Love and Marriage; our choices

Love is one beautiful thing everyone needs to experience. It is a process and an action between two people committed to be patient with themselves, selfless, kind, unconditional, friends, at peace, faithful, caring, attentive and always there for each other. I'm stressing this topic on love between partners and lovers.

Love shines like a morning star when it's genuine.

It glows like a perfect skin when it is selfless.

It radiates like a star when it's unconditional.

True love uplifts the spirit .

Your heart becomes a River of Joy when it sparks.

The earth becomes a priceless space you don't want to leave when you are truly loved.

True love keeps you younger

True lovers conquers even in worst challenges of the time .

True love brings peace of mind

Life span is extended when you are truly love and be loved.

Marriage Is a covenant, a decision and agreement between two matured people to be husband and wife. When it comes to marriage, choices are involved. We don't have that leverage or opportunity to choose our parents, country and family as we are born into it but we have opportunity to choose our partners and this choices can make you or break anyone.

Furthermore, the word choice is the ability to pick particular things or particular people out of many. The Ability to pick one thing or somebody out of many is something of decision. The quality and strength of ours marriages, love and experiences depends on our choices. Our choice is the reason why a lot of people never believed in the beautiful gifts of true love, while some enjoys the gift of love.

What do you look out for why choosing a lifetime partner? what are your qualifications? What are your yardsticks. How do we make choices of who and who not to be with? What are your standards?

Do you look out for societal standard in chosing who your forever is?

What of family standard? Are they your parameters for making choices?

What of peer standard ?

Nobody has manual to perfect marriage

it's a mistake to let your parents, society or peers enforce somebody on you or influence you. They can guide and direct but can't choose for you.

For a marriage filled with true love, that kind of love with that kind of feelings I mentioned at the beginning of this article, these are the things you need to know and look out for before making a choice. Remember nobody chooses for but you can be guided: There are questions that is necessary you ask and answer yourself before making your choice. It is a guide and they are:

1) Prayers: Pray to your creator for guidance, wisdom and direction. God knows everything He created. So pray about your intention to God in finding or being by true love .

2) Companionship and compatibility :

under this , look out for the following and ask yourselves this questions. Make sure you also answer the question, this will guide you in making the right choice;

a) Friendship : can you find friendship in what you have and share?

B) Supportive: how supportive are you to each other?

C) Caring: How do you treat and appreciate each other? Does he treat you well? Does she treat you well? Is he or she so self centered or selfless?

D) Communication: How well do you communicate. In marriage, good communication is the heart to every successful marriage. How many times do you talk in a day? Are you the kind of person that is scared to talk to your partner? Does he/ she always have your time?

E) Character/attitude: Are your dos and don't tolerable? Can you stand each others attitude? What is he or her temper like? Does he/ she get angry for too long. Is the lady abusive? Is the man abusive? If you watch closely, you will see it.

F)Connection/Spark ; As it is commonly said "butterfly in my belly". Does he or she makes your heart beat. Do you feel so excited when you see him or her. Do you miss each other at any absence?

G)LOVE; This is the most needed. Love is very important. It has to be mutual. One-sided love is toxic. However, if you fall in love with someone without asking yourself the questions above including your own yardstick , my dear, the love is highly expected to crash or fade away.

Love is a beautiful thing but many fail to behold that feeling and benefits of true love because of wrong choices. The outcome of true love is overwhelming. Let's be guided in our choices as it can affect your entire life negatively or positively.

I love you all.

Thanks for reading my article.