Talk To Somebody

It's a good way of letting out that intense emotion, get someone who listen to hear you out, some people just need someone to talk to, the fact that they bear it all by themselves would keep them thinking and possibly taking wrong actions. I'm particularly tired of seeing people flare up over the littlest of cases and you begin to wonder how something so simple could get them so red hot. Well most times what we fight about isn't what we are fighting about. More reason why we need to constantly engage people in heartfelt discussions, know about their welfare and be as reassuring as possible, a listening ear can do more than we think.

You also need a listening ear in your life, how lucky are those whose partners are their closest friends, how lucky are those kids whose parents are their friends, because friendship is the real basis for heartfelt discussions. Families is a solid bond but how many families have their brothers, sisters or parents engaged in their every day life, not much for real. The people who we do the most with is that person who has little ties with you, whom you could do crazy things with and feel like no one would know about it, or your parents would find out at least, so unless our family can fit into that friendship shoe, they may not be able to offer the listening ear needed.

People go through a lot, really the world though magical really isn't a friendly place, because its more affected by human decisions and actions and many of this actions are mostly out of greed and selfishness, therefore other people are bound to bear the consequences for this actions. Just like a government taking decisions to steal money which would lead to inflation or recession, all this directly proportional to the poor masses suffering more, or a guy lying about his feelings for a girl, only for her to be fooled, slept with and left alone, or the regular theft of the streets, even a disappointment of something that looked certain, all this puts someone in a depressed state.

Because we are silent doesn't mean all is well, because one is in a cafeteria eating doesn't mean he is having the best time of his or her life. Only true friends should be able to relate and encourage accordingly. I've seen crazy personalities, almost like the comic Joker, even with their world falling apart, they would still appear alright and jovial, as though all is perfect, so good a acting you couldn't guess, as much as I am against such attitude, but you really can't blame them, they probably have experienced a lot of betrayal and back stabbing. You might need to prove beyond doubt before they let you in into their space.

Someone would ask, why should I be so concerned about someone else's matter? Well it's hard to care about just anybody's personal issues, but when it's about someone you deeply care about then you'll find it easier to care, that's why It's said as find someone, you don't just find anyone cause everybody is anyone, but that friend who would listen and probably talk you through the process may not be easy to locate, but hopefully we find them and they find us too, cause they too go through their lot and they sure do need someone to listen to them ranting and pouring out those deep emotions.

In other words we also need to build capacity to be confidants ourselves, we need to be trusted and valued even to our close pals. Good we found someone emotionally intelligent enough to accept us in our downtime but are we likewise, can they come running to us also when need be, they need not be the only ones we could help out, someone else's might need to talk to you someday based on how hospitable you appear, might be a complete stranger which I find odd by the way, but you can never tell how situations present themselves, could be on a train home, could be on a rescue mission, just remain emotionally intelligent.

The good of this is numerous, people sometimes need to get reassurance. people sometimes need to know there is a second chance to correct the wrong, people sometimes need to know life is only just beginning and they must not let the current issue weigh them down. Sometimes our words help people see clearly what their emotions have been blinding them to see, sometimes people need to see things on a different view, so much lies in we offering a listening hear or we talking to someone, learn to engage people in heartfelt discussions.

Really let's learn to engage people in heartfelt discussions, we never know who needs us even when they don't think they need anyone. Talk to someone and build capacity to help others. I really appreciate your time spent reading. Stay blessed, it's going to be an awesome week.