Is It Better if a Man Loves a Woman More?

Do Relationship Works Better if the Man Loves the Woman More?

Date a man who loves you more because he will love everything you hate about yourself. He will be patient, kind, he will know when to apologize and when to be quiet. He will never yell. He will laugh at your jokes and find you beautiful at your worst. He will love you unconditionally and do everything for you.

• @MissPyscho | Tiktok | Relationship

This message if from the Tiktok which I truly agree; not just based on my own experience but also on how I observe other relationships.

Just recently when I visit one of my friend, let's just call her Teresa not her real name. Teresa is a very generous and kind friend. We are friends for almost 8 years that I already know what kind of personality she has. Although I am so busy, me and my other bestfriend still visit here as she is being broken hearted. I have been following here in social media that I saw how happy she is despite of all the challenges life gave to here. She don't have anyone in life now, but her boyfriend makes her whole. Before her mom die, her boyfriend already asked for blessing to marry her someday. Her life became balance, and she was able to forget all the pain just seeing her boyfriend, but all of these love fade just like a bubble when her boyfriend broke up with her.

We comfort and serve as her listener, but one thing I observed is that she never said any negative things to the boy. I wanted her to be hurt with the reality; the more the pain, the more realization she can gain. Still, she defend the boy and blame everything to herself, saying that she truly love the boy.

At night, when everything is quiet and at peace, she open up again saying that in their 2 years of relationship, she never feel any effort from the boy. She never experience surprises, no sweet effort and it is her who give money to the boy. She just ignore all of these as according to her, "my love for him is more".

I felt so sad hearing her confession, it only shows that she love the boy more than the boy loves her. As of now, she's still in pain while having no communication from the boy.

You might say, "No, in love it must be equal". But in reality, equal treatment is rear to find. There's always one person who puts effort and try to understand everything more. But is it better if a man loves you more?

In my past relationship, I can say that I love the boy more than he loves me. I give all the effort and I understand how complicated his life is, I shallow my pride just for him but he just left like everything is so easy to digest. My friend even said, "I see you as a woman with a high standards. Why you end up like that?" This response keeps running in my head that makes me laugh how fool I am that time.

So for girls out there, who are still single and waiting for the right man. Get a man who loves you more. A man who doesn't live in fake promises but rather gives you surprises. Surprises doesn't only mean tangible gifts but the effort that you can't imagine you deserve. If a man loves you more, he will serve as your foundation and peace of mind. You don't need to worry about cheating because he will never make you feel it, but to make other girls jealous because of how he treat you, and that he have you.

Don't settle for a man who is not good for your mental health. Remember, you can choose your partner, but your kids cannot choose on who will be their father.

Ps. Not all men are like this. There are still a lot of men out there who are a great blessing.

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October 11, 2022

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