Howdy everyone. This is a Continuation of the topic I started some days ago. We have explored the importance of Time in relationship. There is a saying that 'Time is money' also 'Time is life, Time is love, Time is relationship's lifeline'. When you give someone your attention, you have given your him/her your time and directly given him a part of your life. Read more through this link: TIME

Let move to our topic for now; Love or likeness in relationship. Let me an illustration. Imagine relationship being a house. Where the pillars, roofing and paintings are of great importance, there is a part which is greatest importance; and that is the foundation. Take time as the pillar that sustain and upholds the relationship and ensures it longetivity, Love is the foundation upon which the relationship is built. For you to be friend with someone else, there must be either an intrinsic or extrinsic values that you see in that and cherish. There must be a thing that attracts you to someone you call your friend, you don't just become a friend to someone by mistake, even though both of you might meet by accident, but what made both of you come together to become friends is actually a value or similar characteristics you both saw in each other. Now, friendship made because of gains or benefit will never stand the test of time and is very sure to have a disastrous ending. But friendship built on genuine love and mutual likeness is sure to last till eternity except if in a sense, the love is lost.

Now, how do you say you love your friend or spouse when you can't sacrifice anything for the sake of your friendship? Yes, there is should be no entitlements, but does that means you can't sacrifice a thing for your friend? In fact the real meaning of been in relationship with another person is been able to give or sacrifice something for the course of that friendship. If this is ruled out, then they are as everyother persons to you.

An example from the Bible

Jesus was teaching his disciples one day, and he made a parable about friendship and sacrifice. He said 'there was a day a fellow when to mean his friend at the late hours of the night (let's say around 1am). He knocked at the door and the friend answered from within asking who it was. The fellow immediately answered that he is the one and that he has come to ask for a favour from his friend because a relative of his just arrived at the house and he has nothing to give him. Even though it is in the middle of the night and the friend's family is already asleep, yet he will rise up and attend to his friend' not really because of the urgency (this is my own perspective, although urgency can play a major role also) but because he is a Friend! Jesus even said in the gospel according to John that he laid his life for his friends! And what was the result, his friends too learnt how to lay and sacrifice anything for each other (I speak to about genuine Christians).

So also, when you sacrifice a thing for the sake of your friendship, you have only inaudibly teach your friend to do the same. But then, we can't overrule the fact that some people are just insensitive and irreciprocative to this gestures, there is where the 'NO ENTITLEMENTS' card can be played. But if you feel like the friendship is costing you more than you can bear, there is always room to leave. I stop here for now.

To be continued...

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