Fatherly experience is such a beautiful experience and at the same time a great responsibility that spans throughout ones lifetime. Meanwhile a father is a man with a responsibility of a child, it's now up to us to being a good father or a bad uncaring one, a father is a man who is willing to step up and take care of his family.
Imaging the elated feeling if you are told by the doctor you are now a father, at first you feel happy, sometimes awkward and strange which brings you down to the thinking you know have someone that would success you. Then you move on to hold the baby, hold him/her into your hands and look straight to the eyes, imaging the elated feeling? Hormonal changes?
Nevertheless, fatherhood figure in a child's life is not to be taking lightly or something that could be taken with hand gloves. Being a father comes with a very great responsibility and commitment, because you know have a lad whom all your spending and part of your time would be spent with. Father is a symbol of protection and security and take up other responsibility of the home that has to do with making sure the home is okay.
My personal Experience;
My journey to the fatherhood so far has been enjoyable, tasky, fun and full of responsibilities, ooppss a lot involved. Its still looks like yesterday when my first daughter was given birth to, I was in a far away place to work, though i was home two weeks before my wife gave birth, then two weeks after i left home, i was called by my wife's mother around 4am with a good news, Kennie your wife has put to bed, hearing that i was still and dumbfounded at the same time, all that came out from my mouth was Thank God in a loud voice. Immediately i took the next flight back home to see the beautiful child my wife has given me, such a beautiful experience that would last a life time in my memory, then the journey began, manning up and taking responsibility of taking care of my first child. It's been a lot of spending, protecting, expenses, and creating more time out of my limited time to spend with them and make the home beautiful, you know how the first experience always is, when you are naive and inexperienced about how things goes or work, I have always been striving and taking every necessary step to make the journey part of me completely, but it's never been an easy one.
Now my daughter named Fareedah is well grown up now, she's my real clone, and growing beautiful everyday like her father, now we are looking forward to having the second child.
Part of what i have learnt so far on the Journey:
When a man enters into the fatherhood journey, his life may never be the same like when he was still single and without any committed responsibility.
When a man spends extravagantly when he was a single and cater for himself alone, such thing can never be done or practised when he enters the fatherhood journey, he thinks about his family first before any unplanned spending.
When a man enters the fatherhood journey, he would have to learn how to live with the family, especially the change hormones of the wife and troubles of the children.
When a man enters the fatherhood journey, he can no longer make a plan alone, it's not always like when he was single, because whatever the plan he makes, it affects the family,either positively or negatively.
If a man is such a person that loves travelling or moving from places to places, such thing may reduce when he becomes a father, because the security of his family is a top priority.
A man might be a promiscuous one, but entering into the fatherhood journey, if the responsibilities at home can't make him stop philandering, then he's an unserious type of a man
When a man enters the fatherhood journey, he's saddled with sharing the love he has for only his wife before between the wife and the child.
Would you mind sharing your experience too?
Becoming a father is a good experience but needs a lot of dedication and work