Did your parents raise you right?

You might see the above question as something weird to ask, who will even admit that they weren't raised right by their parents? But you will be surprised when you discover some people admitting to this. Some parents are actually very irresponsible and don't take proper care of their children but somehow, some of those kids still grow up to be good and responsible adults.

I have witnessed two occurrences today that made me ask myself the question; "should the parents be blamed in this case?" I couldn't provide an answer for the first occurrence because I didn't know the whole story but for the second occurrence, I am holding the parents responsible, coz in this case, they are actually my parents! This might sound confusing, so let me explain.

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I was in my room earlier in the evening when I suddenly heard my mom yelling at someone and at first, I thought it was my second younger sister because she and mom tend to argue like two housewives most times 😆 but it turned out to be my 3rd sister; the last born. I came out and saw my mom and 2nd younger sis standing in front of the toilet and they were giving instructions to the last born to mop the toilet properly

My mom has been telling her to mop the toilet since morning coz she skipped it yesterday but she has been acting too lazy to do it until she was forced this evening, and she was crying while doing it. The crying wasn't necessary but that was what she has been doing right from childhood, she use crying to get out of any situation. Whenever she cries, my parents will pamper her and exempt her from any chore, tears are her power 😂.

I saw my mom in a defeated mood standing in front of the toilet and dishing out mopping instructions to my sister who was doing the task haphazardly, I was just laughing and teasing my mom about the whole thing. I told her; "you're finally reaping the fruit you sowed years ago, now you know how the rest of us always feel whenever she refuses to do her chores".

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Why did I say that to my mom? Well, that's because she and my dad are the reason for why my youngest sister is very lazy right now. While growing up, my parents raised us like soldiers. I am the first child and I started doing most of the chores at home from a very young age. I started cooking from the age of 8, I swept the house daily, fetched water, washed plates, looked after my younger ones, and sometimes look after my mom's store which is beside our house.

The cooking aspect started with my mom always dragging me to join her in the kitchen whenever she was cooking, then later on she started giving me simple meals to prepare and if I forget a step in the recipe, I go and ask her. Doing all those chores back then was very frustrating and I always complained but after a while, I got used to doing them, and right now, I am grateful for the way my mom raised me

She used the same method for my younger ones as well, they all started doing chores from a very young age and in a short while, we have practically taken over all the chores in the house. Whenever we were stubborn and didn't do a task properly, my mom whooped the hell out of us, she was very strict and we saw her as the villain of our childhood 😂

But everything changed when my youngest sister arrived: the last born. My mom whom we knew as a fierce and raging lion suddenly became a gentle cat. My sister never passed through the same method the rest of us passed through, my mom almost tore us apart when we were still kids but my sister's case was different; she was treated like a princess and it pissed off the rest of us 😆.

Whenever we try to make her do a simple chore, my mom comes to her rescue and she ends up not doing it. My dad was the same, he over-pampered her and never allowed her to do anything in the house and when I noticed what was going on, I already know it will become a disaster in the future, they are giving her too much power and I knew she will get used to it.

I remembered something that happened 7 years ago, the day I beat my sister because she refused to go to school. That was the first day I was beating any of my siblings, the whole thing triggered me and I whopped her silly that day. But despite all the beating, she never moved an inch, I was shocked and speechless! If I received a beating like that from my parents, I usually run out of the house to prevent getting whooped more, but my sister never moved, that was when I knew her stubbornness is not of this world.

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My mom came back from work later in the night and she talked my ears out with her words. She said I should never beat my sister ever again, she was going on and on about how I wanted to kill her. I am pretty sure if it was back when she was still a ruthless commando, she would have whooped my a*ss 😂 This was the same mom that never allowed any of us to miss school, even if it means she have to drag us kicking and screaming to school (she actually did).

That day, I told her that the way she's training my younger sister will end up backfiring and today, I reminded her of that event 7 years ago and what I said. I started doing a lot of the house chores from the age of 8 but my youngest sister is 14 and she's still been forced to do simple chores. I told my mom that she was reaping the fruits she sowed years ago and at one point, only she, my dad, and the last born will remain in the house when I and my other siblings leave the nest.

I just kept wondering why my mom had to switch from the method she used for me and my other siblings when she knows it was very effective. We turned out well because of the way my mom raised us and my parents barely complain about any of us, but the youngest one is the exception, she's always giving everyone headaches.

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I remember me and my other siblings telling my mom to allow us to raise our youngest sister in our own way when she was still very young but my mom refused, and now she has grown too big for us to do anything, so we all left her for my mom and dad to handle. We always look for an opportunity to tease them whenever my sister is frustrating them 😂

I am happy with the way I and my siblings turned out because of my parents, they always make sure we did the right thing and they never failed to discipline us when we go wayward. I am grateful for how my childhood was, back then I didn't like any of the chores I did or my mom's strict nature, but now I have come to appreciate them. So yeah, my parents raised me right, what about you?

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Sunday July 24, 2022