Quality over Quantity - the friendship I never thought I will have.

I have a lot of friend.

A lot of best friends.

I can actually be called Miss Friendship.

I can easily get along with people. I can go with the flow. But with moderation. I can do late night party with a lot of people that I thought I can consider a friend. Once my friend asks me to go with her with another circle of friend I will just decide to say yes.

That was me, back then. That was me when I do not know the difference between an acquaintance and a real friend. That was me when all I wanted is to fit in and to be included in all circle of friends. I do not wanted to be left alone. By the way, I shared some of it already on my previous article entitled, "I finally learned how to say no." Yes, I wanted to be always included and to be considered. Not until I reached this age.

I realized that I have a lot of considered friends, which I thought they are.

But before we continue, let's try to define what a friend really means. Google wise it says, Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends prevent loneliness and give you a chance to offer needed companionship, too. Friends can also: Increase your sense of belonging and purpose.

It is well said. Perfectly defined. I agree with this that much.

If I will have to define a friend with my own thought, I would said the same but with just different way of saying it. Because what other definition a real friend could be?

So quality over quantity. I always thought that having a lot of friend is great. I really thought that being in a large circle of friend is awesome. I mean, it is not absurd, but it feels different. How so? I felt that when I started working already.

That when I realized I only need a few people in life that I can consider a true and genuine friend and not just a mere coworker.

1. My wonderful and pretty supervisor

Miss Christe, that's how I call her. She's my supervisor. But you know how great she is? She knows how to deal, how to act, when to act as a supervisor and when not with people. That's how flexible and amazing she is. Why I can say this? She's been my supervisor for long. But she did not act only as my supervisor. She is my sister not by blood but by heart, my financial advisor, my love mentor, and my spiritual teacher. In what way? There's a lot of way that I can't even put it into words. But one thing that made me love her the most, it was when the time I was heartbroken. With that time, I was super wasted, unfocused, and demotivated, which affect my performance in our team. Miss Christe, without hesitation scolded me that time. Yes. She did. She told me how I pulled down the performance of the entire team just because I do not feel like performing well. I cried. I cried out of shame of what I have done just because I am broken. And I say sorry.

Do you know what she did next? After our shift, she reached me out. She said she was not sorry as she just did the right thing. And she's actually correct. I did not complain. Outside work she is really my sister. Because of the brokeness I felt, she brought me to a worship night at their church. She let me burst out to tears, she let me surrender everything to God, she let me feel the pain until I feel no more. I can't even forget the exact message she sent to me, "Katulog hap? Di mag cgeg hilak mulabay ra lagi ang pain trust me. Niagi nako ana.", "Ma feel sad nimo nga murag di ka maulian, pero trust me maulian ka.", "Feel nimo forever na ang pain. Di gyud na." "God has a best story written for you that has not been released yet, you have to wait for it." Exact line. Exact advised given to me at the perfect time, when I needed it the most. That's how Miss Christe is to me. She was there when I have nothing to run to, when I have no shoulder to cry on. She was always available and she is always will. And what's good thing, she is still here even though I finished the brokeness I have. Happiness and sadness, she was there for me, and willing to be with me up until today and to the next days. That's how amazing and genuine kind of friend she is.

2. My manager and mentoring head

Sir Bryan, that's is what I call him. But you know, he preferred to be called amahan which means father, or kuya Bry which means brother. That's how he wanted us to be comfortable with him. He never failed to amaze me how great he is. I find him so perfect and dearing. Just a little trivia, he has a higher position compared to Miss Christe which is my supervisor. Yes, I am closed with one of the highest position staff in the company because that is how humble he is. But how did he play the role in my life as a friend? If you ever read one of my article about my mentoring journey you will know what I mean. So sir Bryan is our Mentor Leader. I am actually not confident to be a mentor that time as I am not good in sharing some important things to a person. I am not good in hadling group as a leader. But as amazing person as he is, he persuaded me, he encourage me, gave me strength that I can make it, that I can bea good mentor. And I did. He was there when I just started my mentoring weeks. He never leave me, he guided me through out until I can adapt the situation. He never fail to say encouraging words to me just for me to continue. And that is how I adore him that much. He is one of a kind friend I ever had.

3. My Mamii

Way back I just used to call her Jheah, but as the days goes by I used to call her mamii (like a mom). Why so? Because she is really one of the purest person I ever met in life. She never faked anything about her. That is so amazing of her. How I wish I can be like my mamii. She is so pure to the point that she can be herself. She is not afraid to show her real personality. She is authentic. And how does she became one of my genuine friend? You know, there are people that we are friend with, that we can tell our secrets with. She is that person, and mamii is like a home for me. That after a long tiring day, I can go home and have her with me. That after everyone left as we have our own path to follow, she is available for me, always. She never missed a day when I needed a friend the most. That's how I love and admire her. Her genuinity and her purity.

CLOSING THOUGHTS:

You can say that I am very lucky to be surrounded with this kind of people in my life. Yes, I can say that I am. Because that is what I have been praying to God. To have the genuine person in my life that I can run to, except from my family. They are always available. I can say that God has been answering my prayers by giving them to me. It is okay that I just have a few people around me, what matters is the quality they have. The genuine and purity they showed. You know what, I wanted to be like them. I wanted to be a person that someone can run to. I wanted to give back all the love I received from these amazing people. I wanted to remind everyone, that if you cannot find someone that is genuine enough that you can trust to, do not waste your time finding them, instead be the one. It will attract the same energy. Because as what they say, who you are with is the reflectio of what you are. And I am very proud that I am surrounded with these amazing and genuine people. That is all thanks to God.

-MissJo 💜

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