Give Her Warm Hugs

October 19,2022 Wednesday

Being away from our own country is quite a hard to deal. Though some of my friends settle down with some foreigners and already live abroad. For them, I know they miss being here at times but technology makes it easy for them to adjust and live happily away from here.

Actually, I decided to have this article right after having a conversation with a friend. We haven't seen each other for years but stay connected online. She is nice and I pray for her always to be safe and be happy abroad. She used to be a colleague way way back and became a godmother of my daughter. We do not talk much however I always send her greetings especially during her birthdays and some important celebrations.

Many years ago, many of my friends recommend some foreigners for me but I am just too lazy to have time. I always gave them many reasons, but honestly I am just afraid to go abroad and my English is not so good. Though when some of my friends married foreigners, I have no choice but to pull out all my english to have some conversation with them during acquaintances. Hahaha, I really cannot imagine myself before talking basic english and kinda trembling at times in front of them.

I decided to write after a friend confessed about the real reason why she suddenly flew home from Turks. It's been almost a month after she let me know that she's already home. I never ask much because she just lose his husband a month ago. She is not okay and coping. Since I am not an expert councilor, I tried to introduce her this platform so she can write whatever she wants to burst out just to lessen what she feels. I am very much worried that I want to see and visit her but distance and work forbids me. So from time to time, I check on her by messaging a bit and told her that I will visit the soonest. We exchange messages and then she suddenly confessed everything. I was shocked and again never knew how to continue our conversation.

I was saddened and I just want to give her a warm hug if she is right in front of me. No words but just a hug.

I know she is in pain after losing her husband due to some illness but there must be other reasons why she suddenly flew home. I never pull out my guts to ask about her husband's children as I do not know she will response to it. Yet giving me the details today answers all my hidden questions.

She had enough and she was threatened by her late husband's children. So she leave and made some police escorted her to the airport just to have a successful flight back to the Philippines. I cannot imagine her, packed a few things and hurriedly leave the house as if someone is chasing to kill you. It was traumatic, right?

Since her husband died without last will and testament, according to their law, the 50percent of the assets will be given to the wife and the other 50percent will be divided by his children. The children did not agree with it and threatened to kill her. The next day, she leave the house with nothing. So to my curiousity, I googled about the inheritance and here's what I've got.

In Florida, as elsewhere, if you don’t have a will, then you’re considered to have passed away ‘intestate’, and the following happens to your estate.

If you have no children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and so on, your estate passes to your surviving spouse. If there are surviving children, grandchildren, etc, and they’re the children of both you and your surviving spouse, and neither of you have children from other relationships, then the estate still goes to your spouse.

If you do have children from other relationships, it’s split between them and your surviving spouse.

From then on, if there’s no surviving spouse, the estate passes to children, grandchildren and so on. If there are no descendants, it goes back up to parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles…

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No matter what, my friend really have her rights as the legal wife. Though she will never go back there anymore. She said, there are a lots of their things left there though everything are just material things. What is important, that she is back in her own country unharm. If she will stay a bit longer there, something bad might happen to her because she is all alone. That is why, my heart was heavy knowing what she had gone through. I wanted to cry for her and hug her to lessen her heavy loads. I wanted to comfort her because it was really traumatizing.

For now, I will just pray for her healing. I want her to take all her time to move on and be healed. If she needs someone, I am just here. Willing to comfort her with my warmest hug. Nobody can tell how long will it takes for her to be okay but we will surely be there for her along the way.

📷 Images from Unsplash and mine.

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