Your Child is NOT Your Investment

01102022

If you decided to have kids so that there will be someone who will take you out of poverty and will look up to you when you grow old, then you better not have kids. A child is not an investment; rather, it is a responsibility that you yourself created. And that you, as a parent, are obligated to provide for the child's needs and support until they are able to provide on their own.

But...

What would you do if one of your children or children suddenly stated that they did not wish to be born? And that they didn’t ask any of these. It’s painful right, hearing your own child spitting those words in front of you. But if we think of those phrases fully, they are actually right. Those kids didn’t ask to be born, as no one told you, parents, to make love and go make babies. And telling your children that they should be thankful for everything you've given them and that they exist because of you is a bad idea.

One of the most common conflicts and arguments between parents and children is the responsibility of being a child and a parent. In fact, it is always the parent’s responsibility to provide support for their family. The parents are committed to giving full responsibility to their children. We are all aware that there are these kinds of parents out there who use their children to take them out of poverty to the point that they’re pressuring their children physically and mentally without knowing that their child is already physically and mentally drained. But the sad thing is that most of them don’t actually mind their children’s sacrifices, for as long as it benefits them, then they are good.

The sad thing is that most of the family’s breadwinners could not even complain about everything because they must respect their parents and also the "Utang Naloob" that they always keep in mind. That they should give back to what their parents have sacrificed for them and that it’s time for the child to reciprocate those. They feel like they’re obliged to do so, to the point that they feel like they are being chained forever by their parents. And if they couldn't give their parents what they wanted, they'd start calling their child names and anything else.

It sickens me every time I hear or see a parent tell their children that they are the ones who feed them, shower them, provide them with warm clothes, and a place to live and that they should return be responsible for giving back to their parents.

I have read an article on the other blogging platform in relation to this topic. She was disowned by her family just because she decided to no longer support the financial needs of her sister's lavish lifestyle. That made her mother furious about her decision, and then her mother called her hurtful words just because of her decision. She was the one who provided everything for her family because she was the oldest and was responsible for providing everything for their family.

She just could no longer support her sister because she was also the one paying her sister’s debt and giving her allowance, but her sister just ended up using that money on shopping and clubs. While she, on the other hand, was the one making all the sacrifices just to be able to provide for her family.

It’s just so unfair...

Remember, your children are not your investments, and they are not obliged to provide whatever you want. They can live and have their own lives because not every time they are there for you. There will always be a time when you will go your separate ways and your children will have their own families to look up to. Your responsibility as a parent is to guide your children to grow into responsible people and parents in the near future and not the other way around.

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