Learned not changed

Do you have a friend where you notice that s/he looks like changed in a sudden period of time? The feeling that s/he always cheerful when s/he's with you and your friends but one day, s/he changed.

If you noticed these things to your friend, it's better to ask him if he is okay becaue he might be experiencing a hard and serious situation. You know, it's hard to become a stressed and depressed person.

Today, let's forgot for the meantime the crypto things (I experienced FOMO 😭). Now, let's talk about our life and personal experience. Let me share this to you.

I have one friend who always cheerful when he is on his friends. He used to laugh and motivate everyone when the atmosphere look so gloomy. He also known as a funny person in the ir peers but one day he changed a lot.

Even our friends always asking him if he is fine but he always answered a smile or should I say a 'bitter smile".

I'm curious because I don't know what happened to him so I asked him since we're also close friend.

Our conversation is in our native language which is tagalog but I will translate it in English.

"Hey bro are you okay?"

"Hmm? yeah"

"You sure?"

"Can I share and open up my problems to you?"

"Yeah it's fine. You've changed a lot bro"

"Nope, I didn't changed, I learned"

Then our conversation started, he told me that he is overthinking and suffering in pain. The main reason? LOVE. Welp, I can't blame him. Love is too complicated, you can feel a pleasure and happiness but being hurt and felt pain is inevitable. He told me that he loves a girl for almost four years yeah, you heard it right, Four years of being inlove and still counting. Unfortunately, in four years, they didn't have any chance to become official couple. They can't commit to each other because he said that the feelings is not mutual and  it is one-sided love. It hurts, right? In four years, half of it is just a "crush" but as the time goes by, it's improving, it became love. He said that they became close to each other to the point that the people who will saw them ask if they are a couple, they are very very close to each other, but now, things changed. The girl became cold (a cold treatmet, figuratively speaking) to him, they didn't talk for weeks. Well, I can't also blame the girl because he said that the girl is always reminding him that don't expect too much to her because she's not sure if she can "loveback" my friend.

Why "learned not changed"?
He said that he didn't changed but he learned. He learned that don't attach yourself too much on people around you, try to put a space to each other (figuratively) because at the end, people will leave, we're not sure who will stay at your side. Always put a space of love for yourself so you'll not disappointed in the future.

Have a good day! Thanks for reading:)