There is no total happiness; Happiness of life is incomplete.
Happiness varies by person or rather is relative . what makes one happy can make the other sad and what works for you may not work for another person. Man's pursuit for happiness each day is something commendable but know that there is no complete happiness.
According to Sonja Lyubomirsky in her 2007 book The How of Happiness elaborates and describes Happiness as "the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well being, combined with a sense that one's life is good, meaningful and worthwhile.
It is the sensation of having the time of your life and wanting to make the most of it.The "hidden ingredient" that can help us be and perform at our best is happiness.Researchers researched about happy people and discovered that they are more successful.It is easier for happy people to accomplish goals.
Furthermore, according to Aristotle, happiness consists in achieving, through the course of a whole lifetime, all the goods- health, wealth, knowledge , friends, etc.,-- that lead to the perfection of human nature and to the enrichment if human life. This requires us to make choices, some of which may be very difficult.
Everybody wants to be happy. In our quest for happiness we should understand that happiness is not complete. It is not total. There is no total happiness in this life. If you have everything complete, everything you wished and dreamt of including physical and non- physical, come and oppose or debunk this write up.
Yes, Everyone desires to be happy, according to many, a happy person achieves more goals, not all goals but many that is why happiness is not total.
Let me draw down instances to our everyday life:
Couple A have children of both gender, peaceful home, loving and respective children but no money. They struggle to feed, they struggle to live, they also struggle to pay rent. Even though they are hard working, they are not happy that the family is financially unstable, they always admire Couple B. They are so happy for the life and beautiful family but not happy with their income. They feel that that their happiness will be complete if they are financially bouyant like Couple B...
Meanwhile, Couple B are so rich but with respectful children, disrespectful and abusive husband. The wife always wish to have a loving husband like couple A. She feels her joy will be complete when her husband turns a new leaf.
Furthermore Couple C has wealth, wayward children, a loving husband and a wife with flourishing beauty and banging shape. They feel that their happiness will be complete if their children turn a new leaf.
Surprisingly, Couple D have everything beautiful in this life but no children. Funny right, she thinks her joy will be complete if they are blessed with children...
Now, Couple A became wealthy but the husband changed negatively, she now has another new goal to keep the family whole as before. This can equally make her happier. Couple B's wife divorced her husband because of abusiveness, their new goal is to get this or that, life continues. As couple C and D have what they want, something comes up to be their new goal. Even if you have almost everything in life, maintaining those things from depreciating is a new goal you must achieve, if that slips away, it makes you unhappy .
This keeps happening all and over again till one dies. There is challenge at every stage of life which makes you pursue what will solve it and give you happiness.
So let's not stress or kill or loose our sanity in our quest for happiness. If you get it all , there is something that will work you up or try to steal your Joy.
Accept that everything comes at the right time, be happy for the things you have and be happy for the things you will have even when you don't have them. That is how people who are always happy are. You might think they have it all. Nooo! they don't but they have strategize the means of being happy All the time and that is gratefulness.
Many you see happy are grateful, grateful people achieve more and become more happy as the pursue other things.
I pity those who go as far as killing more successful happy people because of jealousy. I pity those part of beings that go diabolic just to bring down people. They don't have everything they might be striving for as much as you do but they are always grateful.
Happy people are contented.
Happy people achieve more.
Happy people do great things.
Happy people are healthy at heart.
Happy people wear the look that everything is moving so easily but may not be the case .
If you soil your hands just to be happy in life, it doesn't last, that kind of happiness comes with mixed feelings whereby the soul is not at peace but the body is happy.That kind of happiness is easily plucked out in a sudden manner.
in Man pursuit of happiness, know that there is no total happiness, the faster we know and assimilate that, the better for us because it will lesson heartbreaks, disappointments, sadness, frustrations and the others.
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The Right Time will Surely Come, wait for Yours.
Daniel got married at the age of 24. He was a freshman at that time. He got married despite some peoples' claims that he was too young.
Daniel was empty. He had nothing. For years, it was difficult for him.Daniel waited for four years to get a good job.It happened in his time.
When Daniel was in 100 Level, his cousin graduated from Bowen University at the age of 22. It was his time.
At age 23, his cousin took a trip to the UK where he found employment.His salary at the time in Naira was 15,744,000 annually.At the age of 27, he finished building his first home in Nigeria. It was his time
This year, in the same month, on the same day, Daniel and his cousin both celebrated turning the same age.
His cousin is not yet married.His time is not now. Daniel has never purchased a lot, much less had a house built.It's not his time.
Kate finished school at the age of 22, served her country at the age of 23 but still unemployed till the age of 30.
Nuella finished school at the age of 27, served her country at the age of 28 , got employed at the same age of 28.
Why all these stories?
So many feel bad when they see other people's life achievements.
They get worried as they see themselves as failure and unfortunate. But they don’t understand that time is a major factor in life.
When it is your time, your hard work, effort, struggles, hustles, consistency and prayers would be rewarded. Things will fall in place and then you will achieve a whole lot bigger than your dreams and age.
When your time comes, they will all come easily and only then you'll understand the "Time of life".
If others get to have what you don't have; know that it is their time. Yours too will come.
If you have what others don't have. It's only your time to achieve those things too. Undoubtedly, their own time will come likewise.
What is that thing getting you so worried that you are yet to achieve what others already have.
Before I met my husband, I used to be in a relationship where I wish I had what I'm having now with my husband. I see lots of happy relationship but mine wasn't working out. I tried my best, worked for the relationship but to no avail. when it started being toxic, I had to leave but it didn't stop me from praying, looking good and positioning myself in the right place. I had a strong belief and faith in God that I will one day have a beautiful relationship. Meanwhile, most of my classmates were married with two-three kids, it was their time. I didn't think about it much I just moved on still doing what I know is right for me. When it was my time to be found by my wonderful husband, he came along. It was my time.
Friends, time is something you should consider when you try without result, don't stop, it will pay off at the right time as long as what you are fighting for is worthwhile.
Everybody has their own time in life. Each persons life has different clock timing and different clicking. Don't be frustrated or jealous or scared or tired. There is time for everything.
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Even if you don't Love me, you will still miss me when I'm gone.
A LETTER to my Ex-boyfriend💔.
Despite you don't yet realize it, even after I'm gone, I will play a significant role in your life.You'll never forget the opportunities you missed because your haughtiness made it impossible for you to see what you actually desired when you had them.Later on, you will realize that everything you were looking for was all along right in front of your eyes.
I'm currently simply another name in the crowd, a voice lost in the din of daily existence.When you genuinely make an effort to look for me, you occasionally see me.I'm constantly waiting for you.
I'm not sure when, but the day will come when you'll look for me and find no trace of my face.
You will stare, but nothing will do the same in return.My eyes that hunger for your attention won't be there anymore.
I won't be standing there waiting to invite you in with an open heart.
I'm not going to be there trying so hard to hide my crush on you with a forced smile.I won't be there at all since I will have moved on, and you will miss me when I'm gone.
You may not realize it yet, but even if I were to pass away, I would still play a significant role in your life.You'll never forget the occasions when you had opportunities but missed them because your haughtiness made it impossible for you to see what you actually want.
Everything you were looking for was right in front of your eyes the entire time, as you will realize long later.You've always been so submissive.Perhaps you didn't intend it that way.
I'll be uncaring and deaf. I'll carry on. Though I can't say the same for you, I'll be happier.I already know, but you don't.
You don't realize how much more I mean to you right now.Without me, you would feel utterly incomplete. I am a piece of a puzzle that has found its way into your heart.
You just don't realize it because you're busy at the moment. You have your cheap thrills to keep you company, but those thrills can only keep you satisfied not for so long. When that day comes, and I don't know if it's near or far, you will feel it. You'll start to feel what I'm feeling now. There will be a trigger and the bullet will hit your nervous system directly. The trigger can be anything.
You will surely miss me because I was always there for you, I loved you genuinely, I was with you through thick and thin. I have been down for long time, it's time to let go. We are now a history that you will like to revisit when the time comes but I will never come back to that history. It is time to move on and that is why I'm writing as a way to pour out my feelings, strength, bravery and courage because my heart is done with you. This letter will come to you at the appropriate time, when you realize that it's your lost not mine .
I'm big and better.
Can Altruism Become a Way of Life in our Society?
Several hands holding hearts, Is it feasible to build societies that are more equitable and where everyone works selflessly for the benefit of others? The picture of altruism as a way of life includes a focus on the success of our solidarity effort as well as a call for more empathetic education .
Altruism is understood in simple words as an attitude of solidarity opposed to selfishness. We can then say that it is our actions and the intention to do or not do something that determines how altruistic or selfish we are.
Matthieu Ricard, considered the happiest man in the world, emphasizes the issue of motivation and assures that "it is extremely important to promote an altruistic motivation over a selfish one." According to Ricard, the world has made serious selfish decisions that affect us all. An example is climate change, the product of a set of individualistic decisions that did not consider future generations but instead focused on short-term needs. What is the path, what should we do to create societies where altruism is an inherent part of them? This question brought to mind two recent concepts:
EMPATHIC EDUCATION and EFFECTIVE ALTRUISM :
According to number of studies, promoting in class behaviors that result in respect for the status or circumstances of others can help people become more compassionate and open minded and as a result, help society become human centered. And if we combine education with the efficacy of our altruistic actions, the outcome would be what Australian philosopher Peter Singer refer to as "Effective Altruism".
What this movement tells us is that in addition to empathy with a specific cause, it is important to make sure that whatever we do to help the others really have a positive impact. How? Using reason and logic, knowing our possibilities and limitations when it comes to helping. Not all of us will be able to donate time, but we can contribute with our knowledge and if math doesn't fail us, constantly donate money to effective organizations that can generate social impact on a large scale. According to Peter Singer, anyone can practice effective altruism by using their intelligence, profession, and logic to change lives.
In summary, creating more altruistic societies requires a change of mentality where we educate new generations around the recognition and importance of the other and where we all also use our abilities to reason, understand and act for the good of society, always seeking to generate the greatest possible impact.
What is your opinion about it? What else does it depend on to build a more altruistic society? Share it in the comments!
Poem; I Screamed, "Love!"
Some say it intoxicates;
Many believe it is blind;
Few deduced it is an eye -opener!
Yeshuwa proclaims"it is greatest";
She screamed "what a prison yard!".
Why the rancour in your eyes?
How great is this commitment?
Why timorously in it?
Why the doubt?
She screamed " Falsity in disguise"
You call it trial; I call it definite,
You call it bondage, I call it liberation,
You call it counterfeit, I call it genuine,
You call it wicked, I call it kind,
I screamed "it is a medicine".
Medicine heals instabilities.
Medicine heals infirmities.
Medicine corrects abnormalities;
Only when it is right to the condition.
Ailments heal with the right medicine
but worsens with the wrong one.
I screamed " it's simply part of life".
Hence;
Love heals
Love kills
Love worsens
Love liberates
Love changes
He screamed " What a love!".
If worsened by Love,
why not take the right medicine.
If it has given you infinite reason to die,
why not try this time with God and right medicine to it.
I screamed "God, the one who anchors love affairs."
For Love is part of life
Unavoidably inevitable at one point or the other.
Intrinsically there for us to feel.
Believing and rightly living in it should be our option.
They screamed "it is hard to find true love".
True love is possible
There are right ones out there
Positioning yourself in the right position is paramount.
Right Choices are necessities.
I screamed " wisdom will direct you '.
True happiness is when you allow yourself to be controlled by genuine love for it is the most powerful medicine on earth.
I screamed"Love and be loved ".
I'm pained, I need a Saviour.
How are you my friends? I really want to know how you do? I want to know whether I'm the only one wearing this kind of shoe. It's actually painful, the shoes are painful and unbearable. Can anyone take this cup from me? I have God yes but I'm a human. I grow tired sometimes, sometimes I feel like giving up.
This beautiful heart is so heavy. This beautiful smile covers my ugly face. The air that suppose to be fresh suffocated me. The leg that suppose to walk now staggers, sighs is now my red color lipstick. My eyes are so dim. My neck and back bones aches due to constant sleepless night. I feel like I'm a victim of pain and failure.
Sometimes I'm scared to let my feelings and fears known. Sometimes i get scared of being judged, looked down on and told "I'm not suppose to feel this way" I'm afraid to open up because I will not be understood . Motivators would tell me I need to be powerful, focus and not distracted. They told me to keep moving that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I wasn't told that the tunnel may unending or too long. I wasn't told the tunnel is too long for the end to be seen. I wasn't told the thorns could be deeper than I think, I wasn't told at all. This is an outpouring of a human and woman who has a heart, flesh and blood.
The first person who I summoned courage to tell my ponders and wonders didn't let me say up to ten words and his reply was "there is light at the end of the tunnel".
My heart is heavy and I need my spirit to be uplifted. Who has been in this situation? Who else wears this similar shoes. How did you overcome it. I really don't want to be tired . I don't want to give up. I really don't like this feeling. I want to see this light. I need result.
Oh! Oh!! I have been thinking aloud , I didn't know, I'm sorry but this is how I feel at this moment. I wish someone out there will understand me. I really need help.
Thanks for reading my article.
I'm in deep thought!
Love and Marriage; our choices
Love is one beautiful thing everyone needs to experience. It is a process and an action between two people committed to be patient with themselves, selfless, kind, unconditional, friends, at peace, faithful, caring, attentive and always there for each other. I'm stressing this topic on love between partners and lovers.
Love shines like a morning star when it's genuine.
It glows like a perfect skin when it is selfless.
It radiates like a star when it's unconditional.
True love uplifts the spirit .
Your heart becomes a River of Joy when it sparks.
The earth becomes a priceless space you don't want to leave when you are truly loved.
True love keeps you younger
True lovers conquers even in worst challenges of the time .
True love brings peace of mind
Life span is extended when you are truly love and be loved.
Marriage Is a covenant, a decision and agreement between two matured people to be husband and wife. When it comes to marriage, choices are involved. We don't have that leverage or opportunity to choose our parents, country and family as we are born into it but we have opportunity to choose our partners and this choices can make you or break anyone.
Furthermore, the word choice is the ability to pick particular things or particular people out of many. The Ability to pick one thing or somebody out of many is something of decision. The quality and strength of ours marriages, love and experiences depends on our choices. Our choice is the reason why a lot of people never believed in the beautiful gifts of true love, while some enjoys the gift of love.
What do you look out for why choosing a lifetime partner? what are your qualifications? What are your yardsticks. How do we make choices of who and who not to be with? What are your standards?
Do you look out for societal standard in chosing who your forever is?
What of family standard? Are they your parameters for making choices?
What of peer standard ?
Nobody has manual to perfect marriage
it's a mistake to let your parents, society or peers enforce somebody on you or influence you. They can guide and direct but can't choose for you.
For a marriage filled with true love, that kind of love with that kind of feelings I mentioned at the beginning of this article, these are the things you need to know and look out for before making a choice. Remember nobody chooses for but you can be guided: There are questions that is necessary you ask and answer yourself before making your choice. It is a guide and they are:
1) Prayers: Pray to your creator for guidance, wisdom and direction. God knows everything He created. So pray about your intention to God in finding or being by true love .
2) Companionship and compatibility :
under this , look out for the following and ask yourselves this questions. Make sure you also answer the question, this will guide you in making the right choice;
a) Friendship : can you find friendship in what you have and share?
B) Supportive: how supportive are you to each other?
C) Caring: How do you treat and appreciate each other? Does he treat you well? Does she treat you well? Is he or she so self centered or selfless?
D) Communication: How well do you communicate. In marriage, good communication is the heart to every successful marriage. How many times do you talk in a day? Are you the kind of person that is scared to talk to your partner? Does he/ she always have your time?
E) Character/attitude: Are your dos and don't tolerable? Can you stand each others attitude? What is he or her temper like? Does he/ she get angry for too long. Is the lady abusive? Is the man abusive? If you watch closely, you will see it.
F)Connection/Spark ; As it is commonly said "butterfly in my belly". Does he or she makes your heart beat. Do you feel so excited when you see him or her. Do you miss each other at any absence?
G)LOVE; This is the most needed. Love is very important. It has to be mutual. One-sided love is toxic. However, if you fall in love with someone without asking yourself the questions above including your own yardstick , my dear, the love is highly expected to crash or fade away.
Love is a beautiful thing but many fail to behold that feeling and benefits of true love because of wrong choices. The outcome of true love is overwhelming. Let's be guided in our choices as it can affect your entire life negatively or positively.
I love you all.
Thanks for reading my article.
The Demise of Jasper, Zaza and General. (Part 0ne 1)
It is great to be here. I feel so relieved having to tell read.cash family this story that has Left pain in my heart.
Sometime Four years ago, 2019 to be precise, our area of residence had high rate of insecurities. House to house Arm robberies both morning, night and afternoon became order of day. We live in a two storey building with tenants. The policemen who knew my mother advised her to get an English dog, she agreed to get it but didn't buy any dog . During July of 2019, My younger brother by name Jesuspower but popularly known as JP who has always dreamt of owning smart dogs took a step forward, bought a male puppy named him Jasper. JP named that puppy Jasper because the name sounds similar to his name but Jasper didn't live up to three days, he died.
Unfortunately for JP, he became sad because he has built a beautiful secured dog's cage downstairs, then bought a movable cage that befits a puppy. His aim was to leave Jasper in our flat since we own the house, then when Jasper grows, he could take her downstairs to his already built cage.
During September 2019, JP came across a female puppy, loved her and bought the dog. JP named that puppy Jasper knowing fully well the second dog is a female. Jasper is a name known for male folks. JP couldn't bear to change that name.
Jasper is a Pure breed German shepherd. Black and yellow in colour. Jasper's first day in our flat was so interesting. Jasper stayed at one spot for complete two days. After two days, Jasper learnt following JP up and down. On third month in our house, JP took Jasper downstairs to his cage.
On the fourth month of Jasper December 2019, she could recognize the faces of every tenant living in our house. Meanwhile personally I dislike dogs, but Jasper is exceptional. Jasper could communicate with us, play with every person in that house. Jasper is too friendly and possessive of her territory. She understands every individual's body language in that house. For instance, I dislike dogs, but I love Jasper. Jasper understands that I dislike her coming close to me, touching me or having flesh to flesh contact with her. She knows what every individual wants and does not want. She recognizes people by their scent, face, voice and the way the walk. She is loved by all. At a point, I stopped seeing Jasper as a dog but human, because her level of effective communication is top notch. When JP tells Jasper "go to the cage", she goes immediately. You needed to see how Jasper plays football with our tenants. Every evening, every member buys her favorite while returning home. Jasper's warm welcome by wagging her tail, hopping and jubilating is something that relieves daily stress, Mehn! Jasper is a cool dog to people she grew with but hostile to strangers.
Jasper is a high security dog, very alert and sensitive. Our neighbors noticed we bought dog due to constant barking of Jasper especially at night. You cannot come close to our gate just to stand. She feels every movement outside the gate. Because of Jasper, strangers stopped coming to our house, arm robbery around our residence reduced drastically. This dog wakes neighbors at night because her barking is furious and scary. In a long run, Jasper's bark became an alarm that something is wrong. Neighbors do wake up to check if they are safe.
Another striking thing about Jasper is even without told, you will know she is a female dog. She likes crossing her hands whenever she lies down. She keeps her environment clean. She knows where to urinate and deficate. Jasper is highly trained dog. I developed so much love for Jasper and everything that concerns her.
I remembered vividly when my brother came back one time in the year2020, and said that someone priced this dog with a mouth watering amount but he turned him down saying that Jasper is like a daughter to him.
Exactly one year of Jasper March 2020, JP bought another dog male dog named him Zaza. Chiwawa is Zaza's specie, black in colour and so hairy. The puppy looked like a mouse. After Zaza's third month of staying in our flat, He was brought downstairs to stay with
month of staying in our flat, He was brought downstairs to stay with Jasper. Lo and behold, Jasper disliked zaza. They became arc enemies. Jasper always bully Zaza. Occasionally, we see wounds and bites on Zaza's body as a result of Jasper's jealousy.
In the other hand, Zaza is so good at picking things. Every rat in our compound was killed by Zaza. Zaza a stubborn dog and hates intimidation. As little as he is, she barks back at Jasper whenever Jasper challenges him. This continued until one faithful day JP disciplined Jasper for always being a bully. JP denied Jasper of anything bone or meat that day and gave them to Zaza.
Surprisingly, Zaza brought some of those meat and dropped it into Jasper's plate. From that day onward this German shepherd and chiwarwa became best of friends. We observed and noticed Zaza loves Jasper more that he does and micmics Jasper at all time.
To be continued....
Wait for the part 2 of "The Demise of Jasper, Zaza and General".
An instrument to eliminate genuises; Artificial Intelligence
My name is Joy and I must tell you this that in this our generation, we have rare or no genuises. According to Wikipedia definition, a genius is one who has characteristics of original and exceptional insight in the performance of some art or endeavor that surpasses expectations, sets new standard for future works, establishes better method of operation, or remain outside the capabilities of competitors. I would love to stress on these words "original", "exceptional", "insight", "surpasses expectations" and "future". These quoted words are striking to me. According to Albert Einstein, everybody is a genius which I totally disagree with him. He further said that if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree, it will live to believe in it's life that it is stupid.
A genius is not just intelligent person with high IQ. He is not someone who does expected things perfectly. He is a creator on things yet to know. A genius moves the future. A surpasses expectations. A genius remains outside the capabilities of competitors. His insight surpasses that of an Artificial intelligence (AI).
In my own words, I describe Artificial intelligence a technology designed by a genius to make things easier and faster for human. I call it an easy life technology that has rendered billions of potentials dependent, stagnant, uncreative and unproductive. This is one of the reasons why plagiarism is becoming alarming in this generation over the countries .
Why do we see a great potential displaying feature of a genius but as time goes and as he grows, it saddens to see this great spotted potential/ person equating his knowledge and abilities with that of AI. We don't call that a genius rather he is just intelligent with remarkable IQ. As long as your ability doesn't surpasses that of expected, you are just intelligent and not a genius.
If you go down history world genuises from ancient time to present time, you would agree with me that 95% genuises came from our older generation. I sat to think about what could be the major problem of this, after research and findings, I realized that AI is unknowingly but gradually exterminating supposed geniuses of our time. We the present generation rely on the inventions, creations, findings, products of our older generation geniuses. The few present geniuses or let me say highly intelligent people of our time only make what has been made from our older generation better and faster. They repackage their exceptional prowess but it is disheartening because the is at stake.
Yes, I won't deny the fact that AI is superb but it has done more harm than good because the future is at stake here. Majority of Youths have become lazy as AI is always there to sort out their stress, needs and wants.
AI has damaged the creativity capacity of many people in this generation. It has replaced human intelligence. AI is now a decision making technology for some and brain for many. It has killed the natural original brain in exchange to artificial brain or intelligence and this brings about limitations in many aspects of life.
AI supposed to be a helper and not a maker or creator. AI should be better because of human intelligence but most human faculty can't operate without AI and it is a big challenge to this generation. If care is not taken, in the future the impact will be negatively felt as we may have little or no genuises.
Amazingly, the world needs more genuises for better place to live. The society needs rare people that goes beyond expectations. Don't be fooled by the activities and intelligence of AI. We are to control it and not the other way round. We can make more striking exceptional AI, it shouldn't make us because it will instill limitations. Know this and know peace.
Have you thought about the effects? They are Powerful.
Any powerful thing has great influence on human beings either negatively or positively. Whatever name you give your dog, that it will answer. You reflect your environment, people around you, what you consistently see, perceive and hear. When you open your mouth to call your hand blessed consistently, the brain activates it into your unconscious and conscious mind hereby acting it intentionally or unintentionally causing the universe to bring forth what you have invoked for yourself " blessing" using just a word or few words . This is mystery. There is power in repetition ; there is power in what you call yourself and what somebody calls you especially repeatedly.
The word power has ability, capacity and capabilities in it. Words are not living things but they carry meaning and action. When you want to drink water, you request for a cup and it will be brought to you but when you want to drink water and requested for spoon, spoon will be brought to you but you can't use it to achieve the purpose you intended which is to drink water. This is what happens when you instill discipline in a child expecting good fruits but ended up producing bad fruits due to wrong words of discipline
I will tell you a true life story of an African mother who never joked with discipline but I'm sure she will soon be in deep regret for what is coming. Mrs Ekezie is a neighbor opposite our house. Every morning and night, Mrs Ekezie's voice is always heard by us and other neighbors. "David thunder will fire you if you don't finish that thing" "Aboy! vulture will carry you if I meet you there" " David onye nzuzu ka gi mma ( A stupid person is better than you)" " Aboy Devil will leak your tongue if I hear your voice again " This keeps going on and on. I have never for once heard Mrs Ekezie say something like " God bless you my child" or " Well done my child" .. Every morning before I go to work, I must hear Mrs Ekezie's voice and every evening, the same happens but derogatory words.
To this African mother, she is giving her two boys the ultimate discipline. She will be expecting the fruits that come with a well disciplined child but might be disappointed soon. These children are bullied and the bully anybody they think they are better than. Other children see them as faulty children and they end up calling them unpleasant names. Now the mother is in pain as she suspect Aboy and David skips classes due to bully, fear and intimidation as reported by the teacher after investigation. This resulted to them joining a group of touts as early as 11 and 13 years respectively. One hot afternoon, during my lunch, I bumped into this notorious group which I recognized David who suppose to be in class as tender as he is. As I looked further, I saw Aboy carrying luggage trying to meet up with them. I sighed deeply because I understood what was playing.
I was a victim also. When I was growing up, my mum use to call be "stubborn" at any slightest act of me trying to voice my opinion or choose things for myself. She always tells me " Joy you are stubborn". Guess what! I tell people myself that I'm stubborn, I have grown with that title, in fact I act it more and more and she keeps saying it even as I'm a grown up. I try to prove that title "stubborn" at any given event until I meant who I call "mentor "
I know some of you have one or two experiences of people you hold so dear to your heart consistently crowning you negative titles you have unintentionally embraced even with the damages. Derogatory words affects any given child especially when it is on the regular.
Dear folks, instead of you to use words to destroy somebody especially innocent children who still need guardian, use it to build them. Children are gifts, they are the present and future. They effect of constant abuse with words on a child in the name of discipline is totally unacceptable. There is power in spoken words . You can never call your dog Bingo from when it is a puppy to a full grown dog and it starts answering Zaza during adulthood. Whatever you call your dog that is what it answers and whatever it answers, it's your creation. WORDS CREATE A BEING. This kind of creation has a power that designs the human beings' perception of life either positively or negatively.
Have you thought of the effects of regular wrong choice of words on a child?
1. It brings about low self esteem
2. It turns some of them into bullies
3. It produces bad character in a child
4. It can lead them into bad association
5. Some of these children are easily intimidated
6. Many of them loose their confidence in whatever they do
7. Some children develop hatred in them that is seen in anything they do.
8. You deny them a future brighter than what they are having now
9. Most of them turn out to be so abusive and disrespectful
10. They loose that confidence to confide in you even if it involves life and death.
Be careful not to destroy the bright future of a child using inappropriate words.
Billionaires' course: A must read
This billionaires' course is all about right timing, right information, early information, right strategy, right link and right application. It is an equal opportunity course depending on how one utilizes it's information. This course can make you billions and the billionaires made from this course are not leaving it because it's a game changer and destiny transformer.This billionaires' course is what I call CRYPTOCURRENCY
The alternative payment method known as cryptocurrency was developed utilizing encryption methods. It can act as a virtual accounting system due to the usage of encryption technology. It doesn't rely on bank verification or bank transactions. It is a peer to peer system that can enable anyone send and receive money anywhere no matter the location. There are numerous names for cryptocurrencies like Bitcoin, Ethereum, Ripple, Litecoin and so on..
WHY CRYPTOCURRENCY IS A BILLIONAIRES' COURSE.
Toward a digital eco-system, the world economy must inevitably move. All financial transactions, including investments, are becoming paperless. In the field of digital payments, cryptocurrencies are the newest and most exciting innovation. Digital currency has gained popularity among the general population over the past few years.
The history of cryptocurrency provides important insight into their potential role in the financial future. The conventional financial systems that currently depend on a reliable third party to examine, verify, and approve transactions could be overthrown by blockchain technology. As the technology advanced, more industries are coming to understand and accept cryptocurrencies as a workable financial system. Future financial systems may replace traditional ones with cryptocurrency.
The reason why I mentioned cryptocurrency a billionaire course is this, contrary to fiat money , majority of cryptocurrency have a finite supply that is limited by mathematical procedures. The need for dependable, long term store of value is another typical justification for investing in cryptocurrency
The striking feature of this is its instant settlement. The value and worthwhile of cryptocurrency can be attributed to Blockchain. The popularity of cryptocurrency can be attributed to their usability and accessibility. All you need is a smart phone and good internet connection to be your own bank operator. More than two billion people who do not have the right to use traditional or local exchange systems have access to the internet.
Furthermore, while acquiring deeply this billionaires' course, if you want to be a king and queen in this crypto space, you should never neglect these three things I will be listing below.
INFORMATION
APPLICATION
SECURITY
Information is a gateway to success. Like it is popularly said, if you are not informed, you will be deformed. In this space. There may be just one information you will get that can positively disrupt your lifestyle/ destiny without putting your current lifestyle at risk. Another means of information that pave way to a wealthy lifestyle is an early information you get. Getting information early puts you at more benefits and gains. Do not get information from wrong sources. Wrong information can jeopardize your portfolio.
Also, every right information you get has to be applied. Getting information without application keeps your portfolio not growing. Engage well in this space and thank me later.
The last but not the least, security is paramount. Cryptocurrency is secured but you have to secure your investments by securing your cryptocurrency wallets..As you go deep in this course, learn how to secure your crypto holdings.
See you at the top.
Social Media ; The True Democratic Space.
When I was in Secondary school, I will never forget the definition of Democracy taught by Sir Casmir Ani. He said "Democracy is a government of the people, by the people and for the people" as defined by Abraham Lincoln. As I grow, I realized that definition missed a word that should be fixed there in order to be more realistic. The realistic democracy is a government of influencial people by the influencial people and for influencial people. The three arms of government live for influencers. In fact, democracy that suppose to be a weapon against corrupt officials is now a tool against the people.
I lost hope and faith in democracy because that was an avenue for poor masses to exercise their rights as citizens. Most corrupt officials and corrupt wealthy men pay little or no attention to injustices, corruptions and negligence to serve the country and people . Everyday is a new story of oppression, maltreatment, poverty, injustice, flood, theft, and so on. I rarely see an official or top influencers loose case to an average or less influencial person even when is clearly seen that he is at fault.....
Hello! I want to sing to your ears now that the system of justice is back. There is no democratic space by the government for people like us but there is one on social media platforms. Yes I have seen justice served many times on social media. I have seen families uplifted from poverty to wealth by a mere citizen, I have seen scholarships given by ordinary wealthy people, I have seen a case won against high personalities through social media. I have seen an online petition written and served online in one voice that was granted.
Social media is a powerful democratic space. Many who go free of their wicked act are so scared to be revealed through social media platforms. There is a story that is across Facebook, Twitter, YouTube etc about a lecturer and his family members who joined hands to beat up one person who happen to be an orphan, striped her naked, took her to a bush, took video of her in her nakedness before his family members all because the orphan fought with his daughter who secretly took the orphan's boyfriend's number to flirt with him. When the video of the orphan was released, it went viral online... dehumanizing a girl who is old enough to be the lecturer's daughter, stripping her naked , a girl of 20 years is so inhumane. When the online judges/masses joined their voices in one accord, the lecturer and his family members got arrested in space of two days....that is democracy. That influencial lecturer saw that that little girl doesn't have a say, he felt he could take laws into his hands to the extent of stripping her naked. The story and outcome may not be the same if he wasn't exposed online. The lecturer might have bought his way out of that inhumane crime.
Social Media is a true space for democracy. Social media has given billions of people jobs/ opportunities/ skills a country/ government rarely provide.
Take a look at how floods are killing people, destroying their properties and physical investments. Some areas are neglected even when it is federal responsibilities....some of these flood victims have been helped through social media. Government don't have any option but to visit and settle some of these people and rebuild their areas because their negligence have been exposed through social media. in order to prevent damage to their personalities for their future ambition, they intervene with immediate effect.
Social media is my weapon against undemocratic government and actions. Never you joke with that because it is a powerful tool. So, democracy still exist but mainly on social Media.
I am Joy. I'm new here, and this is my first article I hope I'm welcomed. I'm equally glad to part of you.
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