Put Youself In Other's Shoe Before Ending Things

Last time where I shared an article where I showed how much we can change if we put our self in their condition. This is also same, but rather a bit different article. I told I would write a sequential article after the last one. And, about this one, I don’t think there is not a single people who hasn’t face this kind of situations. And most likely people also have lost something very precious to them. And if you are in a relationship, this article will surely be relatable. So, let’s get started with a picture. I believe many of us will already get what the article is about after having a little glimpse on the picture.

Like I said, we may have seen this picture a lot or may have not. The explanation of the picture is very as that.

The boy and the girl is in big trouble. The girl is falling from the cliff; the boy is trying to pull the girl up. But the boy is already crushed by a rock and is in deep pain. Whereas the girl is shouting at the boy as she is also very afraid. Additionally, there is a snake approaching the girl and making the scenario worse.

Here, the girl is thinking that a boy should be strong and it should be easy for him to pull her up. Why isn’t the boy trying a bit harder? Also the snake is approaching her. It would bite her if she tried to get close to the cliff. She didn’t know that the boy is in immense pain and he was trying his best but that’s the all he could at his condition. In that moment, the girl was totally blaming the boy and though he purposely not helping her and make the situation normal.

On the other side, the boy is thinking reversely. He is thinking that there are so many edge and the girl can easily use them and support the boy to pull her up. But she is not even trying and putting all pressure to the boy alone. He is feeling a lot of pain and slowly losing blood and consciousness. But he didn’t know there is a snake near the edge and if the girl tried to get near the edges, she would get bitten. So, the boy is thinking the girl was leaving everything upon him and not helping at all.

So yes, it’s also related to the previous article as they are in their own problem and not thinking if there is a possibility that the opposite person might be in trouble. Because, they are only focused on their own. But if they wore each other’s shoe there, they could easily understand the problems and limitations of other side.

And this kind of problem generally takes us something precious from our life. Why so? When do you become heartbroken? Because we have high hopes from them. And when it is not met, disbelieve, dissatisfaction start to dominate our brain causing problems and separation.

Like I said earlier, I have also faced this kind of problems. But sometimes things get so complicated that, the both side has nothing to do. I mentioned earlier that my college life was miserable and I used to get out around 5.30am and return home at late. Around 7-8 pm. Sometimes 9-10pm also. I had a close friend. Perhaps best friend. And true, we had some chemistry then. The when we entered college, it was very hard for me to give her some time. I mean on Facebook because we never even talked in outside life. I was young, stressed because of those long journeys daily and obviously non-notredamians can’t understand or feel the pressure of what we felt through. I had cried once or twice because that pressure was too much immense for me and I am not that kind of person who takes a lot of pressure. I enjoy and do good when I am leading a simple life. So, my life was already miserable then. Yet, we chatted, not like before, but chatted. But in a world, I can say that I didn’t give her any time. And maybe she also had some kind of pressure then. I didn’t even try to know and I completely regret that but I was also young then to understand this kind of mutualism. So, in the end what happened that her heart changed and the weight of the friendship became lighter and lighter and eventually I broke it for the sake of our own good. Easily explained but the situation was hard. Otherwise, I wouldn’t even imagine to break my most precious friendship in life. (Nothing between us, there was a feeling it eventually it faded during college days, so don’t get wrong idea there).

This is common. Too much common. We learn from mistakes and when we were teen, we were not even matured enough. But people are also facing it in later age. Separation, breakups, divorce, disbelieve are very common in people. In most cases, they are reasonable. We live in such era. But sometime, may be rarely this kind of misunderstanding ruined perfect moments in life.

So, don’t judge people quickly. At least listen what they have to say. May be they are trying their best but because of some limitations, that’s the best they can do or afford. It’s human nature to create misunderstandings and we need to fight with them if we want something precious. That’s all I have say here.

Thanks for reading. Hope we all can overcome these kind of moments. Specially me who is really really short temper. But in that case, I did suffer yet tried my best. But some things are not meant for you. And we have to except and go ahead. Best of luck