Shooting Nails Behind Your Ex.

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Is it necessary to announce the flaws of your exes to the crowd just to inform everybody how he/she is when you're in a relationship? When you're relationship with someone is done already, what are you gonna do afterwards? Will you throw stones at him or her just to let out the pain in your heart caused by some problems? I hope you haven't done anything like that friends because a decent human will never do harm to his/her fellow especially to someone she/he once loved and considered to be his lifetime partner.

I had a friend back then, a girl and a boy and they're in a relationship for 4 years. Our bond to each other was strong and we stand in each others side if a probem arise. One day afternoon a problem arised and it caused for them to broke up. I'm sad for both of them but that's the will of destiny so we can't do anything about it. It's not easy for both of them especially to the girl. She's so close to me and her pain doubled when his ex boyfriend done something very unnecessary to her.

When she finally moved on after many years and finally found someone she can love again, here comes the ugly part of her life which brought a heavy impact on it's mental state.

It was a monday morning back then when we went to town together with her new boyfriend to buy some ingredients for their monthsary. While walking through the crowd in the market,we passed by a group of boys sitting by the stairs then suddenly one of them shouted "Pre, siya girlfriend mo? Pinagsawaan ko na iyan eh. Ako nakauna jan. Nabuntis pa nga eh pinalaglag lang."(Bro, she's your girlfriend? I'm done with her already. I got her virginity first. She got pregnant but aborted it."

His companions laughed very hard but my friend was already crying and her boyfriend wants to punch the guy. I'm calming his boyfriend and just let it slide for the mean time. A lot of people heard it so we didn't continue to buy ingredients anymore and decided to go home already. I'm about to explode that time but I don't want to make a commotion.

We went directly to their house because she couldn't stop crying and she's cursing her ex boyfriend. Her father asked me why she's like that so I told him what happened. Her father wants to raid the house where her ex live but together with her current boyfriend we said no and said that we focus on her girlfriend instead.

We slept in their house for one night. We are in the same room. With his boyfriend, we slept on the floor while she's in bed. We can't sleep because we can still hear her sobbing and can't forget what happened in the market. She didn't eat that night so we were worried.

I can't bear to listen to her sobbing so I asked his boyfriend that we comfort her for the mean time. We sat beside her and talked and talked about anything else just to divert her attention from what happened.

Then we discussed something about virginity and I will never forget what his boyfriend said that time that made my friend to be herself again. He said to my friend that her virginity is not the basis for him to love her. It doesn't matter what her past with that guy. What's important is that he knows within his heart that she's the one for himself.

I agree to him and said some advices also. Then we moved to other topic again and we made her laugh at last. We slept that night knowing that my friend is not in danger anymore.

After I heard the answer of her boyfriend, I can assure that she's with the right person that time and that became true. They are together for 8 years already and they are planning their wedding by this December. I'm happy for them because they don't give in when that problem arised in front of them.


Author's note

Friends out there especially the guys like me, please don't ever do that to your ex girlfriends because you can lead them to the door of depression or worst to the door of death. Please be responsible enought to respect what happened between you in the past. Keep it with yourself and don't brag about it to their current boyfriends.

A reminder also to my fellow men out there or to everybody, love a girl not because she's a virgin but because you see in her the woman who is going to be your future wife and future mother of your children. Don't base your love to someone with their physical appearance also but base it from what is hidden inside them because that who they really are.

Thank you for reading upto this far friends. Month of february is ending already and I'm hoping to see you again next month. See yah.

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Grabe din naman ang mga ganyan lods, mga walang utang na loob, ang mga ganyan din kadalasan dipa naka move on. Hehe dapat naman talaga kung ano yung nangyari, sa inyo lang talagang dalawa yun.

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2 years ago

Parang di nga po minahal kaibigan ko huhu..parang ano lang ..pampalipas ganun..kung diko lang kaibigan yung lalaki na yun dati baka nasuntok ko..

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2 years ago

May mga tao talaga na ganyan lods, yung tipong feeling ang gwapo na dahil may maipagyayabang na naging syota nya na parang fubu lang dating sa kanya.

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2 years ago

Kumulo yung dugo ko sa ex nya ah. Napka bastos. Grabe yung mga ganyan tao nu? Naatim nilang siraan yung mga taong minsan nilang minahal. Grabe naman. Pero buti nlang at andyan kayu, lalo na yung boyfriend niya. Sobrnag blessed nya to have a bofriend like him.

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2 years ago

Buti nalang talaga close ko siya at nagabayan kahit papano...at yung boyfriend niya din ..kakilala ko din kaya swerte niya sa tamang tao na siya napunta..

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2 years ago

I don't know what to say pero nang gigigil ako doon sa walang b-yag na lalaki na un. Siguro panget un? 🤧j ganyan na ganyan nga negtpa sa kanto eh. Di sa pambibully pero deserved niya yon. Dipa siguro naka get over sa kaibigan mong babae HAHAHA

Btw. Buti nalang nga talaga at may lalaking katulad niya . I mean yung bagong bf ng kaibigan mo. Buti nag break na sila nung gagi na yung at mas deserved pa nga nya iyan kesa don sa isa.

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2 years ago

Haha hindi naman sa pangit siya ..pala away kasi .. Ilang years din di nakamove on yun ..pero safe na siya now sa partner niya..

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2 years ago

Definitely past is past. Anything happens for good. Lucky she got this supportive guy.

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2 years ago

Yeah friend..she's in good hands now.. I know she's happy that she can settle for the right man..

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2 years ago

Eto yung hate ko sa mga mag bbreak yung labasan ngbkasiraan sa buhay I mean even though you broke up to your lover why not just keep your mouth shut to things that is not for sharing kahit papano pinagkatiwalaan ka ng lover mo kahit na niloko ka pa nya or what so ever yet naku makakatikim talaga yan ng suntok kalimot kapag ganyan asta haha.

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2 years ago

Nagpigil po talaga ako non ..pero yung boyfriend niya ngayon is parang galit padin sa lalaking yon..Sabi ko naman sa kaniya na karma nalang bahala..

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2 years ago

Hearing such words mula sa mga taong minsang nating pinahalagaan is so traumatic, ang swerte nyapara magkaroon ng boyfriend at ng kaibigan ngayon na kagaya mo na fll support sa kanya at yun ang mahalaga. Just block negative people in our life it helps a lot para maging at ease yung peace natin, may time din na sya nag makakaranas ng ganoon kahirap na sitwasyon.

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2 years ago

At yun ang masakit na yung minsan mo pinagkatiwalaan at minahal ay siyang sisira sayo kinalaunan.. Totoo po iyan .just block them and keep them away from our life..

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2 years ago

Having few of friends that always got your back are much more better than having a lover na sobrang toxic naman pala ng totoong kulay, grabe yung lalaking yun

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2 years ago

totoo iyan mas ok maging single with your friends na maganda kabonding ..

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2 years ago

Grabe naman ung lalaking yun daig pa ang manok kung tumilaok😤

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2 years ago

Oo nga po eh..tumitilaok pa ng wala sa lugar...

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2 years ago

Minsan tlga ang lalaki mas tsismoso pa sa babae

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2 years ago

Masyado naman, okay lang na ikwento yung mg abadsides while nasa relationship sila pero yung sabihin talaga ya. Nakakawala na ng respeto bilang babae yan

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2 years ago

Ibang usapan na talaga pag ipagsigawan sa madla na may nangyari sa inyo ng ex girlfriend mo which is private dapat.. Others make fun of it..nakakabadtrip.

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2 years ago

True Jher. We should respect our exes. It doesn't mean that it's your ex already you have a right to embarrass her especially in the public places. It's a foul words already. It's disrespectful. There are a lot of people like that Jher. I don't know what's in their mind. Sounds childish. I hate people like that. Respect everyone.

I'm really happy to your friend Jher. She met already the right person.

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2 years ago

People like that seems just want some attention ...I also don't like them that's why I cut the ties between me and that irresponsible guy.. Below the belt remarks are just not so cool..

Yes po ..binabalak nga nila akong abay .. sabi ko naman tagabantay nalang ako ng mga pagkain..

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2 years ago

Yes Jher. So shameful. He make a reason that people criticize him because of what he done.

Hahaha wag naman Jher. Ba't naman pagkain. 😅

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2 years ago

Opo ..also karma hit him already ..hindi na nagkajowa mula noon kasi natakot na baka pag nagbreak sila eh maulit..

haha...sa ilokano po kasi sabi nila abay kaldero

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2 years ago

Ganun ba jher. Ang karma andyan lang talaga palagi.

Haha so taga Ilocos ka pala jher.

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2 years ago

Nueva vizcaya po hehe..

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2 years ago

Taga andyan ka pala jher.

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2 years ago

That's the curse of being too open tsk. I am not also innocent when it comes to that issues. I often heard that familiar action when I was with some lads, they were talking about the girl's weak point and even joyfully stating what happened and how the women reacts. Well, some men called it supremacy that they were the first shot, not realizing the last was the winner lol, that man deserved some opak brother...

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2 years ago

Aww...it's worst that they even talked how they react.. They're just digging their own graves having that kind of mindset about supremacy .. Oo nga po sarap landingan ng isang malutong na kamao...Diko lang alam kung ano ginawa nung kuya nung barkada ko kasi member ng Frat eh..huhu.

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2 years ago