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Common reasons of ‘why people are not happy’

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10 months ago

Seeing a lot of people who always smile is priceless, they said that happiness is always what we need in our life to live with serenity and tranquility. In fact, they said that a happy person or a person who always smile lives longer than a person who always sad. However, being happy is not easy as what you think. It is not simple.

According to psychology, a single sad thought can change your mood in a whole day. When you are sad, it's hard to be happy again because of what-we-so-called “overthinking.”

Key points:

  • You are not contented on the things that you have.

  • You are comparing yourself to other people.

  • You are expecting too much on things.

  • You love competition.

  • You are overthinking.

These key points will guide you in this whole piece of work.

You are not contented on the things that you have

This is a common problem to every individual especially teenagers who always follow the trend. They are doing the things that they want especially if other people—or their friends—are doing the same. To the point that they are forcing themselves or even their parents to buy what they want even they don't have an enough money to provide it.

To make this list unbiased, some adults also doing the same. They tend to copy and do the same thing of what their neighbors did, what their neighbors bought, what their neighbors said. They are not contented on what they want and the like following the trend so the people will look up on them.

We have this famous proverbs in the Philippines which is, “Kapag maikli ang kumot, matutong mamaluktot.” this is a bulls eye on the people who love to pretend that they are rich, it's free to dream but you can do it in a wisest way! Don't pretend, it's better if you will be yourself and strive hard to get what you want.

Thus, the only thing that we can do to solve this issue is to be contented and don't put much pressure to yourself, don't set a high standard to yourself because it will not have a good outcome. Strive hard and you will be there!

You are comparing yourself to other people

This is like a brother of not being contented, people who always compare themselves is a product of not being contented. They love comparing themselves because other person achieved something that he didn't. They are comparing themselves because his friend got a higher score compared to what he got. Ending, you will be sad.

Come to think of it and ask yourself, why he achieved it but I didn't? Did you do your best? There is only two answers in this question:

  1. If no, then it is probably the reason!

  2. If yes, it happened for a reason.

They said “Kung hindi ukol, hindi bubukol” if something is not for you, it will never be yours! Don't force and pressure yourself, do it slowly but surely!

You are expecting too much on things

I think mosr of us already hope for someone who gave us false hope, I have this motto, “Don't make a conclusion without confirmation” it is easy to assume but the aftermath is the most difficult to surpass.

You will ended up in regrets if you expect too much on things but the result is opposite of what you are expecting, it is frustrating and annoying. Well, you are the one who was in fault.

Concluding without a single confirmation and assurance will make you embarrassed, annoyed and sad in a single snap. This is why you need to learn how to accept the facts, you probably heard this: “Truth hurts!”.

You love competition

Are you one of the students who always want to get the highest grade and feel like a sin when you are the second? Better to think and forget this toxic behavior, don't be grade conscious! This competition commonly happened in school and working areas to get their desired position/rank.

Let me tell you, being a competitive person is good—but not all the times. If you didn't manage yourself, you will ended up in being sad and worst, depressed. At some point, it is good (in my opinion) because you can achieve your goal by doing your best of the best but once you reached the line, better to control your emotion and let the others win.

In the movie entitled “3 Idiots”, Rancho once said, “Life is not a race...” don't create a competition that doesn't exist because the competition on your mind has only two teams: you and yourself.

You are overthinking

There's a lot of people who died because of suicide. It is undeniably true that one of the main reasons of being a suicidal is depression. This depression is a product of your ability which is overthinking.

It happens when a person have a lot of stuffs on their plates to the point that they don't know which thing is the most important—the one that they need to do on the list. As what we have said on the introductory statement, a single thought of something sad can change your mood in a whole day. So, better to think positively and don't let your emotion drive you!

It's hard not to overthink, I knew it. But once you experience it, think about yourself. Is it good? Is there any advantage if I am overthinking? I have this own motto, “Don't think your problems, think about the solution.”

Conclusion

In this world that full of sadness, be one of the person who spread the opposite of the trend, spread good news and good vibes. Be an instrument to bring a smile on everyone's faces.

Being sad is normal, we are all humans after all. But don't let yourself eaten by this kind of darkness because you are torturing yourself. In times of negative situation, learn to smile, be unique and happy!


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Why do I got all these things that make me unhappy? I feel like I'm the loneliest at this time. Especially the comparing. I tend to compare myself to others who I think are better than me. As a result, I'm not contented with what I have and I keep on searching for the things I don't have.

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10 months ago

Those are our toxic mindset that we need to get rid of, being sad is normal but learn to control your emotion.

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10 months ago

I agree. It's not easy to get rid of it immediately so some would think maybe being sad is their last resort. That's a big NO. We should find ways how to eradicate loneliness.

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10 months ago

" Comparing myself to others and love competition ".

Yes I agree po na these 2 are the reasons kung bakit minsan I am not happy. Ever since kasi I love to compete. Somehow I find it okay naman kasi minsan na pupush ko yung self ko at nagagawa ko yung best ko para sa isang bagay na gusto ko kung maging akin. But because of these also minsan kapag natatalo ako sa isang bagay, feeling ko failure ako, at yun yung masama dun. At dahil doon nacocompare ko na ang sarili ko sa ibang tao na mas mataas sakin which is not good kasi parang lumiliit kung tingin ko sa sarili ko.

Actually I tried it na baguhin na but medyo mahirap parin kasi nakasanayan na talaga. At minsan di ko magawang di ikompara yung sarili ko sa iba. I think normal na ata yun ,pati yung pag love ko sa competetion?!

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10 months ago

Nagiging normal lang ang isang bagay kapag nakasanayan mo na which is mali, kahit nakasanayan natin ang isang bagay hindi ibigsabihin nun at tama tayo. Magkaiba pa din ang tama at mali. Don't pressure and force yourself to change, do it slowly:)

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10 months ago

Yes poo. Tama talaga kayo💯. Yes I am trying to change myself namam ko slowly. And minsan talaga nagagawa ko pa din hehe

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10 months ago

Change it for yourself, not for other people😄

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10 months ago

Overthinker, expecting too much and compairing myself to others. Ganyan ako lagi. Siguro kaya ako palaging malungkot dahil dyan. Palagi ko rin kasi iniisip ang ibang tao. Palaging natatakot na baka may masabi ang ibang tao sa'kin. Palagi ko rin kinukumpara ang sarili ko sa iba. Hindi ko rin kasi maiwasan dahil lumaki ako na palaging kinukumpara sa kapatid ko. Kaya nadala ko yun hanggang ngayon.

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10 months ago

Yan ang mahirap sa atin, we shouldn't depend on someone. Dapat maging independent tayo and marunong magdecide base sa gusto at tama nating gawin.

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10 months ago

Ako na laging kinokompara ang sarili sa iba:)

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10 months ago

Don't compare yourself to other people. By the way, your comment is on the spam.

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10 months ago

Sadness is a feeling, something natural that is part of everyone and therefore we are prone to suffer it. But when we live unhappy for any of us there is a problem. As you say in the article, we should concentrate more on ourselves, stop living for and by others, always looking to see if they agree or not with what we do and looking for approval. Better is to give ourselves more self love and increase our self esteem, learn to fight for our own things and be happy with what makes us happy.

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10 months ago

Agree with this, don't depend on someone to make you happy. Be independent.

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10 months ago

Thank you. I need this today :))

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10 months ago

Cheer up!

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10 months ago

Lahat ng binanggit mong rason ganyan na ganyan ako pag malungkot haha. Diko maiwasan icompare sarili ko sa iba tsaka madami din akong insecurities sa buhay lol. Pero walang magagawa ang kalungkutan sa buhay natin. Pero hindi din naman maiiwasang hindi makaramdam ng lungkot bago ka mag improve sa sarili mo.

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10 months ago

You need pain to learn! Medyo gising na ako sa katotohanan hahaha don't be insecure, they said “beautiful scars”

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10 months ago

I asked myself about "Why do I always comparing myself to anyone?"

Kaya siguro hindi ako makaalis sa kinatatayuan ko dahil insecure ako, gusto ko itong baguhin sa akin hays

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10 months ago

Yep! Kailangan mo ng baguhin, not for them but for yourself! Don't pressure yourself, do it slowly.

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10 months ago

Oh yeah! Don't be grade conscious! It is always what you learned that counts :). Rawr you really love the movie omg! Haha yes that was the movie that inspire us to continue the struggling college! Continue and never give up. Wow! Inspiring kid!

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10 months ago

Haha yep! Just continue, prince EA once said, “Grades are 0% of your future” (that's not the exact statement but same thought haha) well yeah I love the movie, all is well😆 Medyo kabado na nga sa college hahaha ano ba mga books na pwede sa first year?😆

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10 months ago

Math 1001 bessa villa start ka dooon hehe

Actually wala ko libro library lang 😆 nung 3rd lang ako nagkaroon. Ugh pero the best yang 1001 hehe latest edition o kahit ano. Magagamit mo yan in 5 years time. Investment hihi sayang yung mga libro ko napamigay ko na haha

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10 months ago

Anong content niya? Or cover? Gusto ko bumili ng books yoko sa pdf di ako maka focus😆

Edit: Baka kasi mali mabili hahaha

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10 months ago

Hindi pala siya kay besavilla pero basta 2 lang naman yan bessavilla or gillesania

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10 months ago

Meron yata akong pdf nung kay Gillesania, not sure hahaha Engineering Mathematics Volume 1 and 2😆

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10 months ago

Haha ayun nga yun lang naman puro solve lang haha maganda din yang eng math

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10 months ago

Oo tsaka tutorials hahaha salamat try ko hanapin sa internet yung iba then bili ng book kapag available

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10 months ago

Yieee basta makinig lang kay titser haha

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10 months ago

Sana face-to-face, hirap yata pag-online😆

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10 months ago

Hahaha ayun lang manuod na lang youtube after sariling sikap 😆

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10 months ago

Ayan thank you! Hahaha

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