Repairing a relationship or breaking a relationship

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A 27-year-old woman consulted me via Facebook chat. The woman told me about her relationship with her boyfriend. She felt a dilemma to choose to continue the relationship or end the relationship with her boyfriend. From the story she told, she often quarreled over trivial things. Differences in opinion often make her boyfriend angry. The woman is often seen as defensive and often makes excuses. Her boyfriend thinks that she is not able to fulfill the request to please her boyfriend. In the end, she was at a loss to choose between maintaining the relationship or ending it.

From the story she told, it seemed a relationship with poor communication. There are many incompatibilities between them so they often fight. In a relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend, it will be easier to do when they both have the same goals and vision, and mission. Many couples start a relationship without the intention of being in a relationship until the stage of marriage. Things like this should be discussed in advance with your partner and also confirmed. Will this relationship last until the stage of marriage or just having fun?

If the relationship is just for fun, it's better to let go and find another partner who makes life happier and less stressful. However, if a relationship reaches the stage of marriage, then this relationship must be seriously repaired. Many people can't tell the difference between a wedding and a wedding party. Before the wedding takes place some things are quite difficult to do, namely preparing for the wedding. Many things must be planned before the wedding takes place such as the vision and mission to be achieved in marriage, the role of husband and wife in living together, financial management, etc.

The things I mentioned above are just a few of the many plans that must be discussed with the couple. Many couples after marriage and then divorce in the future because they never discussed wedding planning before they got married. Planning the vision and mission of marriage is very important because the relationship when dating is different from the relationship after marriage. Maybe when dating, decisions can be made by one party only, but not so after marriage. Therefore, establishing the principles of marriage before you get married is important.

The important thing that must be considered in a relationship with a partner is mutual respect, creating a sense of empathy, and good communication. If there is a slight difference in point of view in a relationship, it is better not to talk about who is right and who is wrong. But looking for a solution together to improve the relationship. As we know that dating or getting married is the union of two different persons. Therefore, good communication is an important way to maintain a relationship.

In addition, paying attention to the goodness of both parties will make the relationship work well. This is also one of the important things in my opinion. Have you ever seen the perfect match? What makes a perfect relationship? What is the relationship that two perfect people have? The answer is NO! A perfect relationship will be created when two imperfect people want to learn and understand the differences between their partners for the better.

This is all I can say. May we all be able to improve relations with our partners. Thank you

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There is no perfect relationship. A relationship is surrounded by understanding and mid-understanding. If the two parties choose to understand each other it can be last, and if the two parties wanted to be strong enough it will happen. The relationship is made between two people who love each other, and if this relationship would be in the next stage like a wedding or marriage the two parties must have understood the consequences of it. And be loyal to each other. They need to talk about what they wanted to talk about, they need to understand each other, they need to be loyal to each other and think about each other before doing anything. So no more mid-understanding to be happened.

Good communication and understanding are one of the best ways to do for a couple but of course loyal and trust are most needed too.

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1 year ago

hi, sorry just read your comment. Because I have been inactive for a long time due to my busy work. Indeed, good communication must always be considered to maintain a strong relationship. Disputes and disagreements are common in relationships. It can be fixed with good communication. thank you my sis. how are you?

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1 year ago

I believe there's always reason why relationship ended and or why it's worth fighting for.. Anyways, I agreed with things should be discussed early before going into deeper relationship like marriage. As for my experience I'm not really good communicating when it comes to what I've feel most of the time. Then, later, I've realized how hard it was with my partner to just be silent and not be honest about it. Blessed that I have this very patient man with me. Therefore, communication also plays the vital role in relationship.

I'd like to compliment you writing this article --this could help anyone especially those who just getting started with their love story. ^_^ Thank you my dear. Have a good day.

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1 year ago

Thank you for visiting and providing feedback in the comments. I recommend you to communicate with your partner more often.

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1 year ago

You're right. Also, some people are scared of defining their relationship. Some people are having fun but they are so shy or scared of defining it to each other. It is very common

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1 year ago

some people also seem happy but are not. You're right, maybe they are shy so cover it up to appear happy. This is tantamount to lying to themself.

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