I think most women are the reason guys always say they have nothing to offer other than sex Cos if as a woman you're independent and all, make ur own money, pay ur own bills no guy will have that audacity to make such comment cos whatever cash gift he's giving you will be just a gift to you not a need but a bonus.
I urge this generation to train their daughters to hustle like men cos in this world you're all alone. Once you become dependent, you make yourself vulnerable to different kinda rubbish, know your worth. You'd see babes receiving beatings of their life from her boyfriend cos she gave her boyfriend opportunity to become her father since he foots all her bills she bcame vulnerable to him. Train your daughter to be a boss lady,
Ladies feel bcos they are using expensive stuffs like bags, hairs, clothes, they feel they have a standard to maintain, like they only date guys that can afford their standard. The question is can you comfortably afford the things that you yourself have, with your own earned money, did u buy them yourself comfortably with the money you worked for? If not, then you're Below your own standard. If relationship is to be by standards, you cannot afford the kinda standard (guy) you want. You want a guy that drives a car, do you've a car?, What if the guy only date ladies that own a car? Or can you afford gifts for him for such guy that wears N130k+ shoe, can you afford it with your own earned money?.
When you start earning, and footing your own bills, then you can talk about standards, else you're only looking for a guy with high standard to leverage on and make yourself look good
That's how a girl told me she stays with her boyfriend while schooling, apart from series of abortion, he beats her mercilessly, even when she had complications during a recent abortion. Any money she gathers he takes from her, after all he's d one feeding her, clothing her, paying her bills, doesn't allow her go out, like she was more like a prisoner.
Now here's d shocking part, she managed to break up( he took her phone as she did, ofcos it's in his name), later he returned it, sent her money and apologize, he wanted her back, her mother told her to take him back bcos she's going for HND and she'll need where to stay🤦🏽♂️ at this point I weak
Man life no easy, we get billed from everywhere.. parents, siblings, in-laws, ur own family(wife ND kids), friends.. at d end of it all we don't get appreciated, children always see mothers as favorite parent, father's day is not celebrated as mothers day. The kinda hurts and shades dey throw at men, it's very unfair. Like Publicly selling charms to compel men, if women were d victims in such case, the whole world will be against men, even men will be against men.. life no easy for man, e no balance, but that's why we are men, we stand strong always!!
I agree that a woman need to be independent for their own good. For a woman making decision on her own is difficult when a lot of people want to barge in and make a decision for their decission.
This is where a woman have to get their own principal to protect themselves. It is the crucial part of being an independent woman, I think. Well, it is for me.
As for the community Freewriting, I notice that you have been using a lot of texting short form and it made me feel like I am reading a text message instead of an articles. I continue reading because I like the content that you write. I cannot see what timer did you use for the writing and what is your prompt. I suggest that you read the rules again and do some editing to fulfill the community requirements.
I will let the admin to read your articles and see what she decide. @wakeupkitty