Status: More than Friends, less than Lovers
Happy Tuesday dreamers! How's your day today? I'm kinda busy coping up on my academic requirements. But I'm still grateful because I still manage to overcome all of the deadlines today. I hope that you are also happy on the results of your Tuesday. Don't forget to be grateful on the small progress you had every single day.
Are relationship really need to be labelled? Or let me rephrase it, are you okay to have a no label relationship? Like you know to each other that you have a mutual feelings but you are not certain what's really your status. You act like a couple but there's no clear definition of what the relationship is or how's your relationship going. It just like that you are more than Friends but less than lovers.
There is someone who engage herself to a no label relationship. For her, it is much better than having an actual relationship. As long as she guarantee that man also have a same feelings as her. They are happy on the first quarter of that kind of relationship. Still they are keep updating each other, what they are doing, where they go and so on. They are happy knowing that there is someone who loves them beyond friendship. But as that no label relationship goes by, the struggles comes along. The man became busy so he can't update just like before. Of course, the girl message her to know if he is really okay. But the guy suddenly got annoyed and tell to the girl " Please stop. You are not my girlfriend to demand something". And that reply really hits her hard. She realize that there's no official label between them so they can't all each other as boyfriend/girlfriend. So what's really their relationship. Mutual flings?
That's why sometimes I find it so complicated when someone said to me that she/he is in the no label relationship. Like, you can't demand time or an immediate reply because you know that you don't have a right to asking for. You can't express those things and actions that hurts you because maybe he will asked " Ano ba kita?". It's really complicated because it seems that you invest on something without assurance. Anytime, he/she can cut ties between the two of you. You will be hurt but you can't asked for damage for casualty. But I'm also wondering why there are some people who prefers this kind of relationship than having a relationship with a proper label. Some respond me that it is easier to dive on the no label relationship because it is not suffocating just like a normal relationship. Some also respond that it's because they are still not ready for a commitment that a romantic relationship requires. So what's really going on? Are those people see " No Label Relationship" as a joke time? How about the other half that seriously give his love and attention to you? I think it's really unfair. If someone is not really ready to commit then he should not enter to any kind of relationship with label or none. I can't really get it or maybe because I just not experiencing it yet? Is it really hard to turns that relationship into an official one? I believe that you must define what's really your relationship.
But I know that it is also depend on the situation. I also know someone that also have a No Label relationship but until now, they are still on each other's side. Some also wants their relationship to be chill and low key. Not everyone survive on this kind of relationship but there is also some who find their real happiness because of it. Some still have personal priorities so they choose no label relationship. They choose it over because they don't want to pressure and rush things between them, as long as they know that the assurance and mutual feelings is there. They are just enjoying each other's companion. Someone also told me that sometimes entering to a " No label Relationship" is a great way to know the person much better. It seems that you give a free pass and to know what he will actually doing with it. It really depends but as an advice, don't invest too much love, you might get hurt later.
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I've been in the thing called situationship. It was only good at first until you realize, what are you both exactly? The feelings are there, you both care for each other, and you both say I love you's, but it's still confusing to think because neither the two of you have opened up about what your label is. The ugliest part of being in a relationship wherein you are more than friends, less than lovers is that you are not sure of the other person's feelings.
It's already a red flag if the guy says that he doesn't want any label on your relationship. It's all about flirting only and no commitment. Automatically, move away from that kind of people. You deserve better. We deserve better than just flirting.