We had this kind of relative that meddles other's life. They prefer to talk to others than their own lives. Sometimes, they are those street gossipers that happen to be part of our blood relations.
So if you don't have this kind of relatives you are 1 in a billion lucky.
What is Aunt's role in the family?
In times of need, they are the person who will you run to. They are the ones who will give you advice and comforts you too. Our Aunt is either mom or dad's siblings so literally, they are our family.
They are part of the Extended family
They are the immediate family who you think first to help you. The one that will understand your pain during a hard times.
What if they help and did their role as a part of the family but they have plans to control you soon? Would you still accept the help they will give? Do you want to act like a slave? Even if it shouldn't.
Manipulative
They are the ones attacking your weakness and control how your life should be. They feel like they have the power to decide whether they want you to improve or to get you down. They will own you now if they can get or benefit from you or dump you if you are already useless.
My Aunt is Manipulative
I live in my aunt's house for a couple of years because we got a problem and my mom is having a hard time. Living with them is not easy because I need to take care of her lazy and hard headed daughter plus her alcoholic husband. My aunt's wasn't there she was working abroad so I am like a substitute mom in their house. Yes I do the cooking, yes I do the cleaning, yes I also do fetching when my uncle, her husband was drunk in his friends house. I am only 4'9 and my uncle height is 6'2, imagine how I did it?! Her daughter don't care at all. 2 years passed her contract was already done so she went home back. At first I thought she loved me staying in their house but few days only passed she wants me to find a work. I was 17 only that time. She accompanied me to find a job and we saw a "hiring sales lady" sign in the chinese store. It was hard for me to accept it at first. I envy other teens with their tita's who are so close and don't need to send their niece to find a work. Well that's life! I just comfort myself and think it's going to be okay atleast I will never be a burden to them. For 10 hours standing, my salary was $3 only. I endure all the hard times until my boss saw my hard work. She wants to transfer me in their another store that is not need a lot of effort. I will staying in their house for free. Free food and free electrcity. My heart was filled with joy after hearing it in my boss. Since that's what my aunt want, I should go.
After 2 years working as a sales lady in a garment store of my boss, I saved $1406 and I decided to go enroll in college. My aunt wasn't in their house again. She went abroad for work again. She message me that if I want to go on college, I can stay in their house so that her daughter will have accompany. I follow what she order. After 2 years again she went back home and that time my mom get a job for abroad. 2 months passed since she stay at their home she was started to mad at me again like I don't know what is the reason. She and mom fought. I think because mom still didn't send a money. She can't wait. Because of her anger she want me out of their house.
Now that I have my own house she still disturbing me with their issues in their family. She wants me to accompany her daughter because his husband is always drunk. Like I don't get it! 3 years ago you want me out in your house and now your disturbing me again because of your family? Me as soft-heartened and want to do my role as a family I follow her order again. But I misunderstand her order and what she wants to happen. She want to babysit her daughter that is 21 years old?! Like the heck?! Remember when I was 17 you want me to find my life. I graduated in my own without asking for my tuition fees. I never ask money from you. Yes I stayed in your house but all the orders you want I follow. I'm like a helper to you. You never heard anything from me.
Just because I lived in their house she wants to manipulate all the things I wanted to do. No if's no but's! if you will react she will remind you where you from. She always wants to do credit grabbing for the small victories I got. Like hello? If you're good encourager then why your husbancd and child still a stress to you?
Closing Remarks
We have different roles in different relations. But we must know the responsibility of each other. Don't give your responsibility to others just because they owe you before. That is your role and don't use it as a power to manipulate others.
I will end this here because it's already quite long and you will feel my irritation to them. Sorry lol haha
What's your family relatives' story?
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Kelzy Speaks
What catched my attention more is 'yung work mo dati, Ate. Grabeee, $3 lang for 10 hours of working? Grabe talaga, Ateee.
Well, you know naman na nakaka-relate ako sa'yo Ate, right? So, what we just need to do is ignore them from all our might. Lalo na kung puro ka-toxic-an na lang dinadala nila sa atin.