Status: More than Friends, less than Lovers

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Happy Tuesday dreamers! How's your day today? I'm kinda busy coping up on my academic requirements. But I'm still grateful because I still manage to overcome all of the deadlines today. I hope that you are also happy on the results of your Tuesday. Don't forget to be grateful on the small progress you had every single day.


Are relationship really need to be labelled? Or let me rephrase it, are you okay to have a no label relationship? Like you know to each other that you have a mutual feelings but you are not certain what's really your status. You act like a couple but there's no clear definition of what the relationship is or how's your relationship going. It just like that you are more than Friends but less than lovers.

There is someone who engage herself to a no label relationship. For her, it is much better than having an actual relationship. As long as she guarantee that man also have a same feelings as her. They are happy on the first quarter of that kind of relationship. Still they are keep updating each other, what they are doing, where they go and so on. They are happy knowing that there is someone who loves them beyond friendship. But as that no label relationship goes by, the struggles comes along. The man became busy so he can't update just like before. Of course, the girl message her to know if he is really okay. But the guy suddenly got annoyed and tell to the girl " Please stop. You are not my girlfriend to demand something". And that reply really hits her hard. She realize that there's no official label between them so they can't all each other as boyfriend/girlfriend. So what's really their relationship. Mutual flings?

That's why sometimes I find it so complicated when someone said to me that she/he is in the no label relationship. Like, you can't demand time or an immediate reply because you know that you don't have a right to asking for. You can't express those things and actions that hurts you because maybe he will asked " Ano ba kita?". It's really complicated because it seems that you invest on something without assurance. Anytime, he/she can cut ties between the two of you. You will be hurt but you can't asked for damage for casualty. But I'm also wondering why there are some people who prefers this kind of relationship than having a relationship with a proper label. Some respond me that it is easier to dive on the no label relationship because it is not suffocating just like a normal relationship. Some also respond that it's because they are still not ready for a commitment that a romantic relationship requires. So what's really going on? Are those people see " No Label Relationship" as a joke time? How about the other half that seriously give his love and attention to you? I think it's really unfair. If someone is not really ready to commit then he should not enter to any kind of relationship with label or none. I can't really get it or maybe because I just not experiencing it yet? Is it really hard to turns that relationship into an official one? I believe that you must define what's really your relationship.

But I know that it is also depend on the situation. I also know someone that also have a No Label relationship but until now, they are still on each other's side. Some also wants their relationship to be chill and low key. Not everyone survive on this kind of relationship but there is also some who find their real happiness because of it. Some still have personal priorities so they choose no label relationship. They choose it over because they don't want to pressure and rush things between them, as long as they know that the assurance and mutual feelings is there. They are just enjoying each other's companion. Someone also told me that sometimes entering to a " No label Relationship" is a great way to know the person much better. It seems that you give a free pass and to know what he will actually doing with it. It really depends but as an advice, don't invest too much love, you might get hurt later.


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I've been in the thing called situationship. It was only good at first until you realize, what are you both exactly? The feelings are there, you both care for each other, and you both say I love you's, but it's still confusing to think because neither the two of you have opened up about what your label is. The ugliest part of being in a relationship wherein you are more than friends, less than lovers is that you are not sure of the other person's feelings.

It's already a red flag if the guy says that he doesn't want any label on your relationship. It's all about flirting only and no commitment. Automatically, move away from that kind of people. You deserve better. We deserve better than just flirting.

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2 years ago

💯 We really deserve to have a man/girl na kaya tayong panindigan

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2 years ago

For me, I will not settle for that, ang sakit Kaya niyan. Mahirap umasa sa wala. Ang love give and take din, di pwede Yong one sided sa akin, sobrang hirap pag ganon.

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2 years ago

If nag decide na mag go sa no label relationship dapat alam lang kung saan lulugar. Kapag naman di okay, dapat una palang nililinaw na para walng assume assume na magaganap. Ako si ako okay sa ganyan pero kasi parang ang bilis nalang sa iba na magpalit nf feelings ee. One moment mahal ka tas biglang wala na pala. Maigi pa walang label nalang, tas bumitaw kung sino ang gustong bumitaw.

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2 years ago

Ang lalim ng hugot mo ate haha. Pero tama, minsan kase bigla na lang magbabago feelings nung isa tapos clueless ka anong nangyari

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2 years ago

Hahaha, diba. Mapapatanong kapa san ba ko nagkulang, lol.

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2 years ago

Parang hindi maganda pag walang label yung relationship langga nuh kasi parang laro-laro lang. Parang walang kaseryosohan pag ganun.

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2 years ago

Kaya nga ate, wala ka pong pinanghahawakan

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2 years ago

I agree, lalo na sa last part. Kasi it still depends on your preference. May mga couples na it works for them yung no label set up, depende na lang sa personality ng tao or both parties. I remember na may friend ako na gusto kong jowain, he's a nice guy pero I feel like he doesn't want labels sa relationship kasi nakkwento nya na ang parents nya nga ay di kasal and yet they remained committed to each other. Gusto ko sana patulan yung ganung set up pero the inner me says no kasi I've been longing for constant assurance ever since though I wanted a low key relationship, my anxiety hits me and says no. Hahahaha.

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2 years ago

Asa tao talaga ate noh pero kahit ano naman may label or wala, masasaktan ka pa rin especially if nagmahal ka nang sobra haha

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2 years ago

Yaaay, you wont call it a relationship if there is no label. They are investing time , effort and feelings without label ? It is just an easy escape to end the "no end" thing relationship. That's st*pidity pardon my word.If one party tells you that "ok lets take it a shot but with no label set up" goodness better not to start it at all. Red flag is waving!

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2 years ago

Exactly, there's a high chance that it will be toxic sooner or later

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2 years ago

Wala naman talagang kasiguruhan ang lahat kaso di naman yun masosolusyunan ng walang label kuno relationship. It won't save you from pain just in case it did'nt work. It won't be as casual as tbey thought it would be kapag umayaw na ang isa. Masasaktan at makakasakit pa rin either way.

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