First and foremost, i would like to say a happy new month to everyone on read.cash, wishing you all the best on the second month of the year 2021. As we all know February is a special month because of a particular date, which is February 14th (Valentine's Day). So i would also wish all the couples on read.cash the best on that day 😉. And to the singles like my very self, lol dont worry, dont stress your self about it, on that day, just enjoy yourself and the right one would come at the right time. Because we are in the month of Valentine, my first article for the new month would be relationship related. We are going to look into true happiness in terms of relationship.
over the past few weeks, i have seen alot of post about how you shouldn't be single on the 14th of February, i saw some post on what they would expect on Valentine's day from their loved ones. Which actually put alot of people into pressure, most especially those that are , lol my self included, like if you have read any of my previous articles, you will remember that my relationship of over 3 years now just ended.
Now many people believe they would find true happiness when they have someone by their side, they belive true happiness can only come when there is someone who understands them, appreciate them, and shows them love. Hence the pressure to start dating. The pressure to have a partner, the rush to be in a relationship before February 14th. These things can indeed bring happiness but at the same time it cannot. Before going into a relationship, you should ask yourself why am i going into this?
Relationship is not just about benifits, what they would gain from the relationship, or the intimate moments, or even the feeling of not being alone. ( we would talk more on relationships on the 14th of February, so stay tuned)
Many of our young ones today are into relationships for the wrong reasons, and what happens when they dont find that true happiness? They end the relationship and jump into another one. One thing we need to understand is that before you can get true happiness from your loved ones or partners, you need to find it alone.
One thing we should understand as singles is that your key to happiness is tied to no one but yourself. No one can understand you better than your self. No one can love you more than yourself, no one can encourage or motivate you better than yourself So before you go into a relationship, learn to love yourself, understand yourself, know your weak points and learn to deal with it. Be happy, make yourself happy, and if you can do this, it would be so easy to share that feeling with someone else.
The reason why most relationships crash is also based on the fact that we expect too much from our partners, remember i said no one knows you better than yourself. So if you dont know how to make yourself happy, you will begin to find faults on any little efforts made by your partner. Learn to appreciate the little things in your life, and you will be able to notice the little things.
have this at the back of your mind, staring a relationship is not about what you gain from it, its not about your happiness, its not about your own relationship goals, rather its about both parties, its about putting the interest of the other person over yours.
one mistake we should never make is to rush into relationships out of peer pressure, out let our emotions control our actions. I once rushed into a relationship out of peer pressure, i was feeling left out, i ended up making wrong and rash decisions.
as we await Valentine's day, i wish you all the best, 😉❤
#remember. To feel true happiness, learn how to love yourself and when the right one comes, share that wonderful feelings with them.