It's normal to feel angry from time to time in response to certain situations because we humans have emotions. But sometimes people experience an uncontrollable anger that often escalates, especially when the provocation is minor. In this case, anger is not a normal anymore and may lead you to danger if you let anger manifest in yourself it will be a major problem to face.
For me anger isn’t a ‘bad’ emotion. It can actually help you to be honest or to stand up for something you believe in. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with feeling angry. What matters is how you cope with and express your anger. Just don't let anger overpower you so that you can still balance your emotions and decide properly.
Are you ready to get your anger issues under control? Here are some anger management tips to start by:
•THINK TWICE BEFORE YOU VOCALIZE
-Thinking before you speak is a really good habit to develop, to avoid causing trouble in your life. This will also help us understand more the situation before doing something like replacing the negative idea to something positive.
-In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
•KEEP CALM WHEN YOU'RE IN A SITUATION
-Staying calm allows your mind to think properly and take decisions accordingly. Calming yourself prevents fight and allows you to settle things in a calm manner. Having the clarity in mind is very important in dealing difficult situations or urgent one because it will provide you the solution you're looking for.
-As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.
• ENGAGE YOURSELF IN PHYSICAL ACTIVITIES
-Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. It will also boost your immune system and helps your brain works productively. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.
•TAKE A BREAK
- Taking a break for at least 10 minutes every hour can help to reset your mood, it promotes positive wellbeing and reducing stress. It also helps your mind to be relax and maintain your productivity all throughout the day.
-Timeouts aren't just for players in a game. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry.
•PRACTICE FORGIVENESS
-Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship. Forgiveness matters, and we will be its primary beneficiary because it will help us develop peace to go on in life.
-Being a forgiving person not only leads to healthier relationships, but also to lowered blood pressure, better heart health, and even a stronger immune system. So we must practice this one so that anger issues won't dominate.
•APPLY HUMOR SOMETIMES
- Sometimes when a conversation is getting serious and you know it will lead you to an argument, if this happens apply some jokes to release tension.
-Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what's making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though it can hurt feelings and make things worse.
You are right. Religiously it is even normal to get angry but do not sin.
My dad do say that an angry man is worse than a mad man, because an angry man would cross the road unaware of a coming vehicle because of the anger in him. But a mad man will still be conscious of the coming vehicle.