There are two kinds of availability, psychological and situational. Psychological availability includes having recovered and grown from previous relationships, having separated emotionally fromparents in a healthy way, having the ability to commit to another person, and not being afraid of marriage.
Situational availability includes several factors. If the person you are interested in is living with a lover, not only are they not a good choice for you emotionally and spiritually, the fact that they haven’t chosen marriage is another warning sign. Why didn’t they marry? What about their relationship with the Lord? If they have just come out of a “living together” arrangement, the same concerns on your part need to be there. This person is not a good candidate now. Give thema couple of years to grow spiritually and emotionally.
If you’re interested in someone who is separated, they aren’t available. They’re still married in the eyes of the state and God, whether the separation has been five weeks or five years.
Aside from that, what a person goes through emotionally during the breakup of a marriage means they are not at all ready for a new relationship, even though they may be desperate for one.
A divorced person is a possibility depending upon how long it’s been, financialstatus, bitterness, emotional readiness, etc.
There is one other category to consider: those who are married…to their work or to their family of origin. There are many others who are available. You can find them, but just keep these considerations in mind.
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