Why do we hold grudges? Maybe for the sake of our pride or maybe we were duped and need to make up for what was done in the past. Or maybe we harbor a misplaced sense of entitlement or vengeance and get caught up in the importance of having that hurt feeling acknowledged by someone else. Whatever your reasons, you've probably thought about holding onto a grudge in your life at one point or another.
Betrayal is one of the most hurtful things that can happen to you. When someone who you trusted betrays your trust, it's incredibly painful. And many people hold onto their pain and anger for years, even decades, and even when it's clear that the person who hurt them is no longer around or even alive.
When you find out your friend betrayed you, it's easy to hold on to a grudge. It's hard to let go of the hurt and anger that betrayal can cause. But you have to keep in mind that this isn't going to make things better. Holding onto a grudge can actually make things worse especially if you're doing it while holding on to that person. But how can you then snap out of this negative cycle, get over it and move on?
First, don't let yourself think about it too much. It's easy to focus on all the ways your friend betrayed you and how much they hurt you but that's not going to help! Instead, try focusing on what you did wrong and how to avoid doing it again in the future. This will help clear your mind and give you space so that when you start thinking about how much damage was done and how much time went into healing from that hurt, your perspective will shift from victim mentality to survivor mentality.
second, make a list of all the things that made your friend betray you (both good and bad). Think about whether there are things that you could have done differently or better. This can be helpful because it helps put things into perspective for both of you, as well as helps remind yourself that there were reasons for what happened that are not always obvious at first glance (which might make sense now if you think about them)
third, talk to someone who understands what you’re going through (like a family member or a close friend). It’s always better to talk things out than bottle up your anger and resentment because when you hold on to those feelings, they grow into something else and usually worse than what they were in the first place. Talking things out with someone you trust will give you an outside perspective on how the issue might affect your life moving forward so that you can make decisions based on fact instead of fear.
fourth, take care of yourself; try eating healthy food and drinking plenty of water each day, spend time with loved ones who make you feel good about yourself (whether those people are friends or family members), etc. These little things will make a huge difference in how well your body function.
fifth, don’t seek revenge or vengeance, those things aren’t good for your health or happiness. Instead, focus on how to move forward as best as possible in spite of what happened in the past.
Getting over betrayal doesn't mean that you have to stop trusting people, it just means that you need to learn how to manage your trust better moving forward. Being betrayed isn't the end of the world, You will recover and find yourself again and when you do, you will be stronger than ever and ready to move on with your life and live it to its fullest potential.
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Sunday July 28, 2022
Exactly what I did! But one thing is for sure, I forgive but I can't forget.