single post you read, you're more interested in the comment rather than the post itself. Nigerians are people who know how to make light, jokes and fun out of any topic, no matter how sensitive.
I came across a certain article that got me thinking though. The guy was supposedly asking for help. I say supposedly because, from a lot of comments I've read on the platform, some people can make up stories just to chase clout or gain relevance on the platform.
So this guy is supposedly married with two kids. He works in a town that's a six-hour drive away from his family. He resides close to his office. He usually came home every week to meet his family, but with increased responsibilities and promotion at the office, it soon went down to once in two weeks and then once a week. The wife could not come to be with him cause she was working in a government establishment. He got this job not quite long after he got married, so for the nine years he had been married, he had been away for six, and in all that time, he was true to his vows.
Due to living alone, he usually had a lot of time on his hand after work. So, he'll use the time t video call his family and chat with others online. It was during one of those evenings he met a lady online and they got talking and became close to the point of exchanging phone numbers. They eventually arranged a harmless date, where they got to know each other better. On another fateful day, the lady offered to come over to help home cook and he agreed. At this point in his post, this guy made a point of praising this girl's cooking and cleaning habits in a way that was subtly condemning his wife. The visit between them became more frequent and the relationship was getting too close.
At some point, the girl had to move from the place she was living and could not afford a new place. This guy who had already taken it upon himself to foot the girl's bill, couldn't afford to get her a place, so they agreed she come stay with him. Soon enough they started having sex, and very often at that, to the point of him calling it sex between two maniacs. At this point again, he made sure to condemn his wife's sexual life and sexuality as being tainted, boring and unsatisfying, claiming sex with the lady was satisfying and fulfilling, that he couldn't have enough of her and she gave him a fulfilled sex life. He made a point of running down his wife and her sexual know-how. They continue doing this for two whole years until the lady decided that she has to get married. Knowing fully well that the man had no plans to marry her, she moved out, but would soon come running back after a short while. They continued having sex with each other while she started dating another guy, and this guy knew every, cos she was open about all of it, but the other guy he was dating didn't know about this mess.
After some time, the girl began to get serious with the other guy while still actively fuck*ng this one. But soon enough she didn't want to keep it up. When he told this guy, they fought and didn't speak to each other for some months. Eventually, the girl came to apologize and they started talking again, howbeit as friends. The girl was also constantly sending him her pictures and he had to rebuke her to be sending them to her boyfriend whom she was now engaged to.
She eventually started calling less and less. But this guy was heartbroken. He was always going to the boyfriend's street to monitor the boy and the girl. He was obsessed. Waking up every morning to view her social feeds first before any other thing. Continually stalking her and the boyfriend turned fiancee. He was asking for help on how to get over his obsession.
Conclusion
I know what my thoughts are on this matter. If I were to advise him, I would be saying nothing about how to get over his obsession, but rather telling him how much of a disease he is on earth. But I don't want to be too judgemental. Hence, I would like to hear your take on this in the comment section.
What do you think he can do to get over his obsession?
What's your take generally on this whole thing??
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No being judgmental or something, but I think both of them need counselling before its too late.