Are you really with the right person?.
Dont go out with somebody just because they are just there, date future valued people. Dont have short term friends or partners bacause you need to lean on somebody who is a complainer, create friendship with future valued people. Always stay alert and be strategic of your future, go for the long term future planners.
Every relationships has its terms, if a relationship is based on time,energy, resources, monetary ability and sincerity it stands the thirst of time. These five outlined qualities can help you stay on track of your future bargain from this level of lifestyle or proportion which analysis come in. You analysed what you want your present value to be leading up to your future value by taking into account personal relationship growth.
People make lots of decision based on just time, energy, resources, and money without considering being sincere. Great money, great output, without input of control and sincerity in a relationship you make drastic mistakes all the time.
You dont think about how much craziness is going into something, you just get conviction only in the time, energy, resources and money. It is necessary to think about other things that can really shaping it all together.
If you have got someone who is not understanding you, have you been explicit with them. With questions like,
what do you want to to talk about?,
what do you like that your partner does or dosent?,
what do you not want a compromise again on?,
where do I want to feel in control?,
when do you want to open up?,
when do you know to quit?,
how many chances do you give a person to know it can't work?.
These are the many questions you should ask yourself if a relationship is not having that quality or honesty.
Abusive relationship
Your integrity and loyalty does not worth it to an abusive partner and that it is, you have to quit. Often when women are being abused, they hardly get a straight answer which is quiting... I will like to use the polulary known Nigeria way "Ja paar". Live the relationship immediately for the better, whether it is verbally or general abuse please get rid of the bad ones for a better one. It's also best to seek advice immediately, seek good counsel and heed to every advice, relationships shouldn't be abusive.
Conflict of Interest
A lot of relationships end when there is lack of communication, when either partner dont share with themselves or settle problems immediately and allow bitterness or anger build up, which arises to physical abuse later on, the person being abused doesn't even know what had initially happened or what brought about that. Always forcefully demanding things without having to listen to the other person.
Where a man picks what his spouse will wear, choose how his spouse should live her life, it shouldn't be this way for relationships. When your partner dont care about you it always leads to an abusive relationship. Relationships are always connected, there is need for a proper discussion how to get better or end it when it leads to something you cannot change.
Lack of Care Or Attention
It really affects the relationship to a very great extent.... It just makes u feel bad about the future and makes u feel u are taking a wrong decision by being with that person.
so its better either u also be the same showing the same amount of care as the other or just come out of it.. Its hard now but would be very good for the future. Relationships ends in weeks or days when partners neglect responsibilities, they never take care of you that is not friendship.
Using a work illustration, a job is given under your care to do and you neglects the proper ways of planning or building up work structures you loose every bit of the job. It occurs in homes too or pretty much any relationship, when there isn't proper care.
Relationship Based On Lies
Relationships shouldn't be based on lies, what exactly do you want your future to be based upon. Is he or she just staying with you, just for the purpose of having kids, want to be with you for showcase, or being just friends with benefits, or just to practise intimacy and ignoring the reality of fulfillment. For you to be in a longer relationship you have to be really honest with yourself and have the potential for what is is. If you have to deal with someone tha constantly lies, please check yourself you need not be in that...you have seperate yourself, you dont deserve to be treated that way.
Not Showing You Value
You should always be shown that you worth more in a relationship, for two partners who has never spoken before coming together to be in a relationship without being forced is worth the value. Know your partners worth, show her appreciation, show love, show companionship, care for your partner always. A relationship only last in weeks when there is no appreciation, if someone outside does it why wouldnt you do it.
Your interest and passion is what makes a relationship great, showing intense love, appreciation, communication, admiration, and truth will build the relationship on success trails for a very long time.
Relationships that ends just in weeks are really based mostly on these five problems, make up your mind one what plans you have. Many broken relationships are due to facts of misinformation, communication abuse on certain matters that should be tackled immediately.
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