1st off all, I am gonna say why I mentioned REDUCE up there. I don't believe in this modern world, these problems can be solved totally. But it can be reduced. But it's only if not only one system but multiple systems are changed in our family, society, country. So let's start ⬇⬇⬇
Rape
I think everyone knows what RAPE is, still in short, RAPE is sexual assult involving sexual intercourse and penetration of oral,vaginal and anal organ against the persons will. Woman are the most(99) sufferer but sometimes boys suffer too.
Now, many of you have seen a many Bangadeshi people posting on Rape in Read Cash. Rape is very very acute in Bangladesh. The first news I heard today>>> A 11 year old kid found in an appartment in Capital after she was raped for four days🙂🙂.
Let me give a a short review on the rape situation in Bangladesh.
From this January to August
889 Female have been gang raped and 41 were killed after the rape. On average 111 female is raped in every month which makes more than 3 female in a day, in this covid situation. Now think where could this be if there was no Covid🙂🙂.
I am not surprised. I heared 3 news of rape in past two days. One today, two yesterday.
The big report is even worse. From 2014-2019, 20835 female have been raped and that makes 13 female everyday. And here is the surprise, rape is acute here for past two year. Before it was that much. Now think what's the condition now🙂🙂.
Possible Reasons Of Rape
This para is going to be contraversal. I am wrinting it with my own perception. So I can be write or wrong too. I think therse are the main reason for rape
Girl's dressup
Dirty mind of man
Lack of cordination between child and family member
Lack of system(Woman safety) in society and country
Don't get hyper as I added about girl's dress up, here me out please.
1. Girl's dressup can trigger a man's mind
When I discuss about this topic with a girl in our country, the 1st question I face is >> "Why a girl of 11 was raped then?? Did she dress up was apealing?? " and also "Women in other counties roam wearing bikini, they have no problems with the adjustment. Why you think that?"
I just mentioned, there are lots of reasons and I think this is one of the reason. And without thinking I don't use any comment.
In countries like ours, girls always remain conservative and that's how a boys mind grow. But when the tradition starts to change, it influences the boys mind and the hormon is disbalanced. I am being honest. Here, when sometimes a girl upload hot photo exposing her figure, if one boy see that, they start sharing it to other members of the circle and then dirty talk about the girl. I am not gonna say it's the fault of that girl totally. But it's our tradition. Think of the past when there were no cloths. Would a person feel arouse when he/she saw opposite gender in naked?? That was natural for them. But it's not in our country. Girl roming in bikini is very common in modern countries and that's natural for them. They are adopted like that way. But in counties like our's, we are not habituate to these. So simply it becomes a talk and the girl get's attention to people which can lead to rape too. That's why I am also saying dressing has relation with rape but here boy and man is equally guilty too. Obviously guilty.
2. Dirty Mind Of A Boy
The reasons I have mentioned, all are correlated but this is the main reason behind all of this. I am a boy too. If I can restain myself from giving attemtion to those photos, why can't they?? There are only a very small portion of boys and who can't control them selfselves. And I am being totaly honest. Why boys and man rape a child?? I don't know actually. I have no answer for those. Only think I come up that, they are sexually frastrated and only the fear of law can change them. Look at the number of child raped in recent few years in Bangladesh.
So, a boy's dirty mind is obviously one of the main reasons of it.
3. Lack of Coordination with family member
During teenage, a girl suffers a lot of sexual harassment. @Hanzell uploaded a post today. She was harassed by his uncle. This is the result. A teenage girl is mostly harassed by realatives, teacher, workers at home, owner where she work(main or part time) and even doctors. You have to understand, a teenage girl is not that strong to protest. Only thing she can do is to depend on a guardian. But if the parent childen relationship is not that strong, it's almost impossible for here to ahare with someone. Family has a big role it. A teenage girl not only face sexual harassment but also faces eve-teasing. Sexual harassment is too much for them. In our country, to be honest, parents are not aware of this. Most time, if the girl find courage to tell she is been harassed by some boys in area, parents tell to ignore them. Not only that, teen age girls fears if they restain her from going out. So they can't tell. So either way they has to suffer and can't tell parents or big brother because of embarassment and fear. They also fear how to say she is touched by her own uncle. They don't notice the weird behave of the girl and ignore this. This harassment can later turn out to rape and also their child can be killed.
4. Lack of System In Society and Country
Sometimes I think, this is the main reason of rape. Actually boy's and man'sind is not the main reason. This is the main reason behind the rape. I have some points. But there are more. I am going to put the ones iny head now.
Boys roam in society at late night in society but nobody scolds or take action against them. No rule that you can't hang out in groups after 9 pm or 10pm.
Any kind of self defence method are not compusary in schools. No karate/judo class for girls so that they can learn how to defence in danger.
No female bus service. I think it's necessary as lot's of girls are harassed and raped in the crowd of bus. So I think it's a valid lackings.
No exact law about the punishment of rapist. There is no punishment which brings fear into a rapist's mind.
Lacking of CCTV camera on roads specially with night vision.
Lack of female doctors.
No government project for the protection of autistic people and the homeless people living on the road.
I think those are killed after the rape🙂🙂 are the lucky among these girl. Our society accpet is a girl get into a reationship and have intercourse with someone. She is accepted🙂. And also if the relationship is broken, she get to marry another guy and live with dignity. But if a girl is raped, situation is almost same, one get raped willingly amd another against will, she is not accepted in the society. People starts looking at her differently and this causes her mental depression and in the end some end their life by comiting suicide🙂🙂.
So this problems should be solved totally. Actually when I discussed about those reasons, the solve are there too. Still I am going to highlight again.
Steps That Can Reduce This Problem
I am not gonna discuss about the last two as I think these will automatically cure the first two. And add one more step too.
1. Responsibilies of Family and More coordination Between Child and Parents
Here I have added responsibilities. A family has lot's of responsibities for their child. I know people no gonna like this, but a family should not let relatives have more contact with their child. Specially leave their child alone with some relative for a long time. I am totally against it. Sometimes people send their child to relatives home for study purpose and the child end up getting physically abused. Their mask is very very touch to reveal. I also don't like any relative taking care of child. Like @Hanzell many become physically abused. Sometimes it's hard to maintain and you end you giving their responsibily on someone. Then families should a good relationship with child, telling them about these complications from the beginning. Become very free and always give them courage. They should tell them to imediately confirm them and they will take action. Noting to fear and be ashmed. They have to make sure she won't be restained into home and actions will be taken. They should put into the children's mind that her parent believe her and will protect her. Also if anything heard from the children, they should take proper action in front of them. Rhen they will get courage. As schools doesn't teach about self defence, child should be sent to karate school to learn self defence. At least in will be handy during emergency. Recently I have read a news that, a gir escaped a rapist and saved her life as she knew karate and somehow escaped the odd situation.
A family should also teach their child moral values. Always tell about the harmful effect on these. These will solve the problem with their mind. Family should keep the details of their girls or boys, with whom they rhang out and keep the track. If they find something, they should punish and correct them. Make them understand. I think this will help a lot.
2. Proper Rules of The Society and Country
Like I told the problems, there should be solution to those.
Have to put rules so that none can hang out in groups and adults and parents have to careful so that their child ar home soon. Their should be guards so that they have looks on the roads and make sure no evegteasing is occuring. If there is any eve-teasing, the society should come forward and punish them insuch way that they will remember it lifetime
Every school should start a course on self defence for girl. Also special semiars should be arranged to give them courage to proteat against any physical harassment. Not only that, moral values should be taught to cure the mind of both boys and girls.
Crowd on bus is a very big problem. I think to solve this, female bus service is needed. And also in common service female seats should be separated. When a girl sits beside a stranger man, she is always worried and also harassed sometimes from the behind and also person standing next to her. Also if there are few girls, she feels insecure. So I think every local bus company should separate some buses for woman only so and put a femal conductor in charge also.
More CCTV camera with night vison system should e put in the most silent and dangerous spots of the road.
I know it's tough but not impossible, and happens very rare but their should be female gynecologist for those type of treatment for the woman.
Government should take some resposibilities of street people. I have heard a story, a mentally imbalanced woman who lived at road became pregnent🙂🙂. What a heinous creature we are. The headline in bangla was lie that "Pagli tao Ma hoyeche, baba hoyni kew" which means "The mentally imbalaced woman has become mother, but no one has become father". So I think government should take proper care of these type of autistic people living on the road.
Punishment of Rapist
I think there should be that kind of punishment for the rapist that none get courage to rape. If you ask me what I want, I want to Neuter the rapist( Taking out his testicles) and burn the dick so that that person can't even masterbate for the rest of his life. If then put him to jail. The balls should be shown publicly and the dick should be burnt live. That's what I want as a pusnishment😑😑😑.
But sad is, here they don't get much punishment. But I think more and more punishments a and laws should to be made so that none ever get courage to rape anyone.
Raise Voice Against It
Actually, I am adding this as a formality. Raising voice actually doesn't effect any if the things I mentioned up are not implemented. We Bangladeshi raised a lot of voice, lots of movement amd processions are made. But no effect. But still we shouldn't stop. Have to talk against it over and over and then people will have alays know how much we hate it and that can be helpful to reduce the problem.
Finally MY Special
It's a bit odd. But still I don't care how much criticism I would get. Still I would take this step. There are lot's of protitues in every country. I would make a legal Prostitute workplace in every district and would pay them. I would make it for sexually frastrated people so but so that at least they don't rape the innocent people, innocent child who dreams to have a healty life. This idea is very very logical to me.
So this ends my article. I know It's big but I couldn't stop myself. May be there are many more points in my head but I can't remember them. I don't hope people to read it fully but at least get some idea from it please.
Thanks a lot for your attention.
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