When I see couples fighting

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Read the topic again, when you see a couple fighting, what instantly occur or appear in your mind?

• You leave them to fight and kill themselves?

• You watch, video them and leave?

• You watch, laugh and leave?

• You separate them?

You know your answer already and your mind is now pondering whether I'm going to attack your answer or not. Lol. Calm down.

No doubt, domestic violence is now rampant in this era we found ourselves. It happened yesterday, today and it'd happen tomorrow and it continues...

I'll be analysis two aspect on this domestic violence in home with two categories. My reactions when I see couples fighting.

Legally married couple: Back then at home (home town/Villa) I used to witness such battles, married man beating his wife, pushing her and the Children away, doing all manners maybe because the woman was at fault or maybe the woman caught him in adulterous acts. Most times this result to temporal divorce because the lady would pack her load and go back to her parents house. The tough ladies would stay and stage the fighting, all in the name of "fighting for her home", she will receive the beating of her life. I once experienced a case where the husband punched the wife to comal where they rushed her to hospitals.

What do I do when I see legally married couples fighting?

Just from the way I was cultured, when I see married couples fighting, I would go and separate the fight so there won't be lost of lives. I won't just leave them to kill themselves. I will save life first before seeking to know who is at fault. We all know that misunderstanding is bound to happen in homes, maybe a little misunderstanding transpired and they couldn't control their anger at that point.

Also, if I have the capacity of talk to both of them, I would do that in a shallow way. How do I mean by a shallow way? Okay, there's one thing that's prone to most couples, after settling them and maybe you were one sided during the panel judgement, I bet you, there's every tendency that one of them(the one you stood against) would be oozing out hatred on you. Haven't you seen? One time ago when my father settled a couple in our compound that fought, my dad supported the man because he was right and made the woman to beg for forgiveness. After the whole saga within two weeks, the couple started keeping malice and snubbing my dad. What happened? 🤷🤷🤷

During those days at home Villa, this scenario became a serious one that made the leaders of the community to pass a law that any married couple found fighting must be brought the panel of community to be judged and must come with goats, yams, beans etc.🤣

Above all, please say no domestic violence!

The Dating couples: I know you understand that I mean by the dating couple, a lady and a guy in relationship. This one in particular was what generated this topic. In my work place, there's this handsome young man that's harbouring a lady...yeah, wife to be. They live very close to our office. Yesterday morning while at work, we heard shouts of a lady coming from that direction, we all ran out to see what the problem was, not knowing that this lady was receiving an early morning beating. Immediately I got to know what the shout was all about, I turned back to the office instantly. Why? That wasn't the first, second, third or even the sixth time I've seen the guy beating this lady.

I didn't bothered to separate them. Others went out to rescue her though, her face was swollen up😢.

Why didn't I go to rescue her? Am I that wicked? I hate it when someone knows the good and still sticking to the bad, we all know how people have been talking about "stay off from violence home" especially from cases from social medias. Why would she be staying in that toxic relationship? Does it mean that she doesn't know that the relationship is toxic? She knew all these and decided to stay, maybe the "love is blind" is working on her and she's been totally blindfolded. Wft!

Another one again, you'd be made a fool after they settle back hahaha🤣🤣... Today's afternoon when I went outside to pick something, I found the two of them that fought yesterday doing lovey-dovey on a motorcycle. OMG!🤣🤣🤣 Let me stop here...🚶🚶

______Conclusion_________

I don't know how people find it comfortable to live in a home that's toxic. It baffles me! Especially the dating ones, staying and receiving punches as a living.

If the home is too toxic leave there, your life is more important. If you die there, another lady would take over from where you stopped.

Thanks for reading.

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