Family Meeting On Marriage Matter

Hey People! How are you doing? Hope you're good? The weekend went well for me but I was occupied and hard little chances to visit and read articles here.

Today I learnt something surprising and I would like to share.

First of all? Do your parents have a say when it comes to marriage in your home/family? I mean, do you basically seek for your parents approval Before bringing in that your heartrob to the House? I know your answer is Yes. Oh! I know some part of the world that don't operate in this line.

In this part of the world, majority of homes, regions and states still believe that an approval from the parents is a must before going ahead for marriage. I won't elaborate more on this because a lot of people have written more on this subject of marriage blessings from parents and approval.

Tonight, I was chatting with my friend when he mentioned about him telling his dad about his fiance so the relationship would be "semi-official". I supported him for such move but was shocked when he said his dad is still skeptical about supporting his son to further with the lady. Why? Because the girl is still schooling and she's from another state. He was so bittered because He's so much in love with this girl. The girl he has Concluded to be his final bustop.

Knowing fully well how learned the dad his, I objected and told him that I don't see his dad saying such thing because he's Learned and advanced, this is a modern age that a lot of these considerations should be trashed out when selecting a girl for marriage. I tried to pinpoint some certain things that should be overloked.

He explained it well to me that his dad is not totally against it, because he said he'd get back to him and also, this was because they have laid down rules for marriage in their family which all the sons and daughters must follow.

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The First among the regulations is that; The lady that any of the sons is marrying must have completed a certain stage of education. It's either at that level or higher and nothing below is allowed (Minimum of HND or BSC and nothing like OND or NSCE... Nigerians would relate here).

I got shocked after hearing this, that means their family is not ready to settle for a low quality. I'm not judging them or going against the rule they have for their family, but it's somehow not please within me. So this means that if LOVE is in view, the love should better run a thorough check before manifesting. Lol

The problem now is that, the lady my friend want to marry is currently schooling and at the very lowest Level which would take more four years to complete. He explained to his dad about the duration of the departmental schooling duration and the dad replied him that "he knows what to do, an also he'd get back to him this coming Monday". That's to say, the son should go and check their law book and see the truth himself.

That's the issue my friend is facing now. The only alternatives left for him and a standing ground is either he waits for the girl to finish schooling before proceeding to marriage or marry her while he promises the family that the girl will complete her education to the final stage of NYSC, otherwise he has failed the family and has broken the law all of them agreed on.

My take on this

To be sincere I'm not in support of this so called law or agreement. I find it odd to be practiced in this modern Life where freedom to fullness of life is existing.

So it means that they can't marry someone that's well doing in business but didn't go to school to the level they want. In my country currently, education is not a gaurantee to a successful life, you can acquire all the certificate and still struggle for survival. Infact, the school system is currently begging students to get a skill outside school before graduating. A lot of people don't find interest in school anymore because its aftermath is not something to talk about with regards to chances of being employed.

I know they implemented those laws in order not to be seen as uneducated People, in order not to harbour illiteracy in the family. I know school helps to broaden and brighten up someone but...🤷

They have other regulations such as conditions attached to marrying from another states (same country but different state). Also they have a big NO to marrying of out the country.

All these won't work for me because the way it's doing me eh, I can marry from any part of the world as long as I find peace. Even here, if I see someone that goes with my heart, why should I delay? We will marry straight away and you all gonna be in attendance. Lol🤣🤣.

Thanks for reading.

18th March 2022