If I became a parent, I will not...

Good evening dreamers of read cash universe. How are you? I guess most of us are happy because tomorrow is holiday, meaning we have some time to rest. But not at all because our parents especially our Mom don't have day off. Their duty and responsibilities on their family never ends. Anyways no matter how tiring our workload today, I hope that you can still enjoy your life and have some time to breath and have a break. Don't overwork yourself okay?

Earlier, one of our prof asked us what is the thing that we currently experiencing that we will not want our future child to experience too. A moment of silence in the whole meeting, no one wants to talked to. Maybe it's because we are shy to speak or we are too stunt to share it. That question is out of the blue, even my prof admit that he doesn't know why he suddenly asked that one. So he tend to call random names and we shared our thoughts. And it keeps bugging on my mind right now so I choose to use this as my topic.

I know that no one is perfect even our parents. Even should be our model, sometimes they still commit mistakes and I believe that it's normal since they are only human too. But I still admire them for their courage and love for us. No one can defeat the love of our parents right? Maybe sometimes we tend to misunderstand each other, but at the end of the day we still looking for them. We still searching for their love and comfort because family is everyone home. But just like a normal family, mine also have flaws and I accept that because I know to myself that I also have one. And I love each other so it's okay.

So go back to the main topic. If I will become a parent, I will not let my child feel that he/she is alone on the battles she have in life. I want to be his bestfriend. I want him to be comfortable to share with us all of the worries and doubt he have in mind. I also asked him " Are you okay? You can cry on Mom's shoulder" This is the thing that I seldom experience to my parents. It is also because we're not living on the same roof now and I don't want my Mom to be worried about me. She also thinks that I'm very strong that's why she never asked me if I'm okay or how am I. But I'm not mad on her since I know that she believes on my ability and she silently praying for my well-being. I'm okay and happy with that.

If I will become a parent, I will not tolerate my child's bad behavior. This is for sure that I will not spoiled him. Yeah, maybe if I know that the things that he wants really have a good benefits on him or makes him happy, so I will give it to him but if I know that it can harm him, so it's a big No. Not all of our desire is really helpful to us. If I know that he hurt someone's feeling, I teach him on how to apologize sincerely and how to act like a real man. I want him to know how to accept mistakes and defeat in life. I don't want him to be disrespectful especially on the elders. As much as possible I want him to be a good and humble kid. I believe that every parent here wants to be their kids like this right?

If I will become a parent, I will not pressured him on his studies. I know the feeling on being pressured and having high expectations from other people so I don't want my child experience that too. I will make him understand that education is important but at the same time, I give him a right to live his own life. I let him to enjoy his life while also pursuing his dreams. If he wants to take a break, so I'll bring him to the sea to watch the sunset and have some fresh air. If he wants to rest, so I let him to sleep. I know that he can still achieve his life even sometimes he pause for a while. And whatever his dream profession, I will support him with my two hands cheering on him.

If I will become a parent, I will not let them to be suffocated on their environment. I let them to choose on what kind of friend or people they want to be part of their life but I never let them to be with the toxic one. I teach them on how to protect their emotional and mental well being. As much as possible, I don't want them to suffered to be mentally tired to the point that they want to end their lives. I want them to feel that they life is valuable as the rarest diamond. I want them to treat the world as a happy place for them.

If I will become a parent, I will not let them to sleep with misunderstanding to each other. We tried to fix the problem so they will not overthinking about it and they can able to sleep peacefully. I don't want them to cry while thinking what they did wrong. They deserve to be understand and they also need to understand their parents well. I think good communication with them is the key. I also not let them to be feel that I'm comparing them with other kids or to their siblings. I will let him feel that he is also deserve to love and attention.

I think that is only some of the things that I will not let my future child to be experience. But I also believe that it's hard because admit it or not, being a parent never been so easy. It seems a roller coaster that they have many unexpected things might happened especially that the generation today is a lot different. But as they said, we should not get tired to understand our child because as a parent, we are the only one who can show support and understand them well. So big respect to all the parents out there, I salute you for being brave and for being our home. You teach us the good lessons in life. But while writing this, I also remember that I don't have a plan to have my own family haha. I just want to be crazy rich Tita who spoiled my nieces and nephews haha. I guess that life is much easier lol.

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