Learn to say no is not a bad thing

Acquiescent person are the type of people that tends to accept or allow what everyone gave, demand, and offer to them. They're the type of people who's having a hard time and can't say no to someone when they were being asked to do some tasks. Many people struggling too say ‘NO’ and ending up saying yes when asked to do something, because they don’t want to be the reason that someone else feels that way.

Helping others is a good thing, it is a virtue we must acquire. But there are times that we must say "No" no matter what. Like when, our schedule is full and we don't have time for it, when we feel being used, and even when we just don't wanted to help is also a reason not to say Yes in a request. Even though there are people who still can't say "No" to an offer that's why here's the list and steps of how we say no to an offer.

Be straightforward

When we don't wanted to say no or just getting too shy rejecting the offer we tend to say words in an offer like, "maybe" or "I'm not sure" or "I don't think so" . Make sure that the words you use is easy to understand that what you mean to an offer is a "no". Be straightforward and not use any confusing answer like "maybe later" , "Next time" or "when I have a free time" this will results for them to expect that you will going to do it some other time. Thus they will kept on asking you in the following time about the same question.

Explain yourself briefly

Hearing "No" when you asked someone is really sad. That's why to help soften your answer and help the person understand why you decline. That's why, it will be respectful and polite to give brief explanation of reasons of why you are saying "No" to an offer. It is now our responsibility to give a long explanation with the complete details. Just a short explanation will do, like one to two sentences is enough. Make sure you didn't lie about your reason so that you'll not face future confrontation.

As for my opinion, saying "no" is enough to understand that you done wanted to do such thing. And that you don't need to explain your side. However, to be more respectful we need to explain it

Bring an alternative

Setting clear boundaries for yourself is a good thing for other people to learn how to respect your time and work. Everyone will going to understand that you also need time for yourself. And doing that thing will make you easier to say "no" to an offer.

There are lot of alternative if you really wanted to help a person but you just can't do it in the mean time or if you just don't wanted to make that person feel bad about you rejecting the offer. For example, when you friends asked you to help him on something that he's having a hard time but you are too busy in the mean time, you could say"I'm sorry but I am busy in my own task right now, if you still need me before this week end I can lend you a hand. " This will show respect and you friend will seeing you that you really wanted to help, but you're too occupied and that's when they will learn to respect your boundaries

Be firm to your answer

When you already say "No" after being asked an offer, keep that as your final answer and don't answer "yes" in another time. Because this will make you answer yes when you will be asked for another time. By keeping your stance other people will then know that you can not be easily persuade

Closing Thoughts

"FREEDOM IS NOT THE ABILITY TO SAY YES. IT IS THE ABILITY TO SAY NO"

One important ability we could obtain is the ability to say "No" when being asked. This will make you prevent things you don't want to do, you may find yourself in challenging situations. Stand for yourself! When you feel you can't do it , you don't wanted to do it, or it will not give you some gain,then it will be better to say "No".