To What Extent Can A Parent Go?
No doubt another magic I've seen on the face of the world, a extra kind of force, a new definition of love, a complete selflessness. For someone who is so self centered and care more for himself while in his or her youth only to become a parent and thus ready to face off with death and not back down. It's as though one has found a true purpose in life, something to live for finally, or in this case someone to live for finally. It makes no sense when you see them outside the confines of family matters, this individuals would still put theirselves first at work, in society even in the neighborhood, however they dont think of theirselves in matters of their kids.
I thought for a while it was because we were still young and delicate, as our innocent and heart melting looks might have been the reason for their compassionate care for us, however I grew up to see this love doesn't dissolve with time, even till the children become women and men having separate family the love still stays. Indeed parenting is a lifetime job and the best thing is you'll love it, its one job everyone prays to get, the opportunity to breed a life, and prove to the world that you can cater for those whom God almighty have placed in your care, an opportunity to prove your leadership and family bonds.
There are other factors however that can reduce the rate at which this love are expressed, I'll be looking quickly at some reasons why parents love can grow soft on their kids, like you'll just notice that these parents who once went out of their way for their kids are no more putting such tremendous effort to help and guide their kids, what could be the possible reasons behind this. I'm not referring to those strong hearted people who never really did place their kids before theirselves, those are never true parents, they only have a child, I'm referring to the proper parents who truly don't care as much as they originally did anymore.
I'm guessing one of the major reason is distance and communication lags, as much as we say distance have little or no effect on parental love but it can differs, often time we've seen people leave the comfort and confines of their parents residence in pursuit for their own lives, however their attitudes during this time apart surely has it influence, as any normal human and any normal parents would hope that the fruits he or she has been growing would someday serve him, now should they notice the fruits has no intents to serve, they gradually lose hope and this can depreciate the extent to which their initial love could go.
Adopting new habits or addictions could also reduce the extents, addiction are quite strong on people and you never can tell when someone would get spellbound to an habit. A father in the quest to make enough can get into gambles and game by game he believes more in luck and sinks deeper into the need to play, now it's all he thinks about that one game, that one jackpot, as though he would stop afterwards but it never stops, it's harder than you think, no money is enough, no game is the final game, stop as soon as you know its wrong. Addictions are different, for some its drugs, foods, sex and the likes and this can take the love space of the heart thereby shifting the kids aside.
I know no one should expect this next reason but it's TRUE. The world we live in is a magical place and at such there are different magical we see and experience, some are good magic and some dark, to this reason we begin to wonder why a strong love of a parents to his children can be broken or drastically reduced and you may discover that it could be a spell, a curse and to such there is a need for spiritual remedies. For whatever reason best suited to the perpetrators, they can carry out this evil compulsion to change the possible outcome of things to their favour, so my recommendation is to pray, pray and pray to God.
This kind of love is selfless, it doesn't matter if the child loves in return or not, they have chosen to love, their hearts have accepted from inception, indeed it's hard to unlove. With these understand we begin to understand the concept of Gods love for us all, he truly is the best father more caring than any earthly father can. Truly we are watched by two great parents the greatest one being our Creator who knows us by name and watches our every steps, and ofcourse the lovely humans through which we came to the world.
God bless every good parent out there, your acts of selflessness would surely pay back in the future, love you've sown so a greater harvest of love and care you shall reap in Jesus Name Amen. Thank you for reading this, its always my delight to have you here with me. Have a lovely and productive day.
I fear that my kid will not love me as she grows old and I will try hard to be her mother, bestfriend and sister too. Parenting is a job for a lifetime, yes. A job that doesn't need promotion or high salary in return, hoping that raising a good human being is what makes parenting all worth it.